Met a woman a couple of weeks ago, didn't think much of her except that she was kind of cute.
Met her again a few days ago (recurring event), got along with her quite well. Invited her to an afterparty I regularly attend.
She was down, we go there, alcohol starts flowing, we go to an after after party together. She takes off around 4 AM whereas I crash there.
The original event we met at was a social dance. A few positives:
1. Her pupils were like saucers when she looked at me...I actually visibly saw them go from tiny when she looked away from me, to large when she turned to look me in the eyes.
2. I moved her pretty early, given the nature of how we met. Nonverbal invite to dance, good moves on the dance floor and even taught her a new dance style. I was also the one who invited her to the after party, so I think that counts as something of a move.
3. Positive comments throughout dancing -- called one of our dances the best she had that night, etc.
4. Got compliance at the bar after party -- asked her for a taste of her drink, she complied. Later she took a sip of my drink without saying anything, I put on a faux stern face and asked her, "What do you say?" After not replying for about five seconds, she smiled, looked down, and said thank you.
The small mixed bit:
During the after after party, she originally sat herself down at the far end of the room from the entrance, whereas I just sat straight down at the nearest couch. I went to the restroom a few minutes in, and when I got back she was next to my spot, with her legs sticking into my spot. I just walked up, picked her legs up, sat down, and set them in my lap. She removed them in a very slow and controlled manner, like she wasn't expecting it and didn't quite know what to do. I was busy watching the movie, though, and didn't see her face, so that's mostly a guess.
We conversed during the movie, and the topic of relationships came up -- me and another girl said something about relationships, she chimed in and said, "I wouldn't know about that." Inquiries abounded, turns out she's never been in a serious relationship. Girl asked her if she ever sees people casually, she didn't answer.
I followed up with, "Your travels of the world didn't involve sampling the local men?"
"It's more interesting to to talk to them."
"Do you know that?"
"I don't."
So, that was that. I feel like the word "risk" might have been in that whole line of conversation, as well.
My overall impression:
Sexually inexperienced and reserved. Pretty socially adroit, although I saw a couple of cracks in that, as well. Given the pupil dilation, compliance on me taking her drink, her taking the initiative on sipping from my drink, moving to my spot when I got up, etc -- I'd say she's at least fairly interested.
My impression is that the withdrawal of legs was negative -- maybe I hadn't built up enough compliance yet for this particular girl to handle touch. I'm wondering how much of a setback that will likely be, though. Thoughts?
Note: I actually hadn't intended to pursue this woman until the next day, so I didn't arrange a date. She's made it clear she intends to be a regular at this dancing event I attend sporadically, so I'll likely see her again this week. So, I do not have the bottom line test. I AM beginning to see the basis of Chase's "Don't stop pursuing new women" advice, though.
Met her again a few days ago (recurring event), got along with her quite well. Invited her to an afterparty I regularly attend.
She was down, we go there, alcohol starts flowing, we go to an after after party together. She takes off around 4 AM whereas I crash there.
The original event we met at was a social dance. A few positives:
1. Her pupils were like saucers when she looked at me...I actually visibly saw them go from tiny when she looked away from me, to large when she turned to look me in the eyes.
2. I moved her pretty early, given the nature of how we met. Nonverbal invite to dance, good moves on the dance floor and even taught her a new dance style. I was also the one who invited her to the after party, so I think that counts as something of a move.
3. Positive comments throughout dancing -- called one of our dances the best she had that night, etc.
4. Got compliance at the bar after party -- asked her for a taste of her drink, she complied. Later she took a sip of my drink without saying anything, I put on a faux stern face and asked her, "What do you say?" After not replying for about five seconds, she smiled, looked down, and said thank you.
The small mixed bit:
During the after after party, she originally sat herself down at the far end of the room from the entrance, whereas I just sat straight down at the nearest couch. I went to the restroom a few minutes in, and when I got back she was next to my spot, with her legs sticking into my spot. I just walked up, picked her legs up, sat down, and set them in my lap. She removed them in a very slow and controlled manner, like she wasn't expecting it and didn't quite know what to do. I was busy watching the movie, though, and didn't see her face, so that's mostly a guess.
We conversed during the movie, and the topic of relationships came up -- me and another girl said something about relationships, she chimed in and said, "I wouldn't know about that." Inquiries abounded, turns out she's never been in a serious relationship. Girl asked her if she ever sees people casually, she didn't answer.
I followed up with, "Your travels of the world didn't involve sampling the local men?"
"It's more interesting to to talk to them."
"Do you know that?"
"I don't."
So, that was that. I feel like the word "risk" might have been in that whole line of conversation, as well.
My overall impression:
Sexually inexperienced and reserved. Pretty socially adroit, although I saw a couple of cracks in that, as well. Given the pupil dilation, compliance on me taking her drink, her taking the initiative on sipping from my drink, moving to my spot when I got up, etc -- I'd say she's at least fairly interested.
My impression is that the withdrawal of legs was negative -- maybe I hadn't built up enough compliance yet for this particular girl to handle touch. I'm wondering how much of a setback that will likely be, though. Thoughts?
Note: I actually hadn't intended to pursue this woman until the next day, so I didn't arrange a date. She's made it clear she intends to be a regular at this dancing event I attend sporadically, so I'll likely see her again this week. So, I do not have the bottom line test. I AM beginning to see the basis of Chase's "Don't stop pursuing new women" advice, though.
