Sticking point passed!
Connecting with people via deep diving has become so easy with me now. I can comfortably say I'm a great conversationalist because even though I'm not moved by reactions, the flow of talk with me is so much easier than how I was few months ago. I have better control of the direction of convos and I can make people do what I want by moving them accordingly. I no longer get dead end talks going but fr every EoD seems to end on a high note each time.
Including data points from some night outs. At a dance floor, a bar and a lounge. It's been really great.
Tonight was where I realised how much power I possess. I was at a bar and after sipping on the drink I had ordered, a lady was thrilled to speak to me while I was there. Her friend or bf came in between. She was still into knowing about me and it wasn't until her friend came that I knew she had someone with her. He just butt in rudely. (Sticking point 1)
The other lady was sat by herself. She had initially tapped me while she was going to her friend's corner. I boldly walked to her table. We started talking and I could tell she was into it. Then when she attempted to leave I asked her and she affirmed that she enjoyed talking with me. Apparently she had kids and her husband had gone mia. Anyways, after I made her affirm this, I instantly made her scoot over to let me sit with her. While there, I engaged in some light banter before re deep diving. That last statement is very powerful because being deep all the way can be painful for both of yu. It's important to come up for some air.
Then I asked her the 7 qns and I knew within me that she was ready. I was already even touching her thighs and she didn't resist. ( we were only talking for 15mins ). Then I knew I should have kissed her because when I asked what she thought of me, she looked me in the eye and said she thought I was nice. Ideally, I ought to go in for the kiss and seal the deal - take her home. But I didn't. I felt stuck. It was like I was hesitating and she was buying time by acting like she has reasons to behave properly. I still did nothing.
#reflection thinking back, it must have been some sort of approval seeking which shows I still underestimated how much into me she was.
Then she pulled away. Broke body contact and we parted ways. I still kick myself for letting that waste. Comes to not having a process in mind or a target for the night.
#reflection my mind was deciding whether to kiss her, take her to the toilet and f*ck her, or take her home. If I had a process, it would have been much more ideal and in fact like chase said, we play to win otherwise why play at all.
#lessons
Next time a process, and target must be stated. Even though I simply stumble in. It would guide my range of vision. It's only women who come out with no clear goal..as a guy, it's important to have a goal your pushing towards.
Afterwards, I tried to engage with a group. More about that in another post.
#resultoftalk #lessons #socialtraining
Sticking point:
* kissing the girl and physically escalating with her no matter where she is.
* transitioning from the venue to my place or hers.
*bringing energy to the group. #challenge already begun but wanting to make it bigger and more directed.
Connecting with people via deep diving has become so easy with me now. I can comfortably say I'm a great conversationalist because even though I'm not moved by reactions, the flow of talk with me is so much easier than how I was few months ago. I have better control of the direction of convos and I can make people do what I want by moving them accordingly. I no longer get dead end talks going but fr every EoD seems to end on a high note each time.
Including data points from some night outs. At a dance floor, a bar and a lounge. It's been really great.
Tonight was where I realised how much power I possess. I was at a bar and after sipping on the drink I had ordered, a lady was thrilled to speak to me while I was there. Her friend or bf came in between. She was still into knowing about me and it wasn't until her friend came that I knew she had someone with her. He just butt in rudely. (Sticking point 1)
The other lady was sat by herself. She had initially tapped me while she was going to her friend's corner. I boldly walked to her table. We started talking and I could tell she was into it. Then when she attempted to leave I asked her and she affirmed that she enjoyed talking with me. Apparently she had kids and her husband had gone mia. Anyways, after I made her affirm this, I instantly made her scoot over to let me sit with her. While there, I engaged in some light banter before re deep diving. That last statement is very powerful because being deep all the way can be painful for both of yu. It's important to come up for some air.
Then I asked her the 7 qns and I knew within me that she was ready. I was already even touching her thighs and she didn't resist. ( we were only talking for 15mins ). Then I knew I should have kissed her because when I asked what she thought of me, she looked me in the eye and said she thought I was nice. Ideally, I ought to go in for the kiss and seal the deal - take her home. But I didn't. I felt stuck. It was like I was hesitating and she was buying time by acting like she has reasons to behave properly. I still did nothing.
#reflection thinking back, it must have been some sort of approval seeking which shows I still underestimated how much into me she was.
Then she pulled away. Broke body contact and we parted ways. I still kick myself for letting that waste. Comes to not having a process in mind or a target for the night.
#reflection my mind was deciding whether to kiss her, take her to the toilet and f*ck her, or take her home. If I had a process, it would have been much more ideal and in fact like chase said, we play to win otherwise why play at all.
#lessons
Next time a process, and target must be stated. Even though I simply stumble in. It would guide my range of vision. It's only women who come out with no clear goal..as a guy, it's important to have a goal your pushing towards.
Afterwards, I tried to engage with a group. More about that in another post.
#resultoftalk #lessons #socialtraining
Sticking point:
* kissing the girl and physically escalating with her no matter where she is.
* transitioning from the venue to my place or hers.
*bringing energy to the group. #challenge already begun but wanting to make it bigger and more directed.
