Long-Term Should i try

[Addicted2height]

So been way too long since i was on here

The main reason I've been away is my relationship with a lovely girl that everyone in my family likes.
Been with her for almost 2 years

Due to my job I work away most of the time (6 hours drive) but i get a week of every month or so to go see her

On the one night a week we have to get drunk i did that rather well and ended up going home with a good looking girl.
The next morning was one of the best I've had in a longtime, just listing to good tunes, lying over each other ect and talking
Didn't end up getting her number, but have been regretting that today.

Im going home at the end of the week but just wondering if I should...
Go around to her place and asking if its still ok to borrow a dvd
Do that after i get back (2 weeks time)
Just forget about her
Hope to run into her again

I don't want a relationship with her, but she seams cool and we have alot in common so thought it would be nice to get to know her
Also don't want to lose the current girl.

 

[Franco]

A2h,

I wouldn't continue seeing the new girl if you plan on keeping your girlfriend. That's exactly how you get yourself into trouble and break a girl's heart.

It sounds to me like you might miss being single, so you need to decide whether or not being in this relationship with the girl your family likes is a really a relationship you want to continue or not. If you do, then you need to not be having "emotional" affairs with other women (and by emotional, I mean affairs where you spend more than one night together and connect on more than just a sexual level). A random fling that your girlfriend will never find out about may be one thing, but spending excessive time with another woman is a completely different ballgame.

Sounds like you have some reflecting to do.

- Franco

 

[Addicted2height]

Definitely have some reflecting to do.

Looks like I'm in the same position as I was around this time last year, wondering weather or not this is worth continuing.
What really got me thinking is the amount I have in common with this new girl. Same taste in music, books and movies. Both into astronomy and climbing mountains. All of which my current girl says she kinda likes but never does it on her own.

My basic theory here, seeing as I have limited experience with long term relationships (2) was to grab her number and see what happens after my break. I'm only up here for another month or two before going of to the other side of the country so not looking for anything long term here.

If it turns out I like a girl with similar interests more then I'll have to have "the talk" if not then I should be more committed

Or I could just be a cheating a-hole

 

[Franco]

Gotcha.

Before you make any big decisions, I would also check out this article too as it might provide some insight on where you're at with your current relationship and whether or not you should continue:

• The 2-year Drop

- Franco

 

[Addicted2height]

So this seams to have turned into a much more complex problem, weather or not I am ready to marry my current girl.

On this I have no idea.

So I looked at a couple of lists this morning. To 10 reasons why you shouldn't marry and top 10 signs she's the right girl to wed.
In both of them six of the reasons lined up so that's still unhelpful.

There a lots of things I love about her. And there are many that annoy me.

I know I can make it work with her, I just don't know if it's worth it.

Looking like lots more reflecting for me