Calls & Texts Slept with her, but disappeared?

[TheEcho]

Hey Gents!

This questions stems from my "LR: Titanic LMR Latina". The girl involved definitely wouldn't be a good fit to date, our interests don't align well, which I believe may be a big thing for her. Besides that though...... her body is fantastic for pounding, tiny, light skinned, flexible Latin, with a perfectly shaped pussy. After the dust has settled though, I'm curious how to deal with a girl you've been with whose responded to the day after text, then disappeared.

Are there any good measures to reignite her want to see you again? I plan on having the gaps that are recommended in the normal "No Response" article, but feel things may be different after sex.

The texts since:
Me: (Friday morning) Hey [name], had a great time last night. Hope you aren't too tired today
Her: (few hours later) Lol pretty tired haha i didn't realize what time you left
Me: Time flies when you're having fun

Me: (Saturday evening) Hey [name], hope your New Year is going well. What's your schedule like next week?

Me: (Monday morning) Morning, how was the weekend?

Can't help but feel my texts are too impersonal, given how I persisted against her so much...

Take care,
Josh

 

[trashKENNUT]

erpiaosn,

Try the business approach. Give her something to banter. Then ask her when she is free.

'Free + Shipping!' LOLX.

Zac

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Joshuakend,

Me: (Friday morning) Hey [name], had a great time last night. Hope you aren't too tired today
Her: (few hours later) Lol pretty tired haha i didn't realize what time you left
Me: Time flies when you're having fun

She feels like it was just a hookup. That's why she isn't responding. And your response to her "time flies when you're having fun" is a fuckboy response. Not a bad thing, but since it's player-y, she's going to think you're not interested in anything long term. If she wants to fuck, she'll get back in touch. You can keep persisting if you'd like, but I'd suggest you get a bit more nice/boyfriendy.

What you can do is actually call her and have a nice conversation with her and DON'T ask her out. Then, once she's warmed up, text her a few days later, have a quick conversation, then invite her over.

Another reason for her coldness is because of how hard you pushed for sex. She's probably feeling guilty/soutty (why she didn't want to suck your dick; some girls consider that even more intimate than fucking). Also, her "didn't realize what time you left" text basically just means "I didn't really care what time you left."

You could have not responded to that text as a way to "show her," but only a little chance of it working. You could have ignored it and then hit her up another day. Also, sometimes your actions bear fruit and there's little you can do afterwards but pelt her with interest, and persist hard. But you maybe don't want to persist so hard that you get invested in her, else you're gonna end up going nuts over a chick you don't really like, just for sex and shitty/non-existent blowjobs.

Hope the advice helps. If you could, and I'd super appreciate this, send a screenshot of the conversation in this thread to our Instagram @whatshereallymeant - I'll repeat the advice given here, plus it'll show other guys who maybe don't know about the site yet some of the nuances in texting. Appreciate it, man! (And don't worry, it'll be anonymous; I'll crop out all the numbers/name if you don't).

Hector

 

[Franco]

erpiaosn,

To add to what Hector's already said here, I think you weren't clear what you wanted with her in your text to her to set up your next meet:

Me: (Friday morning) Hey [name], had a great time last night. Hope you aren't too tired today
Her: (few hours later) Lol pretty tired haha i didn't realize what time you left
Me: Time flies when you're having fun

Me: (Saturday evening) Hey [name], hope your New Year is going well. What's your schedule like next week?

The last text you sent on Saturday evening just asks for her schedule, but it doesn't communicate why you want to know her schedule. This may seem obvious to you, but it's not so obvious to her. If I were to re-word your text based on your prior conversation on Friday morning, my text would have looked like this:

Hey [name], I hope your New Year is going well! I had a really great time with you last week, and I was hoping we could see each other again . Are you free next week to get together?

Once you've already gotten the lay, you want to be a LOT less aloof, and you want your texts to be very warm and direct. At that point, her only concern is that you might be a cold-hearted player, so you want to communicate to her that you really enjoyed spending time with her and that you'd love to see her again.

So, with that in mind, make sure to be clear as well as very warm after sleeping with a girl, especially if you want to see her again. At that point, being TOO aloof will either (a) make it seem like it was a one-night stand, as Hector mentioned or (b) make her cautious about your intentions with her.

Hope that helps!

- Franco

 

[TheEcho]

Thank you guys so much! This makes my (current) conversion problems painfully clear. It hurts to think how close the most recent LR girl was to being someone I see more of, that I messed up by being too fuckboyish, thinking the short, sexual humor was cool since I primarily use texts to meet... Just need to move forward as always. I feel this would have been one of the most dangerous sticking points towards continued efforts, as the "rejection" after intimacy hurts quite a bit, but the advice you all are giving me has cut the learning curve by a lot. Thank you very much!

Take care guys!

-Josh