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So there is a girl I've made every possible mistake with. This girl viewtopic.php?f=2&t=14838
I take classes with her, but I'm not a part of her social circle. She is 25.
A couple of weeks ago I asked her if she wants to get something to eat with me next week, and she said she will see how things are next week and started adding kisses to her text messages. She made excuses to interact with me, and she enjoyed my company, especially deep diving where it was difficult to get her to stop talking so that I could feedback what she was saying to me, to prove I was understanding what she was saying. However, when the end of the week came by, I asked her if she still wanted to meet up (by this point she had been quite friendly with me again for about two hours in person and I didn't want to wait too long) and she pretended that she couldn't remember my previous offer, and said that she is too busy to meet up until after Christmas, which was obviously not true.
I became annoyed with being strung along constantly, as she seemed to be interested but wouldn't meet up, and I tried to force things forward simply to force her to make a decision. She of course rejected me and said she was only interested in friendship. She then started ranting that I don't respect her, and I realized that my value was too high. I did my best to lower it, but I probably did so too much and my attainability probably became far too low. I decided I'm fine with being friends as my social circle is quite small anyway, so I said I'm fine with being friends, so let's meet up as friends. She didn't want to do that either. I told her that every time she offers to be friends, we never actually treat each other as friends, so I told her that her offer of friendship didn't feel genuine to me. She became angry with me, then said she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore and only wants to be colleagues.
After a few days I told her that I'm fine with that and that there are no hard feelings from my side. She said that we can hang out together occasionally on campus after Christmas after the drama has died down - so I decided it's best to have no contact for a month to reset the board. However, yesterday I noticed that when I am friendly with a certain female student, she starts acting jealous and upset.
After she saw me getting on well with this other student for a couple of hours during a lecture, she saw I was sitting next to this student during the next lecture. She walked into the room, took one look at me and this female student, and left the room. Then she went up to the teacher, said that she was feeling ill and just went home. That was yesterday. Should I keep up with the no contact for a month, or should I be doing something else?
I take classes with her, but I'm not a part of her social circle. She is 25.
A couple of weeks ago I asked her if she wants to get something to eat with me next week, and she said she will see how things are next week and started adding kisses to her text messages. She made excuses to interact with me, and she enjoyed my company, especially deep diving where it was difficult to get her to stop talking so that I could feedback what she was saying to me, to prove I was understanding what she was saying. However, when the end of the week came by, I asked her if she still wanted to meet up (by this point she had been quite friendly with me again for about two hours in person and I didn't want to wait too long) and she pretended that she couldn't remember my previous offer, and said that she is too busy to meet up until after Christmas, which was obviously not true.
I became annoyed with being strung along constantly, as she seemed to be interested but wouldn't meet up, and I tried to force things forward simply to force her to make a decision. She of course rejected me and said she was only interested in friendship. She then started ranting that I don't respect her, and I realized that my value was too high. I did my best to lower it, but I probably did so too much and my attainability probably became far too low. I decided I'm fine with being friends as my social circle is quite small anyway, so I said I'm fine with being friends, so let's meet up as friends. She didn't want to do that either. I told her that every time she offers to be friends, we never actually treat each other as friends, so I told her that her offer of friendship didn't feel genuine to me. She became angry with me, then said she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore and only wants to be colleagues.
After a few days I told her that I'm fine with that and that there are no hard feelings from my side. She said that we can hang out together occasionally on campus after Christmas after the drama has died down - so I decided it's best to have no contact for a month to reset the board. However, yesterday I noticed that when I am friendly with a certain female student, she starts acting jealous and upset.
After she saw me getting on well with this other student for a couple of hours during a lecture, she saw I was sitting next to this student during the next lecture. She walked into the room, took one look at me and this female student, and left the room. Then she went up to the teacher, said that she was feeling ill and just went home. That was yesterday. Should I keep up with the no contact for a month, or should I be doing something else?
