stopped having vaginal and only has clitoral orgasms?

[moom]

Hey guys,

Been seeing this girl for nearly 4 months now. We just became exclusive (although i plan on continuing to date on the side).

She worships me- anything i want to do in bed (even opened her up to doing anal), constantly investing herself, does whatever I ask her to do, and she’s completely head over heels iove. From my understanding, I’m definitely the most dominant and sex crazed man she’s ever been with.

I’ve been trying to train her to orgasm vaginally. She usually has 1-3 clitoral orgasms with me everytime we have sex.

I know she has had a vaginal orgasm before, so I didn’t think it would be so hard. She tells me something yesterday that I’ve never really heard before though and was hoping someone could shed some insight/give any solutions?

She says she used to vaginally orgasm almost exclusively (describes it as orgasms purely from sex without any sort of clitoral stimulation and that she feels it all over her body instead of jusf her vagina). She says that her first orgasm even during sex was a vaginal orgasm. Then one day a few years ago it completely switched and she only started having clitoral orgasms and no vaginal orgasms. She hasn’t had a vaginal orgasm in a few years. She thinks it has something to do with her using vibrators.

Anyways, this is the first I’ve ever heard of a girl starting with vaginal orgasms and then being unable to and only having clitoral orgasms. I want fo unlock those vaginal orgasms back for her and train her to cum from her pussy again. Any suggestions/recommendations? Thoughts? Advice?

Thanks guys.

 

[moom]

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[Fuck This]

I'd be curious if she was coming from Gspot or deep spot stimulation

I'd say her comfort with you could also be part of the issue. Sometimes new partner anxiety makes the sensations more intense. perhaps you can ad some role play or fantasy to your routine to increase the novelty. New positions could help as well as could New Locations.

 

[moom]

@Fuck This Thanks for the answer.

Novelty is not an issue, have done plenty of new locations, role play, toys, etc on that end.

Im 6” x 5” so don’t know if I can stimulate the deep spot? She said she hasn’t been able to for a few years, so Ive been researching heavy and will be having her try things including: kegel balls, stopping vibrator use, cbd gummies for relaxation, and g spot vibrators. Will report back here if I learn something new

 

[Fuck This]

In Naomi Wolf’s book Vagina, she explains that each woman’s pelvic nerve branches in unique ways and in different places, which is why some women reach orgasm more easily from clitoral stimulation, say, while others go gaga for G-spot attention. While the A-spot is crucial for me and plenty of others, there will also be many for whom touching this spot does nothing or feels mildly pleasant but not orgasmic. All vaginal configurations are valid and lovely; it’s just good to be aware of as many options for pleasure as possible so you don’t feel “broken” like I did when I thought I’d never be able to come from PIV sex.

The A-spot can, of course, also be stimulated during sex. Though it’s usually located 5 to 6 inches inside, shorter penises can reach it too, if the receiving partner’s knees are pulled up to shorten the vagina. As with G-spot stimulation, the penis should be aimed toward the front wall, but inserted extra deep to access the A-spot. Having never had my own penis, I asked a partner to describe how he sleuths out my deep spot with his. He told me, “It's just a matter of getting my butt closer to the floor so the dick angles up and back.” While this might sound like penile contortionism, it’s not as difficult as it appears.

 

[moom]

Will give this a try tomorrow when she comes over @Fuck This , thanks mate

 

[Skills]

Hey guys,

Been seeing this girl for nearly 4 months now. We just became exclusive (although i plan on continuing to date on the side).

She worships me- anything i want to do in bed (even opened her up to doing anal), constantly investing herself, does whatever I ask her to do, and she’s completely head over heels iove. From my understanding, I’m definitely the most dominant and sex crazed man she’s ever been with.

I’ve been trying to train her to orgasm vaginally. She usually has 1-3 clitoral orgasms with me everytime we have sex.

I know she has had a vaginal orgasm before, so I didn’t think it would be so hard. She tells me something yesterday that I’ve never really heard before though and was hoping someone could shed some insight/give any solutions?

