Sticking point-girls not texting back

[Maxkay]

Hey, first post on here and I need to say that girlschase over the last few months has improved my game no end. I've gone from a shy guy, to a more confident one.
I've also become much better at sparking initial attraction with girls both in extended social circle and via cold approach to the point where they're almost (for the night) chasing me. However for various reasons, both circumstance and mistakes on my behalf I haven't been taking these girls to bed just yet.

Anyway they all give me their number as soon as I ask for it and lots of them seem keen and agree or even suggest to meeting up. However when I text them on the next day they NEVER reply or if they do, it's very short. It's like our interaction didn't happen and they want nothing to do with me, even when they seemed so keen just a few hours earlier.

I've read quite a few articles on texting on the site but I seem to be plateuing at the point of arranging to see a girl after the initial meet and I really want to get this handled as I feel it will really take my game to the next level.

Very grateful for any advice, cheers.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Maxkay,

Rad to hear about you're transformation, man. For your texting, post a couple example text convos and we can pinpoint where the issue is.

~Nick

 

[Maxkay]

Maxkay,

Rad to hear about you're transformation, man. For your texting, post a couple example text convos and we can pinpoint where the issue is.

~Nick

Last few texts I sent to girls who seemed interested (some even kissed me, but never replied)

1.) Hey It was fun meeting you last night! How was your night?
2.) Hey ..... How was your night? Would be nice to hang out sober!! ... Max
3.) Hey... Was cool meeting you last night, how was your night?... Max
4.) Hey... was lovely meeting you last night, text me when you're free this week and we'll get that coffee

Etc, there's a few more but you get the picture. Some do reply but the replies are short/ to brush me off.

Is it an issue with my texting or am I not closing things enough? Even girls I seem to have great interactions and end well with and arrange a meet, just go cold the next day.

I have improved a lot as you say but I feel this could really help take me to the next level.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey brother,

Sounds like you're meeting many of your girls at night in 'party' venues (i.e. clubs, bars, house parties, etc.), yes?

Well, if that's the case, then it's pretty natural to have flakey numbers. Girls emotions are spiked at night, and their usually drinking, so while they may be excited to see you that night - those emotions are wiped in the morning. So you end up with flakey numbers.

The rule of thumb is this: Daygame --> grab number, Nightgame --> pull her and have sex.

Sometimes you see the opposite to be true, but more generally these scenarios are the case.

I'd recommend, if those girls are as interested in you as you say, that you'd be better going for the pull and sleeping with her that night.

~Nick

 

[Maxkay]

Yeah that does make sense. There are definitely a couple of times where I could have pushed forward a bit more but made a mistake.

What about girls that or whatever reason you can't take home that night? Due to logistics or circumstance but they seem cool and into you, should I just accept that for what it is that they're not going to be interested in talking/ texting the next day?

 

[Dern]

I'm in the exact same sticking point as you. So frustrating. Yes, PrettyDecent is correct, girls are emotional creatures, and even though they may be excited in that moment, their emotions tend to fade. Even in day game.

You need to make such a good impression, that whenever she thinks about you, the emotions that she felt when she met you are revoked.

Like think about it. The girls that you have ruminated over. Were they extremely beautiful? Did they have killer personalities? Did you connect deeply with them?

It's the same for girls. Good thing we have this site.

I don't have all my fundamentals handled, and I definitely don't think of myself as extremely physically attractive either (although I know that I'm not ugly lol). My connection building skills are pretty good, but I find that sometimes girls don't give me a chance to get to know them because I'm not above average looking?

Also, you can try setting up the date ahead of time before grabbing the number. However, her emotions can still fade, and because you didn't make a strong enough impression (based on fundamentals and connection building), she can still flake.

That's why it's better to go for the instant date/lay, because then, you don't have to spike her emotions up again. But as you said, when logistics don't allow for that, you just gotta try your hardest, grab the number, and hope for the best.

 

[mindful]

I personally didn't like your second one. It could be taken negatively by the girl. Also, your ellipses at the beginning gives the impression of hesitation. I'd cut that out for your ice breaking texts.

That's just my 2 cents. But like others have mentioned, if you are meeting girls at night, then you are going to get way more flakes. When I go out to a bar, I push real hard to have a girl come back with me that night since I know how likely it is that she will flake once the emotions have settled and they are back in their normal routine.