Hey TomGray,
The question is a bit ambiguous, but I'll give it a shot. Here are a few posts that'll help if you re-read 'em:
The Approach - Effective Conversation
Singular Flow in Conversation
Here are some personal thoughts:
How 'in the moment' are you when you are conversing? Are you actually just thinking of the conversation and about what she's telling you when y'all are talking? Women are ALL about things 'feeling natural'. If you're thinking about what you're going to say next (while she's talking), or waiting for your moment to speak, it's affecting your conversations, and she feels it. So, have a process where you are moving things forward consistently, but in-between transition points, be immersed in nothing but her and the conversation. Just have fun with it, and throw in some teasing and some sexual frames every once in a while.
I have some other thoughts, but let me know if this helped.
Jake