Still girl with BG who already made out with me.ASAP

[brunomcf]

Hi Guys!

So, I met this girl doing an international study program. I moved slowly so she friendzoned me.
But as we moved she started fancying me, and a couple days before she let we made out.

She already got a BF in her country, even though their were together a couple times.
She's not easy to flirt and besides this had no sexual interaction with no one else (unlike all the other Erasmus girls). So, I believe she has a strong felling for me.

We skype call sometimes (like twice a month), and after two months she'll come back in my city. With her BF.

I know most cases of girlf with BF is a no go, this is a particular one where she actually made out with me. Not to say that, "do you know of any 9.5/10 available, with no BF?"
Either she's the kind that cheates on every BF, or she's just not into him and likes me more.

I need to be with her alone for like one hour or two, and let those feelings come up again, and make out with her one more time.
Problem is, what to say next to her?

-Hey! I don't know ur BF, he might be cool, butyou want to stay with me
-Why don't you move to my Portugal and stay here with me? (competelly igone BF, pretend like it don't exist)

It's a huge problem she's with another guy in her own town. But she's totally the girl to go for.I don't wanna say I'm inloved, but I might actually be...

So, She's coming to Lisbon on May 1, leaving on 7, and in between coming a couple days to my city in Porto with him.

What's ur advice on this?

 

[Tyme2k]

Read this:

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Then finish reading this post


Ok, specifically let me tell you something, a makeout means nothing. I have made out with tons of girls, I have opened with a makout. Guess how often this led to sleeping with them? Never. That's right, I used to believe in the club this was how you pull a girl. Now I've learned, just as Chase writes, this is incorrect.

Makeouts are a release, you build the tension then makeout, tension is gone. You need to stop thinking about this girl and go GET MORE GIRLS.

Good luck, my friend.

 

[Thinkingenigma]

This is going to sound really harsh, but you should drop her. It sounds like she was just using you. If she has a BF, and she already friend-zoned you, you aren't doing yourself any favors by skype calling her and spending so much time building her up in your head. If she's genuinely interested in you, she'll make the effort to contact you, otherwise, you're wasting your time.

 

[brunomcf]

Thanks for ur fast replies guys!

Tyme2k read ur thread and it brought some new lights to be honest.

I allways have more than one girl on sight, so in case one fails, I have at least to more targets to go for.
In fact, last Wednesday went out with a girl who had a better body. Not that as cute as the Check one. Her face is a 10/10.

When I said makeout, I should have included two massages and fingering. Couldn't escalate properly though.
Actually she slept at my place on her last night, woke me up saying "let's do it". But then I escaleted to quickly she she stoped it. (Yeap, very newbie on me).
Next day she said she was just confused the last night, and there would be no future for us. (which is not that bad, once she considered it)

I know that it's just easier to forget and move on to another. But this one has a bigger meaning to me.
I'll do for sure go for others (the Lituanian hotshot is just being given some sprezatura, I'll know she'll contact me. or not), but I need one last move on this one.

So, if you guys could hel pme out on this I'd be really greatfull.

Here's my strategies I'll consider:

-Girl, I didn't tell u this but I love you and I can't imagine with another guy. So I can't be your friend and I'll just forget u.
-Just move to my house! hehe
-Focus on the poor interaction we had (left my hanging while shoping, was going to spend the night at a friend of friend she didn't yet met, instead of me). So I can forget her

In case it doesn't work I just need a strategy to come clean out of this.
It might be worth keeping her friendship, and she's a really sweet person, and I might go to her contry and meet her hot single friends and sister also! hehe
I do have a crush on girls from Checkz republic. They are very sexy!And prolly more romantic than most of the Estern Europeans.

Ps:I'll just write a quick description of her on 1st post, and Indicators of Interest she left for me.


Edit: Here's a quicl description of her

Pros: Warm, kind, romantic girl, who loves animals, doing crazy stuff (kayak, rafting etc). Super hot body and cute face.
Cons: Took one Magic Mushroom and plans taking more (may lead to dependency and heavier drugs). As Estern European she's too independent, and kinda bossy sometimes.

Indicators on interest:

-Paid me launch one or two times
-Invited me to International Students parties. She wasn't really much haning out with those students. Went out with me tom movies,surf etc being invited by me.
-Advised me to stop drinking and driving, stop being so late. And not to start taking steroids (I'm now bodybuilding, won't take it, I was just joking). Ok these, are more like a friendly advice
-Smiled a lot at me some times out of the sudden. Says she trusts me a lot, and will miss me while in her country

 

[Clout]

Hey brunomcf, I think you are getting a lot of reactions but not results.

Firstly if she has a bf...it means nothing. Personally I would find out if she happy, if she is I wouldn't want to be the dick to ruin something she values. If she is not happy but has no intention of ending it...she may be open to a thing on the side just to keep the sexual fulfillment she is lacking (my favorite). If this is the case, you must show her you are not trying to muscle in and replace the bf or have any intention of telling anyone you are seeing each other...just be lover material.

