Should I use date compression on this grill

[Skippy]

So on my first date with this girl, I brought her home to cook dinner, and we ended up almost having sex. She seemed to be quite turned on and excited. her clothes basically flew off but I couldn't close the deal, and the furthest I got was rubbing my dick on her pussy.

I text her the next day to meet up again before finals and she says she needs to focus on studying for finals but that we could hangout after break. So I text her after break to hangout and she ignores the text. So I call her and she sounds rather tired, apologizes for not being in touch etc asks what I'm up to. Then she says she wants to go on more dates with me, but she doesn't want them to be hookups. my memory is a little bit hazy but I think she said she didn't want a physical relationship? or maybe she said "she didn't just want a physical relationship" She also said "it's your call, really" as if to mean feel free to stop seeing me if you're looking for a physical relationship? unclear. It was a little hard to hear her because the background was noisy. She said she'd let me know if she was free this week, but I told her "it sounds like you're busy so...nvm, we'll just plan something later then"

Now I find it very hard to believe she doesn't want a physical relationship given that she was so enthusiasticly grinding on my cock on our first date. But if I had to guess, I somehow got bfzoned and so would date compression be the way to go here? I feel like I'd get boatloads of resistance if I just invited her over to my place for dinner again.

The other option I was considering was to go on a date somewhere else and fuck her there, which will be unexpected but that's hard to do because it's still cold.

 

[WayOfHand]

Last time you met her you almost fucked her but not quite. After this it is very clear for the girl what would happen on your next meetup. As it is you can sort of see the problem. Since she still is not bound to you by any sort of relationship it can be hard for her to go see some random dude just for a bang.

What she needs is warmth and strong leading. Don't pay attention to the actual content of her words. What she is only conveying are her current emotions. She is interested in you, but feels vulnerable, so just be extra warm and make it happen.

Date compression is as fine as any other scheme. I'd still aim to bed her as fast as possible.

 

[JayG]

In my experience, if a girl goes that far with you on the first date and wants to meet with you on a second, she usually knows what's going down. I'd keep the second meet at a place where you can escalate and finish the job.

 

[Skippy]

Thanks for the insights, guys!

Will definitely make sure to be warm. I'm still trying to figure out what I should do date wise because I think she's too busy to get dinner this week, but I'm sure she'll have time to at least grab shakes. So I might do that because otherwise it'll be a really long time since I've last seen her.. doesn't seem ideal because I probably won't be able to pull. but then I'm thinking it'll be easier to pull her if we go on another date after that next week, as our relationship will have less of a hookup vibe.


So here's the plan:
1. Get shakes with her this Wednesday
2. Text her to see if she's down for an "adventure". This will entail getting dinner downtown, maybe walking by the river and then going back to the apartment under the excuse of making dessert. but this will have to be done the week after this week because I think we're both busy.