Showing weakness to a woman but she still comes back when you upgrade. Does she still view you as weak?

[jesslee09]

This was when I was in high school. But basically I remember crying in front of a girl when I was drunk. It was my previous girlfriend and basically got her in a room and said 'do you know how much you hurt me by cheating on me?'

Good times.

Anyway, I think it's common knowledge to not show weakness in front of a girl, especially crying. But I also thought it was over once you show weakness.

What I found interesting is that, years later, I got with a hotter girl and all of the sudden, my ex-girlfriend asked me if we can date again after enjoying herself for putting me through pain. She used to make comments like 'omg, was I the reason why you changed? (giggles)' knowing she hurt me bad, it fed her ego. (This was when I was about 15 - Really young)

Around 21, she came back after I moved on.

My question is, if she saw you being weak, isn't that the end? She now sees you as this weak guy no matter how much you improve and shouldn't comeback. But she did. How much does being weak in front of a girl determine how she perceives you after you 'grow up'?

 

[DarkKnight]

I think there will always be a residue weakness in her eyes. Unfortunately there were strong bad precedents.

It's always better to meet new people after you grow up, old people sometimes willfully refuse to see how much you changed or grew. Speaking from experience her. I had multiple phases with jumps in growth and have always noticed this phenomenon.

 

[Randy_91]

She seen you with a hotter girl and this peaked her interested but ultimately shes just trying to see if she still has power over you to feed her ego.