Hey guys,
So I recently went out with this girl in my social circle (I haven't known her for very long though, and we have a mutual friend who neither of us knows very well), and when I asked her out again a few days later to hang out again, she gave a very terse response (basically a soft no "sorry I have plans on that day"). Here's a couple of reasons why I think she doesn't want to meet again:
Now usually when girls give me soft no's I just move on, but she was showing me signs of interest all night (admittedly, the signs declined in frequency after I moved too fast, but they were still there) and I really enjoy her company. So I'm thinking of shooting her a call or a text to address her concerns and hopefully get her to hang out again, but I don't know how to go about it. Do you guys have any ideas?
Also, is this auto rejection? Or did I freak her out by trying to kiss her all night?
So I recently went out with this girl in my social circle (I haven't known her for very long though, and we have a mutual friend who neither of us knows very well), and when I asked her out again a few days later to hang out again, she gave a very terse response (basically a soft no "sorry I have plans on that day"). Here's a couple of reasons why I think she doesn't want to meet again:
- I moved too fast and tried to kiss close too early (can you move too fast?). We had a casual takeaway dinner and great conversation; an hour later we moved to a quieter location where I leaned in to see if I could kiss her, but she backed off. I spent the rest of the night asking her if she really didn't want to kiss me (pretty silly, on hindsight).
- When she asked me whether I was in a relationship, I said "not really" (I was also seeing other girls). She picked up on that and seemed bemused. I said I wasn't looking for a serious relationship, and she asked me why because she thought relationships were nice. Later on, she started echoing my sentiments that she wasn't looking for a relationship in our conversations.
Now usually when girls give me soft no's I just move on, but she was showing me signs of interest all night (admittedly, the signs declined in frequency after I moved too fast, but they were still there) and I really enjoy her company. So I'm thinking of shooting her a call or a text to address her concerns and hopefully get her to hang out again, but I don't know how to go about it. Do you guys have any ideas?
Also, is this auto rejection? Or did I freak her out by trying to kiss her all night?
