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Many of the people who have the highest status and get the most girls are the ones who are making the largest efforts to achieve these things. But, at what cost? Much of the time these people are unwilling to let loose and have fun because they don’t want to appear out of control or not masculine. Or they are not open to connecting with others, making a new friend or forming a new relationship, because that involves being vulnerable and showing weakness. They must put up a front of strength. Many of the men who are the most powerful and most prolific with women seem to forgo having visible fun and being open to connecting at the cost of... happiness? Are we, as men, supposed to go after happiness and what makes us feel good and loved at the sacrifice of maximizing potential attractiveness and status? Or are we supposed the disregard opportunity for good feelings in the pursuit of maximizing accomplishments, our status, our ego.
I recently visited a nearby college - big state school with far hotter girls than mine. Also far sluttier. All the guys are supper ripped, super stylish, and huge fucking assholes who will fight at seemingly anything. The men in my town are far softer in comparison. But they are also more laid back and seem to have more fun. Guys at this different school are not going out to joke around, have fun with their friends, or be drunk and silly like us. They are there to fuck. They are there to assert themselves. When they go out they mean fucking business. It's a different culture and it seems to have been created this way because of how much more they have to gain than we do - FAR better and easier ass. I told my friend who goes to this school my observations and he responded to me, "Yeah, you guys are much more laid back and have more fun, but [the way that guy's act in the social/mating environment here] is how man is designed."
I know studies show happiness in men is not an attractive trait and that pride and shame are the two most attractive – from which it can be inferred that women are evolutionarily designed to be attracted to men that prioritize winning and ego above being emotionally content and legitimately happy with themselves. But at what point has it gone too far? Isn't it kind of fucked that to be more attractive we cannot be as happy , or at least perceived as happy. A discontent man who is always chasing his next fix to accomplish and pad his ego is the most attractive one. But this is by definition not a happy or content man. And as a result, is this someone you really want to be?
What is the tipping point where one prioritizes having a big dick too much. The obvious answer to this question from an outsider’s perspective seems to be “to each his own.” But what is the sweet spot and what do you all think of this? I would really love to hear peoples' thoughts.
I recently visited a nearby college - big state school with far hotter girls than mine. Also far sluttier. All the guys are supper ripped, super stylish, and huge fucking assholes who will fight at seemingly anything. The men in my town are far softer in comparison. But they are also more laid back and seem to have more fun. Guys at this different school are not going out to joke around, have fun with their friends, or be drunk and silly like us. They are there to fuck. They are there to assert themselves. When they go out they mean fucking business. It's a different culture and it seems to have been created this way because of how much more they have to gain than we do - FAR better and easier ass. I told my friend who goes to this school my observations and he responded to me, "Yeah, you guys are much more laid back and have more fun, but [the way that guy's act in the social/mating environment here] is how man is designed."
I know studies show happiness in men is not an attractive trait and that pride and shame are the two most attractive – from which it can be inferred that women are evolutionarily designed to be attracted to men that prioritize winning and ego above being emotionally content and legitimately happy with themselves. But at what point has it gone too far? Isn't it kind of fucked that to be more attractive we cannot be as happy , or at least perceived as happy. A discontent man who is always chasing his next fix to accomplish and pad his ego is the most attractive one. But this is by definition not a happy or content man. And as a result, is this someone you really want to be?
What is the tipping point where one prioritizes having a big dick too much. The obvious answer to this question from an outsider’s perspective seems to be “to each his own.” But what is the sweet spot and what do you all think of this? I would really love to hear peoples' thoughts.
