Standoffish/Misplaced Energy

[Smurf]

Hey guys.

I recently got some feedback from a girl I fucked and a good friend of mine that I come off slightly standoffish, or that "I have a lot of every, it's just not placed in the right places." This sounds like an inner game issue, or maybe it's outer game? Regardless, I'm working hard to fix it, I'm just wondering if there's a place to start.

Have any of you guys encountered this issue, if so how did you fix it?

Jake.

 

[Anonymous]

Part of it is probably your natural personality. I get this a lot. I'm quite reserved by nature, and I don't have a natural "smile" when my face is neutral. So people often see me as too serious or aloof. So part of it is your facial expression and body language.

Internally, if you're similar to me, you're not the most expressive or emotionally varied person. If your MO is calm, cool and collected, then usually your body language will reflect that. So even if you're not the most emotive person, it's about cultivating emotional awareness and richness inside of you. Focus on feeling certain emotions, particularly positive ones, and practice calling on them. You can use visualizations or recall memories of experiences that made you feel a certain way.

By doing this, you can strengthen your ability to feel emotions and call upon those emotional states quicker and make them more regular and habitual. When you can harness your emotional state, you'll project better vibes to people, even if you're not constantly smiling or appear to be having fun. Your energy will radiate, people's mirror neurons will "catch" your emotional state.

 

[Smurf]

Thanks Casanova!

I'll definitely start working on this stuff.

By low attainability you mean low value, right?

Jake.

 

[Zoro]

Hey Jake,

The guy in your avatar picture is a great example of body language that speaks attainability coming from what looks like a high value guy.



-JW

 

[Smurf]

Thanks for all the replies, guys!

Yeah, J.J., usually when I'm talking to girls I'm analyzing in my head and I should probably stop doing that haha.

I do like my avatar, J Wick

Casanova, it's weird you say that because I don't feel high value at all haha. Maybe it's a vibe thing

Jake.