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Still no sex after 2nd date, should I give up?

Dylweed

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Met up with a girl from tinder, we got non alcoholic drinks from a bar because we're both taking breaks from drinking. We sat at the bar next to each other. From the very beginning she was very attracted, she fell into my frame so easy. Made me so horny. I didn't even touch her that much, felt I didn't have to, I got a massive boner just from looking into her eyes. It kind of surprised me how well I was doing. I hadn't been on a first date in half a year because I was in a relationship. She was constantly touching her hair and I wanted to just pounce on her there with so much sexual tension but I just kept the tension there.

I invited her to my place to watch Netflix and she came with. I was very comfortable and I quickly kissed her, we sarted making out and after a little bit I started to feel awkward. I forgot this happens to me sometimes lately with a new girl, never used to happen but I got a little in my head instead of enjoying the moment like I just was. And I didn't pull away first, she did. I got back to having fun while talking with her after and then we made out 2 more times and both times she pulled away first even though she kissed me first the last time. I figured she'd be down to hang out again so I wasn't worried.

We did hang out again last night, at her place. Met her friends and then we went to her bedroom and chilled on her bed. So much sexual tension, I knew she wanted to kiss me but I waited for fun for a little and then kissed her and we started making out, I pulled away after a couple seconds but she pulled herself into me. I started getting a little nervous again out of nowhere, she stopped eventually. Then the convo took a little while to get back to that care free fun vibe with all the tension. But eventually we started making out again and this time I felt I was fully into, was super horny and doig what I wanted, feeling her body, ass and tits over her clothes and dry humping. She still pulled away first tho.

She also told me she couldn't read me and that she can usually read everybody. She said she couldn't identify me and put me in a box and that she really wanted to. The weird thing is a different fuck buddy of mine from the past said the same thing to me before, that girl was in love with me though. But that girl aslo fucked me on the first date.

I think she'd be down to chill again but should I even? I feel like she must not like me enough if she hasn't fucked me yet, I'm gonna assume shes had one night stands before and I hate being the guy that they made wait for it. Maybe it's because of that weird nervousness I experienced while kissing and it made it hard for her to trust me? Any advice or feedback?

Cliff notes: she'll make out with me but won't fuck, does she not like me very much?
 

Paulie Walnuts

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Yep I've had this happen, I'm a beginner though so I can only offer my anecdotal advice on the subject. In my experience, it hasn't worked very well in the past. Most of the girls that I dated/ended up fucking I had relatively quick progress with. Perfect example would be the cute little brunette I went out with twice in the last couple weeks, just shot me a text the other day and said she isn't able to focus on going out with guys right now because of school.

Probably BS, she just wasn't all that interested.
 

Dylweed

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Yeah the weird thing is this girl hasn't said anything like that, she's still snapchatting me right now. I just don't get why she won't fuck me, I feel like I'll make her life be better if she fucks me although I don't want her to be my gf, just a friend with benefits. And I don't want to be her friend without sex
 

POPEYE

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I would dearly like to be in our position, of making out..She obviously likes you because you are man handling her without much objection. As for her not allowing you to have intimate sex, she may have had her period? I feel Communication is the key here. Prior to making out what do the both of you talk about? If she has an interest in sport then get involved with what she likes ( apart from you of course ) By getting to know here better she may well become more interested and appreciate, trust and be more confident when she is in your arms. She may even guide you to her honey spot and then you know you have her approval 2 go all the way. All the Best
 
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