Situational Openers/Relevance

[Estate]

Hey guys,
Always looking to level up right? Here's something I've been thinking I want to improve on, advice comments appreciated

I want to scale back my night-game and really spend more time just meeting girls as I go about my day... not even going out hardcore day-gaming but just taking oppertunities as I go about my day, about town, on my lunch, that sort of thing...

I think "situational" type openers are good for me in night game but I think it's mainly due to repetition or the same scenarios coming up again and again.
In daygame, there's always those funny situations where in the moment you're thinking "Damn, I should have said something..."

I'm thinking simple things:
- In line grabbing my lunch.
- Hopping on the subway to work.
- Grabbing a coffee
- Walking around town.
- At the grocery store.

I'm talking times where I'm actually maybe going about my own stuff, not really thinking of gaming anyone in the moment but after the moment has passed I'm thinking I could have just taken 5 minutes out and opened a girl.

I think outside of night-time stuff, I'm sometimes not so quick on the draw unless I'm really already in the mood to approach. I want to spent less time specificially going out to meet anyone and just incorporate it more into my day to day stuff.

Any advice or ways to level up this? Just being a little more quick witted.

Cheers guys.

 

[Howell]

Hey guys,
Always looking to level up right? Here's something I've been thinking I want to improve on, advice comments appreciated

I want to scale back my night-game and really spend more time just meeting girls as I go about my day... not even going out hardcore day-gaming but just taking oppertunities as I go about my day, about town, on my lunch, that sort of thing...

I think "situational" type openers are good for me in night game but I think it's mainly due to repetition or the same scenarios coming up again and again.
In daygame, there's always those funny situations where in the moment you're thinking "Damn, I should have said something..."

I'm thinking simple things:
- In line grabbing my lunch.
- Hopping on the subway to work.
- Grabbing a coffee
- Walking around town.
- At the grocery store.

I'm talking times where I'm actually maybe going about my own stuff, not really thinking of gaming anyone in the moment but after the moment has passed I'm thinking I could have just taken 5 minutes out and opened a girl.

I think outside of night-time stuff, I'm sometimes not so quick on the draw unless I'm really already in the mood to approach. I want to spent less time specificially going out to meet anyone and just incorporate it more into my day to day stuff.

Any advice or ways to level up this? Just being a little more quick witted.

Cheers guys.

Hi Estate,

Interesting topic. Wanted to add my two-cents here.

The biggest thing for being fast on the draw is, in my opinion, social momentum. When I force myself to be social with strangers early on in the day, the rest of the day I can usually just run off the fumes, so to speak, and I don't really need to think about it anymore. I just do it, as I've already set a welcoming, inclusive precedence for the day.

So location and what you do during the day obviously play a pretty big role here. I work in cafes and libraries mostly, so just walking to work I always pass at least some new person I can meet.

When I'm running cold -- that is, when I haven't done any approaches for a while -- I find that I am slow and only sexually noticing the most attractive women I encounter, and even to them I'm slow. However, when I'm in an engaged, present mindset, I don't have this problem so much. So yeah, it kind of comes back to how in the moment/actively engaged with the world you can be while doing your daily activities.

You could also try doing improv or join a debate club, as those would definitely help you become more quick-witted.

-Howell

 

[Franco]

Estate,

To build on what Howell said, you might want to consider going out JUST for day-gaming, at least for the first few times you do it.

As of right now, it sounds like you hesitate to pull the trigger on opening a girl, or you are missing opportunities to open them. This usually comes from a lack of experience (and in this case, this experience isn't with women in general because you HAVE that), but it sounds like it's a lack of understanding where the approach windows are viable during the day.

This might take some time to adjust to, so you might just want to go out for some actual "day game sessions" and just practice looking for approach windows and then taking them when appropriate. Once you feel comfortable opening women during the day, you can slowly transition back to just "opening girls while you're on the go" because you'll be quicker to recognize those approach windows and also pull the trigger.

- Franco

 

[Estate]

Yeah thanks guys.

Night-game has really been my thing. I have done daygame but there is a level of hesitation. This might sound weird but I am pretty ok if I actually jet get up and go out and "do day-game".
I know it's all just a mind-set thing. Like, if I'm going out to daygame it probably means I've not planned anything else for a few hours or the afternoon and I'll deliberately just get myself in the mood. So if I'm around town I'm more "tuned in" to what's going on...

It's just a much more conscious and deliberate thing. Admittedly, I DO still go quite indirect, at least in the first line and then go from there but thats not such a big deal as it works either way.

This just ties into a lot of other changes going on right now. Basically, the amount of nights I'd go out served me well to learn and get results. I do need to scale it back a little.
As for day-game, it's an alternative of course and has been great but also needs me to "make time".

Obviously I've got to keep making time for both but you know... life goes on, other priorites too.

The part I feel I miss out on is just the pieces I mention... like instead of spending a whole afternoon going out to game... I could just as well meet more people as I go out to lunch during the work week, but that has alwyas been my "down time" from approaches and my mind is focused on work and other stuff...

Sometimes those oppertunities slip by. Really it's just my mindset, I'm distracting myself with other stuff at those times, I'll need to focus.
If I'm less calculated about an approach and need to literally turn my attention from one thing to "Oh, hot girl... GO!" then often my mind only catches up a few minutes later.

I'll figure it out.