First of all, I want to thank everyone on this website, starting with Chase and the other writers, and certainly not forgetting this wonderful community for helping to make this happen. I turned 23 less than a month ago and today I had my first lay ever. Looking back on my early days I realize how huge my transformation has been thanks to GC primarily! Now let's get back to business.
I apologize in advance for what may be sloppy writing, but I'm sure you understand
TL;DR
Brazilian girl I had met before the Christmas vacation. She came to my place today, after around 10 minutes we were making out. Clothes flew right off, no resistance. We fucked. Made her cum like 3 times, she gave me a blowjob as well.
Intro and Context
The night before my birthday, back in December, which was also 2 night before I go back to my country for Christmas, I met up with a few of my Brazilian friends at the Indian house of the international student campus in Paris, there was some kind of small event. When I got there, I saw there was a girl with them, another Brazilian who was in the same university as them back in Sao Paolo. I said hello, had a bit of small talk but there was nothing interesting happening there. The girl was not really my type, but she was cute. I was totally relaxed, out of my head and not putting pressure on myself to get laid or meet women or anything, all I wanted was to have a good time. After the event was finished, we decided to go to a bar.
Pre-drinking
Before heading to the bar however, we decided to buy a couple of beers to drink before going to the bar, and we decided to do it in the kitchen of her dorms since it was the closest. On the way there I was exchanging a few Portuguese words with my friends (having an intermediate level in Spanish and having traveled with them for a week I could pick up on almost half of what they are talking about) and she was impressed with how I knew all that. Then we started talking about Brazilian funk music and how it's all about ass twerking. By that time she was beginning to warm up to me.
When we were sitting in the kitchen, I was very nonchalant, at times giving her all my attention, and at others talking to my friends like she wasn't even there. I was being myself and I was on fire, doing the push-pull like it's second-nature to me, and I could notice it was having an effect on her.
The Bar(s)
We went to a street full of bars and we basically took a beer in every one of them. During that time, I kept going with the push pull thing without even putting any effort into it. She started showing me how they dance in Brazil shaking their ass and all that shit and I was getting more and more touchy with her, not giving a shit about my (and her) friends who were literally right next to us, but of course breaking it from time to time to keep it interesting.
After we went out of the 3rd bar, we headed to the subway station to meet a friend who was joining us, but then the girl said she was gonna leave because she didn't want to miss the last subway. I didn't see that coming so I was caught a bit off-balance, but I took her Facebook before she left.
Texting
2 days later I was back home for the holidays. I sent her a Merry Christmas text and she replied warmly, sending me photos of what she was doing, very good sign.
The biggest sign was a couple of days before NYE, she texts me at midnight (it was in French, which is kinda new to her):
After that I tried to steer the conversation in a sexual direction, but it was clear that she wasn't ready for it or whatever so it kinda died.
Back to Paris, meetup and lay
After a few days of radio silence, I hit her up on messenger with a "How you doin'?" gif of Joey from Friends. She responds warmly. Very minimal chitchat then I tell her I wanna see her on Wednesday. She says she's free. I take her number and switch to whatsapp and we exchange a few additional texts.
Today I text her around noon:
At 8:30 she texts me saying she's gonna be a bit late, she comes over at around 9. I meet her downstairs, hug her and take her up to my room. On the way she takes off her sweater and stays with a light t-shirt. I took that as a sign of comfort.
We went to my room, she took off her shoes when she sat on the bed. We talked for a bit, then she asked me questions about Lebanon. I showed her a few pictures, then I pulled her in for the kiss. Boy was she waiting for it. I take her back to the bed and we continue making out. She suggests dimming the lights so I do it. Then it starts getting more and more heated. 2 minutes later clothes were flying off; she unzipped my pants and as I was taking them off she took off her jeans and panties. I was on my back so she sat on top of me, told me to get a condom. I made her get it, but she wasn't sure how to put it on so I did it myself. She was so wet I slid right inside of her. We fucked in cowgirl position for a few minutes, then I couldn't last any longer and I came. As I started to lost my erection I told her to get on her back and went down on her. Her pussy was clean shaven and super wet. I got her to cum, her whole body was vibrating!
After that we cuddled and talked for a bit, I put on some blues music as well. After a while my dick was getting hard again, so she started giving me a handjob. So I slide my hand down her pussy and start rubbing it. She starts moaning and breathing hard and fast, and the closer she was getting to cum, the faster she was stroking me, until her legs started shaking and she came again. Then she got down and started to suck me, almost choked on my dick lol.
Afterwards we stayed in bed, cuddling and talking. She told me it had been a long time since she'd had sex. And afterwards she left and told me to text her again.
Conclusion
As far as first lays go, I think this was a pretty good one. Very little resistance, from the beginning until the end. One thing that gave me a push was outcome independence. Over the last few months, I was very busy with my projects which made me go out way less than I would like. And when I do go out, I say to myself that I'm not gonna put pressure on myself to get women or whatever, I'm just gonna enjoy myself. And after doing that, I noticed that even though I was meeting less women than last year, I was getting more results from these fewer women. And I believe that the reason is outcome independence, and being totally unfazed no matter what she says or does, which does wonders (and improved fundamentals of course).
