Social Anxiety. Articles here not helping.

[jackoftades819]

One of my biggest issues is interacting with people. Ever since I was little, I've been the outcast and constantly rejected. Now I'm in college, trying to learn pick up, and realizing how bad it is. I'm thinking no one wants to be friends with me or even fuck me for that matter. I can't bring myself to talk to people, not even at a cosplay club. I read the articles here on self-esteem and there're not helpful, at all. One of them said something about removing yourself from negative people. That's not the issue since I hardly have anyone in my life. I can't even dare approach people in groups because groups always reject me, I'm probably intruding or something. So I guess if I want friends or to get laid, then I need to transform into an extrovert and that's impossible. It always seems like people are just being polite when I'm talking to them and not really interested. It's not an issue of "value" or "victim mentality", I just can't talk to people. I realize that I'm sounding needy and desperate, but I am so don't reply that. I have no idea what to do now, does anyone have advice I can use?

 

[foggy]

I recommend going to a psychologist who will give you Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. This therapy worked for me.

With that being said, you are not going to see changes in your self esteem levels overnight. CBT rewires your brain and thought patterns. For me it took eight months before I started noticing really great improvements in my self esteem.

 

[Lucky]

Okay it seems your at a bit of a disadvantage here but in some ways that's good your seen as the underdog and everyone loves the underdogs so consider it this way this is going to be your rise to power alright so you need to start talking a lot especially to random people who you've never met alright that will train you socially and besides that you can also develop a sense of humor cracking jokes and gaining friends while your at it but you have to be careful not to become just a entertainer but besides that Light has some articles on the board which should help.