A few things to point out here.
First of all, you should be completely ignoring what Jennifer does in this scene in the clip. Every girl is going to sit and interact in her own way, but that should be irrelevant to the body language you are giving off. As a matter of fact, most of the women that I am on dates with are usually leaning back in their chair for most, if not all of the conversation. But whenever we are on a deep subject, I almost always lean forward over the table to show that she has my attention. I also try to lock eyes and seem very relaxed. There will be moments when you lean back, and generally I'll lean back when I smile or something funny is said between us, but your motions should be controlled and smooth. George Clooney should be the focus of the clip I linked above.
The second thing I'd like to point out is that you shouldn't be focusing too much on investment from her during the actual date.
She's already agreed to meet up with you in a one-on-one scenario, and that is extremely heavy investment on her part. It's almost at the point for me now where, if I can get a girl out with me on a date, I'm
extremely confident that she'll be coming home with me, barring any completely unforeseen interruptions. Your focus here should be building up sexual tension and intrigue in her without giving her any form of release, unless she comes home with you of course...
The things you do want to look out for are things like her checking her phone constantly or answering texts/calls during the date. Every girl usually gives herself a "back-up" plan in case it isn't going well, and a lot of times it involves the use of her phone. If she's barely checking her phone, that's usually a good sign. If you actually see her
ignore texts/calls on her phone, then that's an even better sign. It's a clear indicator that she doesn't want to interrupt the interaction between the both of you.
I don't believe sitting across from her or next to her is really a deal-breaker on the date, but much of my success has come from keeping physical contact extremely minimal and keeping my vibe extremely relaxed, sexual, and playful. Tyme mentions that kino is a big part of his dating process, so obviously both ways work. You'll need to experiment with what works best for you.
- Franco