Still struggling with flirting aspect

[randy__bobandy]

Hello gents,

After some evaluation of my current skills, I've realized I'm not as bad off as I thought I was. After going over the deep dive article, I saw that I have nearly all those traits in spades (I've had cases where girls tell me they've never opened up to someone so quickly, or had them reveal a secret they only a few hours ago refused to tell me). My problem is flirting. I cant find the right witty, sexually suggestive response to stuff girls say. A lot of times it will boil down to a case of l'espirit de l'escalier, where I think of the perfect witty remark, after its too late.

I was wondering what pointers you had, or if you could give me some examples of ways of adding a sexual punch up to otherwise innocuous statements.

Thanks,
Randy Bobandy

 

[Eric]

I don't think it's too important, flirting.

Results over reactions.

You don't need to get a girl close to you or talking sexually to make her turned on.

For example, my friend last weekend: He was proudly showing me how he had been sexting with this girl for a WEEK, and I was like.. what? holy shit invite her out NOW, you should just have had sex with her instead of sexting. "But, I need to warm the oven!". NO, SEND HER "Come over to my place". 5 minutes later she calls him asking what kind of condoms he prefers.

Probably not what you are wanting in terms of advice, but it's the advice I feel necessary to give. There are probably better, more effective / efficient, aspects of your seduction that could be worked on like moving fast and hitting escalation windows.

 

[Light]

The best tip I can give in regards to flirting is to Tease Her.

Flirting is a mixture of sexual remarks given in the form of compliments, jokes, as if you meant what you say... but you may not mean what you say.
When you are flirting, people don't take you seriously - and that's what you want.
It's light, it's banter, and harmless.

An example would be:
Me: "Stella baby! You look gorgeous today! Looking at you just makes me want to take you home tonight " - said in light and joyful tone.

 

[rocky]

Do you know any cocky and funny lines? They are basically flirting.

 

[randy__bobandy]

Okay, thanks for the responses guys. So I want to hear what you think. There's a girl in this class I want to pick up. The situation makes it difficult. It's a tiny class, every student is within 10 feet of the professor, so I cant chat during class. I've only got about a minute tops before class and after class to talk with her. What should I say to net me the biggest return in the shortest amount of time? Meet up for coffee at one of the university's cafe's and try deep diving/escalating from there?

-RB

 

[Flames]

Have you worked on non verbal stuff? The more I get into this I find the less I really say and the more I get accross without actually saying a whole lot. In fact a lot of the time I just say random stuff with a 'flirty vibe''.