Social Circle girl

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Hello!

Let me describe the situation a bit. I participate in a volunteer organization and with most guyz & girls I am not friend just chatting and do things when
we are there. There is a girls who obviously likes me. I can see how she responds and she told me that he dreamed of me last night (me just a small smile) etc but in a casual way, she holds generally a distance.
I have invited her in a party in the past but refused and then she was asking me when we will go on a party etc.. It's like she wants things to proceed but she
holds back. She is older about 4-5 years, but I dont think it matters at all.
The basic thing I want to understand is how she feel and probably thinking, and how to procceed.

I read an article about the social circle so I suppose I should keep it cool and find an opportunity to be alone? Maybe I can ask her out when we are alone?

 

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You need to isolate her on a date, even if it is walking her home from the volunteer event, or grabbing a drink after.
Use that opportunity to get to know more about her, aka deep diving...This will forge the connection necessary as you find commonalities.
Then you propose a more formal date. An event where she accompanies you puts you in control of the situation. A free concert at the park, appetizers at one of your favorite places to hang out, doesn''t matter. Say "I'm going to XYZ, and I would love for you to join me."

An example of this is the running group I am in. We run on Wednesday nights and nearly the whole group goes to somewhere like a taproom or restaurant afterward. There it seems I will get in more intimate 2 or 3 person conversations. People usually will leave that gathering in 1's and 2's. It provides the perfect opportunity for "Can I catch a ride?" Can I give you a ride to..."

So perhaps you can forge a volunteer group tradition of a social food drink gathering after your meeting or event if you don't feel comfortable isolating her directly form the group.

 

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Thank you very much TwoRocky, awesome advice and I get the picture of what you are saying.

It's a very nice and natural way to proceed.