Social Circle Texting

[Lord Byron]

Quick question here.

I recently went through all the texting articles for a reminder on things, and to see if I'd missed anything helpful the first time through. (It'd been awhile since reading them and I was glad to see that most of what I'm doing these days lines up with the GC advice! Exciting.)

Anyway, while I understand that it would be foolish to backpedal and break some of the general texting rules with social circle game, should there be any minor adjustments to the method?

For example: if I'm running into a girl through social circle semi-regularly or fairly often, would it seem weird to the girl if the texts were mostly pushing to move things forward in the form of dates? Obviously if she likes me, it's a good thing, and I'll continue to set myself apart from other guys in the group who are aimlessly texting her; and if she doesn't like me, I'll catch on and look elsewhere.

Ultimately, I'm asking if anything from the regular texting patterns even needs to be altered.

Thanks!

 

[Franco]

Byron,

Well, you can't think of it as black and white too much... it's not necessarily "here's how you text in social circle and here's how you text with cold approach." Depending on how well the girl knows you, how many mutual friends you have, how often you have contact, etc., will determine how you should text her. So in a sense, you could say it can often be more difficult to text girls in social circle because you have to calibrate your texts according to your degrees of separation. The more separated you are (possibly to the point of mere acquaintances), the more you can just approach it the way you would with a girl you met on the street: some quick banter and flirting, set up a date, and follow through as normal.

If it's a girl that you've known for awhile, it can sometimes be better to play things very slowly but try to be very sexual over text. I know some guys who have long texting conversations with girls in social circles that tend to get the girl very turned on, and then the next time they meet, they move quickly and bed them. Ultimately, you have to have a good sense of calibrating your texts towards each specific girl. My recommendation would be to just experiment and see what works -- of course, with social circle you only have a limited number of options to experiment with... which is part of the reason cold approach is much better. =)

- Franco