She says she used to vaginally orgasm almost exclusively (describes it as orgasms purely from sex without any sort of clitoral stimulation and that she feels it all over her body instead of jusf her vagina). She says that her first orgasm even during sex was a vaginal orgasm. Then one day a few years ago it completely switched and she only started having clitoral orgasms and no vaginal orgasms. She hasn’t had a vaginal orgasm in a few years. She thinks it has something to do with her using vibrators.

Anyways, this is the first I’ve ever heard of a girl starting with vaginal orgasms and then being unable to and only having clitoral orgasms. I want fo unlock those vaginal orgasms back for her and train her to cum from her pussy again. Any suggestions/recommendations? Thoughts? Advice?

Thanks guys.

^ this story does not add up (on her part), maybe she loves you an she is saving face for you....

When women use vibrators it kills clit sensitivity no penetrational sensitivity....

if your dick is not thick and big enough in some women is like they will not feel anything......

 

[moom]

@Skills You really think thats what it is? Im 6” length and 5” girth, above average on both fronts. Sometimes her pussy can be a little tight if not lubricated well enough.

Should I dive into this more to ask if thats the case?

 

[Skills]

^ this is a great idea, cause she will feel it deeper, now try putting 1 or 2 pillows under her butt so the angle hit the g-spot....

 

[Skills]

@Skills You really think thats what it is? Im 6” length and 5” girth, above average on both fronts. Sometimes her pussy can be a little tight if not lubricated well enough.

Should I dive into this more to ask if thats the case?

give me a few, i will wait for mrs. skills to explain to me and read your post, i don't know much about dicks, no homo.....

 

[moom]

give me a few, i will wait for mrs. skills to explain to me and read your post, i don't know much about dicks, no homo.....

Sure thing- just to add, even two fingers inside of her is painful to her sometimes (just sometimes, not all the time). Now i have thicker fingers, so maybe thats why.

I also very often make her sore with my dick, and assuming if she couldn’t feel my cock in her, she wouldn’t really get sore lol

 

[Skills]

Sure thing- just to add, even two fingers inside of her is painful to her sometimes (just sometimes, not all the time). Now i have thicker fingers, so maybe thats why.

I also very often make her sore with my dick, and assuming if she couldn’t feel my cock in her, she wouldn’t really get sore lol

Yeah she agrees with her, she said it could affect BOTH, inside and clit... Well i never knew this.... so that is the good news for you, the bad news is my dick is your size when flacid....

 

[moom]

Jeeze my guy, how hung are you lol

 

[moom]

update:

Did more diving in- so she stopped having vaginal orgasms around 18, maybe a few months before she actually started using vibrators, or atleast around that time.

Whats interesting is she had vaginal orgasms right off the bat with her first and sexual second partners usually within 10 minutes of sex. She also had them in the beginning with her third partner until one day they just stopped. She was with him for 3 years but from my understanding, she stopped having them after the first year- right around when she bought a vibrator. Comparing dick sizes, the first two guys she was with- the first guy was about my size and the second guy was smaller and she still came vaginally so its definitely not a size issue.

We’ve tried a few things since I’ve made this post, from a sex wedge pillow for deeper penetration to a pelvic wand. I know for a fact I was hitting her back vaginal wall, but may have been going a bit too hard and she wasn’t able to fully get in trance mode. I need to focus more on deep rythmic thrusts instead of fully slamming into her really roughly.

I’m starting to get some signs though that it could be they were G-spot orgasms instead of deep spot orgasms @Fuck This - her g-spot really swells up after shes had 1-2 clitoral orgasms.

In the meantime- I have her doing kegel exercises and staying away from a vibrator for the next 6 weeks. Furthermore, I have some g-spot vibrators coming in, a curved dildo, and some other things I’ll be experimenting with. It’s funny, she’s right on board with me on this and we have this team dynamic on trying to have her cum vaginally again. However, I’m trying to lower the pressure as much as possible and not make it a big deal so she actually cums when the time comes (lol).