You are thinking a lot about her clearly... that's a lot of investment and a one sided battle. Stop entertaining her. If she wants your time she can have it, on your terms. This should mean alone, anything else is on her terms...don't waste your time. There are tons of hot women out there, learn from the experience so if the same thing happens again you know what did/didn't work. If she friend-zoned you it is harder, however she did kiss you which means she can see you sexual.

This leads to the kissing...Tyme2k hit it on the head, by kissing her you are validating her and you have just told her she can have you. Unless I am too drunk to remember I will never kiss a girl in public or without having the sex logistics. You are escalating, if you have to stop so does she...her logic kicks in and you will be kicked out, unless she is liberal or experienced.

 

[brunomcf]

Hey Guys!
Thanks for replies.

Let me state again that I'm seing other girls. Actually last night I was at a festival and had lots of girl interaction. Even setup a date for today with a Portuguese girl (Long time with no moves on them, as they play really hard).

Anyway, this girl is coming tomorrow to my city. Here's her facebook message:

"Hello, my portuguesse phone is working again ))). U can try to call me from some Optimus number... We ll be in Porto 6,7,8 and I m so loooking forward to u )))) but leting me know mainly on phone cause I havnt my computer in Portugal and I have pc from my friend now but I dont know when I ll lend it again... bj"

She's in Lisbon with the so called BF. She knows no one else in city, and if she's referring to that guy as a friend, what could that mean?
It's positive she's "looking foward to me", but negative she didn't answer if she would have time to be just with me.

I don't really wanna call her and invite for sth just the 2 of us, cause BF should be allways around, and he'll listen to conversation.
Best thing is text her, and give her time to think and make BF some excuse to be with me.

 

[Anonymous]

Thanks for ur fast replies guys!

Tyme2k read ur thread and it brought some new lights to be honest.

I allways have more than one girl on sight, so in case one fails, I have at least to more targets to go for.
In fact, last Wednesday went out with a girl who had a better body. Not that as cute as the Check one. Her face is a 10/10.

When I said makeout, I should have included two massages and fingering. Couldn't escalate properly though.
Actually she slept at my place on her last night, woke me up saying "let's do it". But then I escaleted to quickly she she stoped it. (Yeap, very newbie on me).
Next day she said she was just confused the last night, and there would be no future for us. (which is not that bad, once she considered it)

I know that it's just easier to forget and move on to another. But this one has a bigger meaning to me.
I'll do for sure go for others (the Lituanian hotshot is just being given some sprezatura, I'll know she'll contact me. or not), but I need one last move on this one.

So, if you guys could hel pme out on this I'd be really greatfull.

Here's my strategies I'll consider:

-Girl, I didn't tell u this but I love you and I can't imagine with another guy. So I can't be your friend and I'll just forget u.
-Just move to my house! hehe
-Focus on the poor interaction we had (left my hanging while shoping, was going to spend the night at a friend of friend she didn't yet met, instead of me). So I can forget her

In case it doesn't work I just need a strategy to come clean out of this.
It might be worth keeping her friendship, and she's a really sweet person, and I might go to her contry and meet her hot single friends and sister also! hehe
I do have a crush on girls from Checkz republic. They are very sexy!And prolly more romantic than most of the Estern Europeans.

Ps:I'll just write a quick description of her on 1st post, and Indicators of Interest she left for me.


Edit: Here's a quicl description of her

Pros: Warm, kind, romantic girl, who loves animals, doing crazy stuff (kayak, rafting etc). Super hot body and cute face.
Cons: Took one Magic Mushroom and plans taking more (may lead to dependency and heavier drugs). As Estern European she's too independent, and kinda bossy sometimes.

Indicators on interest:

-Paid me launch one or two times
-Invited me to International Students parties. She wasn't really much haning out with those students. Went out with me tom movies,surf etc being invited by me.
-Advised me to stop drinking and driving, stop being so late. And not to start taking steroids (I'm now bodybuilding, won't take it, I was just joking). Ok these, are more like a friendly advice
-Smiled a lot at me some times out of the sudden. Says she trusts me a lot, and will miss me while in her country

I don't like outing with these kinds of girls. It is just a boring thing for me.

 

[brunomcf]

Well, if you want to just have fun, you should look for diferent kind of girls.
I see this one as kind of a keeper.

Anyway, as you revived the thread I'm now quickly sum up what happened when she was here:

-Called me to meet her, referred to BF as friend, and slep at students house in diferent rooms
-She didn't meet me by herself even though I pushed it until the end. Ended up meeting at airport. There was no sings of afection between them. In fact she was allways trying to touch, hug, and kiss my face
-According to her friend from Porto, she wanted to be just with me and they argued a lot because of that. She even thought that if I meet her BF we could get into a fight. I'd be ok with that, cause he looks like a boring skinny fag, and i wouldn't mind kicking his ass.

So, I'm thinking now of going to meet her in Prague. But I need to know if she's still leaving at the students house or if she moved with him (leaves alone, so that with be convinient). If that's the case, I'll be fucked, cause he'll prevent her from seing me again.

I just need a chance to be alone with her again. Once I do, I'll try to maker her cheat. If she won't do it, then I rest my case.
If she does, they I'll have to think what to do next...