Should I Tell Her She Was My First?

[Lord Byron]

Hey everyone!

I recently began a relationship with a fantastic girl I met through cold approach, which, by the way, I couldn't have done without this brilliant website Chase has created, and being inspired by many of you guys here on the boards. Though I haven't posted much, this place truly has changed my life with regards to how far I've come - from being a nervous social wreck, to a socially confident guy. I still have enormous amounts of work to do to get to where I want to be, but that will happen in due time.

So, I met this girl back at the beginning of December, and we just recently decided to start a relationship. She checks off many of the boxes I'd want in a relationship - beautiful, socially adept, hard-working, intelligent. Just a lot of good traits. But as fantastic as she is, I know that as this is my first relationship, there's a good chance that it may not last a very long time. It may, but may not, and I'm okay with that, seeing as my main objective with it is to gain some relationship experience.

Here's what I'm struggling with: premature ejaculation. I think. We've been sexual in bed plenty of times - lots of touching, kissing, fondling, massages, oral sex given and received. LOTS of all that. I just want to savor every ounce of her and she LOVES it. She cums plenty of times each session and claims to be very satisfied with me, saying I'm amazing. But we've only had penetrative sex a few times (6-7), and each time I've nutted within a few seconds, or have just laid on top of her with my penis inside her, because the sensation is too strong. And we haven't really talked about it happening.

Is this premature ejaculation - where even just resting inside of her is so stimulating on my member that I can't hold it in, even when using the methods outlined in the article on lasting longer? Or is this something else?

I think part of the reason for not pushing for penetrative sex is that I'm hesitant to engage in it because I'm fearful of cumming too quickly, before I can make her cum. And even though she says I'm satisfying her, and I don't doubt that on some levels I am, I really want to be giving her deep and powerful orgasms through penetrative sex.

So, how would you guys recommend I go about this situation? Along with this being my first relationship, she's the first person I've had (albeit short lived) penetrative sex with. Perhaps my member is just not used to the wonderful, yet extreme, sensation of being inside of a woman? Also, would you guys suggest that this is something I discuss with her - the wanting to last longer but not being able to, and the fact that she was my first? She still views me as fairly strong and sexy, but will telling her that she's my first damage my reputation as being strong and sexy?

I would really appreciate some help on this one guys - both how to last longer and how to approach the subject with my girlfriend in the meantime.

Thanks again for all the inspiration and help you guys have given me on this journey, directly or indirectly!

 

[Lord Byron]

Thanks Radeng!

I implemented your advice and we're still going strong, and the sex has only gotten better since!

Still though, I'm finding that even after all this time, I'm still busting within a few strokes on the first round... and while my girlfriend has been incredibly patient and willing to wait for me to recuperate before round two, where I make her cum several times, I can tell she's starting to get frustrated that this is still occurring even after 9 months of sleeping together several times a week.

The weird thing is, I'm not thinking about cumming or not cumming when I enter her - I'm totally present. But the moment I enter her warm, wet pussy, my dick just loses control and busts within a few strokes.

Do you have any recommendations for other potential fixes to busting too soon? Or if there's something physically off rather than mentally?

Appreciate your advice dude!

 

[Ezio]

Hello, guys!

I cannot understand why a man should worry about cumming early, since we are not limited to only one orgasm and thus why should a girl get upset about that.

I understand that it would be a problem if you cum and then stop having sex, because she wouldn't get to orgasm, but if you keep going...?!

I am a virgin so I cannot figure it out why that would be a problem. What problems does that cause?

In my observation, recuperating is quick, wouldn't take me more than 20 seconds or maximum 1 minute and I could still fuck the girl with the cum inside. I think I wouldn't even need to pull my dick out. Then, while she gets to cum seconds later, why would she complain?

Could you enlighten me on this?

Best orgasms,

-Ezio.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Hey Lord Byron,

This is actually a good problem, since it means your balls are functioning at a high capacity. The more semen you have stored in your balls the faster you will cum. This is why you last longer in the second round and will find it very difficult to blow you wad in the third round. The more your balls get drained the harder it is to cum, so there is couple of ways to solve this problem.

You can jerk off before she comes over so your balls are drained.

Or

Usually when your balls are full, you will have the capacity to go multiple rounds often without even a refractory period. For example, say you blow your load after a few pumps. Put a new condom on and go right back in (I don't care if you don't feel like it, just do it). You're not going to feel super energetic since you just cummed, so take it really slow. After a few minutes, your dick will be rock solid again and you'll be be ready to dominate that ass, only this time you will last a lot longer.

Oh, and don't tell her she was your first.

Oh hey Enzio, I didn't realize this thread was necroed haha. It's not a problem if you keep going and make her cum, but that's not what most guys do. Most guys cum early and leave their girls with blue balls, so you can see the frustration it causes. Girls like making us cum, it's only a problem when we don't return the favor.

 

[Ezio]

Thank you for the reply, ProblemSolving.

I agree.