Will keep updating here

 

[Skills]

update:

Did more diving in- so she stopped having vaginal orgasms around 18, maybe a few months before she actually started using vibrators, or atleast around that time.

Whats interesting is she had vaginal orgasms right off the bat with her first and sexual second partners usually within 10 minutes of sex. She also had them in the beginning with her third partner until one day they just stopped. She was with him for 3 years but from my understanding, she stopped having them after the first year- right around when she bought a vibrator. Comparing dick sizes, the first two guys she was with- the first guy was about my size and the second guy was smaller and she still came vaginally so its definitely not a size issue.

We’ve tried a few things since I’ve made this post, from a sex wedge pillow for deeper penetration to a pelvic wand. I know for a fact I was hitting her back vaginal wall, but may have been going a bit too hard and she wasn’t able to fully get in trance mode. I need to focus more on deep rythmic thrusts instead of fully slamming into her really roughly.

I’m starting to get some signs though that it could be they were G-spot orgasms instead of deep spot orgasms @Fuck This - her g-spot really swells up after shes had 1-2 clitoral orgasms.

In the meantime- I have her doing kegel exercises and staying away from a vibrator for the next 6 weeks. Furthermore, I have some g-spot vibrators coming in, a curved dildo, and some other things I’ll be experimenting with. It’s funny, she’s right on board with me on this and we have this team dynamic on trying to have her cum vaginally again. However, I’m trying to lower the pressure as much as possible and not make it a big deal so she actually cums when the time comes (lol).

Will keep updating here

We stablished it was not a size issue (i hope you know i was trolling in the bad knews), what i don't get your obsession with this endeavor, you need to be careful sex is about a mutual sexual enjoyment.... not shore to achieve some type of ego driving goal, cause this could make her self conscious and actual backfire, make sure this does not happen, and you talk to her in an open loving way, and don't push this too hard... Is not important to women that much, they just care about the experience and stuff... I have some stuff you could try more mental: https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...-to-2-different-girls-in-the-same-week.24235/

 

[moom]

You know @Skills youre right. I get quite an obsessive personality when I really put my mind on something and want to get it done.

I can already feel myself putting pressure on her, and its all for my need to win. I think that if I haver orgasm vaginally with me, I’ll be able to keep her around for longer- which might be a little scarcity in play.

I think i’ll tone it down a bit starting tomorrow. I feel like its becoming way too mechanical for my taste.

That link by the way- I’ve already tried it a month ago when I first saw the post, and it worked great lol

 

[moom]

Giving an update here!


To recap: Girlfriend used to have vaginal orgasms right off the bat when she was younger. Her first two partners she had vaginal orgasms with all the time. The third, she had vaginal orgasms with the first year, and then the next two she stopped having them. So she stopped having vaginal orgasms in 2018, and never had another one after that. She was with 3 other guys between 2018 and now, which is me.

Goal: Bring her vaginal orgasms back in full-force. With some tips from @Skills and others here, I definitely put much less pressure on her about doing so and realized alot of it was just my ego wanting to win. With that being said, I still never stopped trying, just did it in ways that she didn't feel pressured.

Had a couple breakthroughs in the past 2 weeks I wanted to share with you guys here!

1. So as I said in an earlier post, I had put her on a 6 week routine that involves NO vibrator use and daily kegel ball exercises. I was also experimenting with quite a few toys during the past two weeks from dildos, to g-spot vibrators. The first thing was to find out if her past vaginal orgasms were from the deep spot or from the g-spot. So about a week and a half in after experimenting with a bunch of different stuff, I found a toy that literally unlocked the magical spot- turns out its the g-spot for her. It's called the NJoy PureWand. Somehow this heavy metallic toy that has no vibrational features did the trick. She stuck it in and she found the spot in like 2 minutes. Started playing with it and it became so overwhelming for her she started crying that first day. Ever since she used the PureWand the first time, she's been able to tell me after sex if I'm hitting the spot or not. Furthermore, when I'm hitting the spot, she almost starts losing control of her hands and legs. Her legs and especially her hands start shaking violently while I'm fucking her, even though she's not cumming. Strange, but progress.

