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Lately, I've been seeing this in some of my day game approaches, and this usually happens when my process is screwed up, i.e. I didn't engage in good light banter and building rapport, or the girl and I just didn't click. In these situations, I usually ask the girl "would you like to have coffee sometime?" even though I wasn't feeling the connection, but I just ask her anyway, then most of them would say yea sure, then we would exchange numbers and part way. They would reply my icebreaker text, but a few days later or even the next day when I text them to set up the date, most of them would say they're busy so can't do it, and a few would still try to schedule it into their busy life.
so this got me thinking what went wrong with these girls...
1. Is it because I didn't build up enough rapport? (or something else maybe?) if so then how can I improve my light banter and rapport building in these situations? some days I can be witty and clever, but some days I can't. Could it be because I'm still a beginner and I have a thousand things on my mind when I'm approaching a girl, like my posture, voice...etc so I forgot to concentrate on the conversation? Any advice on this?
2. So how important is rapport building during day game? and what if you were in a rush and just didn't have time to build rapport? I read Chase's article on how to get a phone number https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-phone-number-girl-every-time-you-ask, and it mentioned that you can still get her number even if you were in a rush, but then you would have to call her instead of text her....so I guess rapport building is important?
3. and just wondering, why would a girl agreed to a date and gave her number, but later flaked when I text her? Maybe it's easier to turn me down via text?
Numbers can be easy these days, but when I think I didn't do enough light banter and rapport building and asked for the date too soon I would still get the number, but they often don't lead to dates, so I think this is my sticking point so far, or maybe I have done something else wrong (but can't think of anything else though). Has anyone else ever experienced this before? I would love to hear about it too.
Any advice is welcomed.
Cheers
Smith
so this got me thinking what went wrong with these girls...
1. Is it because I didn't build up enough rapport? (or something else maybe?) if so then how can I improve my light banter and rapport building in these situations? some days I can be witty and clever, but some days I can't. Could it be because I'm still a beginner and I have a thousand things on my mind when I'm approaching a girl, like my posture, voice...etc so I forgot to concentrate on the conversation? Any advice on this?
2. So how important is rapport building during day game? and what if you were in a rush and just didn't have time to build rapport? I read Chase's article on how to get a phone number https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-phone-number-girl-every-time-you-ask, and it mentioned that you can still get her number even if you were in a rush, but then you would have to call her instead of text her....so I guess rapport building is important?
3. and just wondering, why would a girl agreed to a date and gave her number, but later flaked when I text her? Maybe it's easier to turn me down via text?
Numbers can be easy these days, but when I think I didn't do enough light banter and rapport building and asked for the date too soon I would still get the number, but they often don't lead to dates, so I think this is my sticking point so far, or maybe I have done something else wrong (but can't think of anything else though). Has anyone else ever experienced this before? I would love to hear about it too.
Any advice is welcomed.
Cheers
Smith
