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I like to go to the local city to hit the gym most days as there is more chance that I will gym approach, although, I have bailed a lot recently which I can only fix by being there.
So after my session, I hit the highstreet and it isn't that busy, but the uni's are back on, so I might find something.
Failed approach 1
I walk towards a girl head on and say "excuse me" with a deep and bold voice. She dodges around me. Maybe she thought I was a weirdo, I don't know.
Approach 1.
I am walking the same way as a potential approach target, she is wearing earbuds. I walk next to her and first say "excuse me" she doesn't hear and then I think "this chick is deliberately ignoring me". But I decide to keep walking next to her and try again. She takes her earbuds out and stops. I say "Hey, I just saw you and I thought you were incredibly beautiful".
She says "Thanks that's very sweet of you". I continue to press and ask if she's in a hurry, she says yes, she is walking to the train station. And she says "also, I'm 17" so that was an age based rejection. I did calibrate the approach by replying "Oh, I thought you were at uni" to which she genuinely did look like she was uni aged or above. This is why I won't approach younger girls in group sets at all. It is bad enough when it is 1 on 1. I just hope no bystanders noted it down! I am also so glad I didn't front stop her. That would have been terrible!
Approach 2. (Best approach)
Finally, I find what I am looking for, a uni student. Now, this was a good approach as she looked the almost the same age as the girl who turned out to be 17 so I nearly didn't do the approach, but something was telling me, she was older. But the difference is, she was early 20s. This was more of a bold style approach was the front just at the entrance to a side street off the highstreet. She appreciated the compliment, but said she was on her way to a lecture. I said "just very quickly, what subject are you studying" she replied "economics" to which I jokingly said "that's boring!" She laughed and also hooked. But it was at that point that I realised, she wasn't that much my type. So I left it at that.
Approach 3.
Now, this one was a boneshaker! A chick coming towards me, in the small enclosed shopping centre bit, I did the casual "shoulder to shoulder" 45 degree angle approach. I wasn't coming to front stop her and create a scene and I am glad I didn't.
Because this is going to be a weird interaction. She spoke, I can't remember what she said. But I thought she had an accent, so I said "where is your accent from" she said "Spain". But wait, she didn't sound Spanish? I called it out I said "So you look like you are dressed for the Spanish weather, but you don't sound Spanish" I can't remember exactly what she said; but she seemed avoidant and her eyes were darting around like crazy.
This was uncomfortable. Her eyes were all over the place, if there is one thing I have improved upon with my daygame, it's eye contact. And this chick's eyes were crazy. I was thinking "Hmm, I am not sure how old she is, but she has this elegant model like appearance". But something was telling me she was underaged but didn't know how to deal with the interaction.
So not wanting to stay in a potentially inappropriate interaction, I asked her "so, are you at uni" then she mumbles that she was at sixth form, which is between 16-18 so too borderline for an older connoisseur. I am just so glad I did not front stop her. Once she admitted she was at sixth form college, she sped off awkwardly. I think, she thought I was a creep. This is a prime example of the kind of interaction that I worry about.
So out of 3 approaches, 2 underaged/borderline, 1 where the chick was atleast uni aged.
I wouldn't normally write a session like this up, this is just normal for me to bust a few approaches like this after the gym. It's part of my day, but I figured I would give you an example of approaching in the city highstreet rather than a "pre vetted" place such as the campus. And from this field report, now I am sure you can understand why I like pre vetted venues better.
If I didn't prefilter my approaches, I could have got 10 sets done in an hour. But I can't risk that many underaged approaches in one go.
So after my session, I hit the highstreet and it isn't that busy, but the uni's are back on, so I might find something.
Failed approach 1
I walk towards a girl head on and say "excuse me" with a deep and bold voice. She dodges around me. Maybe she thought I was a weirdo, I don't know.
Approach 1.
I am walking the same way as a potential approach target, she is wearing earbuds. I walk next to her and first say "excuse me" she doesn't hear and then I think "this chick is deliberately ignoring me". But I decide to keep walking next to her and try again. She takes her earbuds out and stops. I say "Hey, I just saw you and I thought you were incredibly beautiful".
She says "Thanks that's very sweet of you". I continue to press and ask if she's in a hurry, she says yes, she is walking to the train station. And she says "also, I'm 17" so that was an age based rejection. I did calibrate the approach by replying "Oh, I thought you were at uni" to which she genuinely did look like she was uni aged or above. This is why I won't approach younger girls in group sets at all. It is bad enough when it is 1 on 1. I just hope no bystanders noted it down! I am also so glad I didn't front stop her. That would have been terrible!
Approach 2. (Best approach)
Finally, I find what I am looking for, a uni student. Now, this was a good approach as she looked the almost the same age as the girl who turned out to be 17 so I nearly didn't do the approach, but something was telling me, she was older. But the difference is, she was early 20s. This was more of a bold style approach was the front just at the entrance to a side street off the highstreet. She appreciated the compliment, but said she was on her way to a lecture. I said "just very quickly, what subject are you studying" she replied "economics" to which I jokingly said "that's boring!" She laughed and also hooked. But it was at that point that I realised, she wasn't that much my type. So I left it at that.
Approach 3.
Now, this one was a boneshaker! A chick coming towards me, in the small enclosed shopping centre bit, I did the casual "shoulder to shoulder" 45 degree angle approach. I wasn't coming to front stop her and create a scene and I am glad I didn't.
Because this is going to be a weird interaction. She spoke, I can't remember what she said. But I thought she had an accent, so I said "where is your accent from" she said "Spain". But wait, she didn't sound Spanish? I called it out I said "So you look like you are dressed for the Spanish weather, but you don't sound Spanish" I can't remember exactly what she said; but she seemed avoidant and her eyes were darting around like crazy.
This was uncomfortable. Her eyes were all over the place, if there is one thing I have improved upon with my daygame, it's eye contact. And this chick's eyes were crazy. I was thinking "Hmm, I am not sure how old she is, but she has this elegant model like appearance". But something was telling me she was underaged but didn't know how to deal with the interaction.
So not wanting to stay in a potentially inappropriate interaction, I asked her "so, are you at uni" then she mumbles that she was at sixth form, which is between 16-18 so too borderline for an older connoisseur. I am just so glad I did not front stop her. Once she admitted she was at sixth form college, she sped off awkwardly. I think, she thought I was a creep. This is a prime example of the kind of interaction that I worry about.
So out of 3 approaches, 2 underaged/borderline, 1 where the chick was atleast uni aged.
I wouldn't normally write a session like this up, this is just normal for me to bust a few approaches like this after the gym. It's part of my day, but I figured I would give you an example of approaching in the city highstreet rather than a "pre vetted" place such as the campus. And from this field report, now I am sure you can understand why I like pre vetted venues better.
If I didn't prefilter my approaches, I could have got 10 sets done in an hour. But I can't risk that many underaged approaches in one go.