2. FINALLY gave her a vaginal orgasm last night (1 week after playing with the njoy the first time). It was a very weak one however. Was during super dominant sex on my part. There came a point where she was crying- she's super submissive and just takes shit so doesn't even tell me its painful after like 30 minutes. SO I stick some lube on and go to town in missionary. What did the trick was having a pillow under her ass during missionary and making sure I was hitting the right angle. Minute after minute, i felt the g spot engorge. I mustve stayed in missionary like that for atleast 20-25 minutes. Kept hitting it and at one point it felt like she was squeezing, but really it was just the g-spot engorged and pushing against my dick. Then I hear her cum (wasn't sure at the time if she really came because it was the first time she came vaginally with me but she had the same sort of moans and body movement). I feel those contractions on my dick and keep fucking her. After about a minute she tells me herself that she came and I stop as I feel her pussy really tighten up. I ask her about this afterwards and she says she definitely came vaginally but it was so weak it almost pissed her off. Said it lasted 10 seconds or so but less intense than a clitoral orgasm. But hey, atleast I finally gave this chick a vaginal orgasm, first one in 4 years.

Progress.

Next step is to give her a super powerful vaginal orgasm, and then start giving multiple strong vaginal orgasms. Will keep her on this kegel and no vibrator regimen and lets see where it goes.

Things to practice next time include clit stimulation during sex as well, perhaps that will up the orgasm power.

-momo

 

[Alpha13SC]

http://kamafun-fun.blogspot.com/2007/09/ijjjji-sex-guide-under-construction-i.html

Try this.

 

[Skills]

Giving an update here!


To recap: Girlfriend used to have vaginal orgasms right off the bat when she was younger. Her first two partners she had vaginal orgasms with all the time. The third, she had vaginal orgasms with the first year, and then the next two she stopped having them. So she stopped having vaginal orgasms in 2018, and never had another one after that. She was with 3 other guys between 2018 and now, which is me.

Goal: Bring her vaginal orgasms back in full-force. With some tips from @Skills and others here, I definitely put much less pressure on her about doing so and realized alot of it was just my ego wanting to win. With that being said, I still never stopped trying, just did it in ways that she didn't feel pressured.

Had a couple breakthroughs in the past 2 weeks I wanted to share with you guys here!

1. So as I said in an earlier post, I had put her on a 6 week routine that involves NO vibrator use and daily kegel ball exercises. I was also experimenting with quite a few toys during the past two weeks from dildos, to g-spot vibrators. The first thing was to find out if her past vaginal orgasms were from the deep spot or from the g-spot. So about a week and a half in after experimenting with a bunch of different stuff, I found a toy that literally unlocked the magical spot- turns out its the g-spot for her. It's called the NJoy PureWand. Somehow this heavy metallic toy that has no vibrational features did the trick. She stuck it in and she found the spot in like 2 minutes. Started playing with it and it became so overwhelming for her she started crying that first day. Ever since she used the PureWand the first time, she's been able to tell me after sex if I'm hitting the spot or not. Furthermore, when I'm hitting the spot, she almost starts losing control of her hands and legs. Her legs and especially her hands start shaking violently while I'm fucking her, even though she's not cumming. Strange, but progress.

