Lately I've been watching a couple of this guys videos:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM
He's giving me some visual examples of things I've read on GC. I didn't realize how much of my game was lacking until I actually watched this guy demonstrate what strong eye contact and slowing down your voice can actually look like. Which is a great thing to actually see.
It's hilarious how much of the mistakes he talks about in the video describe me at times.
But anyways my main point was I've noticed that I have a big fear of making the first physical move.
Sex talk isn't a huge fear to me
I can let a girl know what I'm about (I'm a guy who likes short term flings).
I can deep dive.
But when it comes to that physical move or showing my sexual interest in a physical way I shy away. And it's becoming a big problem because a lot of times I end up making friends instead of lovers. And what's funny is these girls will view me exactly how I'd like to be viewed but there's no sexual tension between us.
So, for you experienced guys out there how did you overcome this?
One thing I know Chase recommends is standing closer to women. Which I always thought was a small thing but man after watching the video above I can tell I DEFINITELY need to do that more often.
Another was eye contact today I had a gay barista at Starbucks giving me some strong eye contact. I could tell right away this guy was NOT looking at me in a friendly way. And it made me think wow I need to be looking at girls I meet in the same way.
But any tips or stories you guys have would be helpful because I know this is one area of my game and for any new guys game that can always use improvement.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM
He's giving me some visual examples of things I've read on GC. I didn't realize how much of my game was lacking until I actually watched this guy demonstrate what strong eye contact and slowing down your voice can actually look like. Which is a great thing to actually see.
It's hilarious how much of the mistakes he talks about in the video describe me at times.
But anyways my main point was I've noticed that I have a big fear of making the first physical move.
Sex talk isn't a huge fear to me
I can let a girl know what I'm about (I'm a guy who likes short term flings).
I can deep dive.
But when it comes to that physical move or showing my sexual interest in a physical way I shy away. And it's becoming a big problem because a lot of times I end up making friends instead of lovers. And what's funny is these girls will view me exactly how I'd like to be viewed but there's no sexual tension between us.
So, for you experienced guys out there how did you overcome this?
One thing I know Chase recommends is standing closer to women. Which I always thought was a small thing but man after watching the video above I can tell I DEFINITELY need to do that more often.
Another was eye contact today I had a gay barista at Starbucks giving me some strong eye contact. I could tell right away this guy was NOT looking at me in a friendly way. And it made me think wow I need to be looking at girls I meet in the same way.
But any tips or stories you guys have would be helpful because I know this is one area of my game and for any new guys game that can always use improvement.