And happy new year
I apologize in advance for what may be sloppy writing, but I'm sure you understand
TL;DR
Brazilian girl I had met before the Christmas vacation. She came to my place today, after around 10 minutes we were making out. Clothes flew right off, no resistance. We fucked. Made her cum like 3 times, she gave me a blowjob as well.
Intro and Context
The night before my birthday, back in December, which was also 2 night before I go back to my country for Christmas, I met up with a few of my Brazilian friends at the Indian house of the international student campus in Paris, there was some kind of small event. When I got there, I saw there was a girl with them, another Brazilian who was in the same university as them back in Sao Paolo. I said hello, had a bit of small talk but there was nothing interesting happening there. The girl was not really my type, but she was cute. I was totally relaxed, out of my head and not putting pressure on myself to get laid or meet women or anything, all I wanted was to have a good time. After the event was finished, we decided to go to a bar.
Pre-drinking
Before heading to the bar however, we decided to buy a couple of beers to drink before going to the bar, and we decided to do it in the kitchen of her dorms since it was the closest. On the way there I was exchanging a few Portuguese words with my friends (having an intermediate level in Spanish and having traveled with them for a week I could pick up on almost half of what they are talking about) and she was impressed with how I knew all that. Then we started talking about Brazilian funk music and how it's all about ass twerking. By that time she was beginning to warm up to me.
When we were sitting in the kitchen, I was very nonchalant, at times giving her all my attention, and at others talking to my friends like she wasn't even there. I was being myself and I was on fire, doing the push-pull like it's second-nature to me, and I could notice it was having an effect on her.
The Bar(s)
We went to a street full of bars and we basically took a beer in every one of them. During that time, I kept going with the push pull thing without even putting any effort into it. She started showing me how they dance in Brazil shaking their ass and all that shit and I was getting more and more touchy with her, not giving a shit about my (and her) friends who were literally right next to us, but of course breaking it from time to time to keep it interesting.
After we went out of the 3rd bar, we headed to the subway station to meet a friend who was joining us, but then the girl said she was gonna leave because she didn't want to miss the last subway. I didn't see that coming so I was caught a bit off-balance, but I took her Facebook before she left.
Texting
2 days later I was back home for the holidays. I sent her a Merry Christmas text and she replied warmly, sending me photos of what she was doing, very good sign.
The biggest sign was a couple of days before NYE, she texts me at midnight (it was in French, which is kinda new to her):
Her: When are you coming back to Paris
Me: The 4th, you got something to teach me in Portuguese?
Her: haha I don't know, are you a good student?
Me: No I'm a naughty boy, what are you gonna do with me?
Her: hahaha
Her: I'm not very good at this, especially in french
Her: Tell me when you arrive haha
Her: Tell me as soon as you arrive haha
After that I tried to steer the conversation in a sexual direction, but it was clear that she wasn't ready for it or whatever so it kinda died.
Back to Paris, meetup and lay
After a few days of radio silence, I hit her up on messenger with a "How you doin'?" gif of Joey from Friends. She responds warmly. Very minimal chitchat then I tell her I wanna see her on Wednesday. She says she's free. I take her number and switch to whatsapp and we exchange a few additional texts.
Today I text her around noon:
At 8:30 she texts me saying she's gonna be a bit late, she comes over at around 9. I meet her downstairs, hug her and take her up to my room. On the way she takes off her sweater and stays with a light t-shirt. I took that as a sign of comfort.
We went to my room, she took off her shoes when she sat on the bed. We talked for a bit, then she asked me questions about Lebanon. I showed her a few pictures, then I pulled her in for the kiss. Boy was she waiting for it. I take her back to the bed and we continue making out. She suggests dimming the lights so I do it. Then it starts getting more and more heated. 2 minutes later clothes were flying off; she unzipped my pants and as I was taking them off she took off her jeans and panties. I was on my back so she sat on top of me, told me to get a condom. I made her get it, but she wasn't sure how to put it on so I did it myself. She was so wet I slid right inside of her. We fucked in cowgirl position for a few minutes, then I couldn't last any longer and I came. As I started to lost my erection I told her to get on her back and went down on her. Her pussy was clean shaven and super wet. I got her to cum, her whole body was vibrating!
After that we cuddled and talked for a bit, I put on some blues music as well. After a while my dick was getting hard again, so she started giving me a handjob. So I slide my hand down her pussy and start rubbing it. She starts moaning and breathing hard and fast, and the closer she was getting to cum, the faster she was stroking me, until her legs started shaking and she came again. Then she got down and started to suck me, almost choked on my dick lol.
Afterwards we stayed in bed, cuddling and talking. She told me it had been a long time since she'd had sex. And afterwards she left and told me to text her again.
Conclusion
As far as first lays go, I think this was a pretty good one. Very little resistance, from the beginning until the end. One thing that gave me a push was outcome independence. Over the last few months, I was very busy with my projects which made me go out way less than I would like. And when I do go out, I say to myself that I'm not gonna put pressure on myself to get women or whatever, I'm just gonna enjoy myself. And after doing that, I noticed that even though I was meeting less women than last year, I was getting more results from these fewer women. And I believe that the reason is outcome independence, and being totally unfazed no matter what she says or does, which does wonders (and improved fundamentals of course).
And happy new year