2. FINALLY gave her a vaginal orgasm last night (1 week after playing with the njoy the first time). It was a very weak one however. Was during super dominant sex on my part. There came a point where she was crying- she's super submissive and just takes shit so doesn't even tell me its painful after like 30 minutes. SO I stick some lube on and go to town in missionary. What did the trick was having a pillow under her ass during missionary and making sure I was hitting the right angle. Minute after minute, i felt the g spot engorge. I mustve stayed in missionary like that for atleast 20-25 minutes. Kept hitting it and at one point it felt like she was squeezing, but really it was just the g-spot engorged and pushing against my dick. Then I hear her cum (wasn't sure at the time if she really came because it was the first time she came vaginally with me but she had the same sort of moans and body movement). I feel those contractions on my dick and keep fucking her. After about a minute she tells me herself that she came and I stop as I feel her pussy really tighten up. I ask her about this afterwards and she says she definitely came vaginally but it was so weak it almost pissed her off. Said it lasted 10 seconds or so but less intense than a clitoral orgasm. But hey, atleast I finally gave this chick a vaginal orgasm, first one in 4 years.

Progress.

Next step is to give her a super powerful vaginal orgasm, and then start giving multiple strong vaginal orgasms. Will keep her on this kegel and no vibrator regimen and lets see where it goes.

Things to practice next time include clit stimulation during sex as well, perhaps that will up the orgasm power.

-momo

as you can see the pillow worked (as i knew it would), you are still a bit too obsessed for my taste, still a bit of that ego drive (i am telling you cause i went through this stage once).... Have you read sex god by rose.... These are other things to field test WHICH I HAVE FIELD TESTED with success:

- instead of one pillows, 2 pillows.
- read sex god by rose.
- Watch one of the top classic porns with her (taboo, insatiable, california pta, josephine mutzenbacher) as you are watching do not touch her, don't let her touch you, finish the whole movie, you can gently touch the breast and clit but just tease, make her suffer.... Then have sex (is hard to do, but you need to control), preferably lap top in the bed due to closeness spunning as you watch she needs to be in front....
-put a movie were 2 good looking actors are banging a girl, or a 3 some(2 girls and a dude) ^ just like the above have the computer in the bed put yourself in a way that you can not see the screen but she can see the screen, as you are banging her preferably missionary position but your head to the right or her head no looking while her face facing computer, ask her to describe every action of what is happening to you, don't let her stop describing it....
- try the 2 cock routine and some of the other routines i describe here...
- do more foreplay, massages, then erotic massage, more tease and foreplay, kiss her all over lick her clit twisting motions slow upwards, as you are playing with breast with free hand (multitasking)....

Brah get the cock ring.... Tone down the obsession you did a bit, but still i can feel you still with this obsession is super important to women to feel loved and relax, play music preferably deep/slow house and or slow jams, or reggetton.... do more foreplay.... Toys is the last freaking resort you are doing stuff backwards..

 

[Beck Bass]

1. So as I said in an earlier post, I had put her on a 6 week routine that involves NO vibrator use and daily kegel ball exercises. I was also experimenting with quite a few toys during the past two weeks from dildos, to g-spot vibrators. The first thing was to find out if her past vaginal orgasms were from the deep spot or from the g-spot. So about a week and a half in after experimenting with a bunch of different stuff, I found a toy that literally unlocked the magical spot- turns out its the g-spot for her. It's called the NJoy PureWand. Somehow this heavy metallic toy that has no vibrational features did the trick. She stuck it in and she found the spot in like 2 minutes. Started playing with it and it became so overwhelming for her she started crying that first day. Ever since she used the PureWand the first time, she's been able to tell me after sex if I'm hitting the spot or not. Furthermore, when I'm hitting the spot, she almost starts losing control of her hands and legs. Her legs and especially her hands start shaking violently while I'm fucking her, even though she's not cumming. Strange, but progress.

That's quite funny, my X that came a lot mentioned doing kegels once with me, on passing on a random convo of ours. That PureWand seems like magic wand, too bad 100 bucks it's like almost my rent here in Brazil lmao, also I don't even know if they would ship it here (and it would probably cost the double as usual, because of taxes and whatnot.)

What did the trick was having a pillow under her ass during missionary and making sure I was hitting the right angle.

How are your heights differences? I'll try to play around with that, my girl says my D hurts her when I go deep in missionary, dunno how I can turn that in pleasure (maybe an angle change can make me hit the G spot easily? Hopefully lol)