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Stopping flaking Leading upto a date

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Hey guys Im not new to the board or the content i have been reading on and off since 2013 im only 19 now and have not really been actively practicing just on occasion when im out etc

Recently i decided to be more bold (heard luck favors the bold) and i acquire lots of numbers.

My problem now is i usually had good conversations with the girls. I try avoid text as much as possible because that has been one of my weak points. (Although i do experiment over text to try improve)

Back to the Main point i message the girls build rapport and seed a date usually by talking about a topic then leading it into catching up to carry out the activity. i set times and dates as well.
After i do this i usually say great or something to the effect and end the conversation.

usually a day or two before the meet up i usually send a confirmation message saying hey We still on for 6 tonight etc. which is when i get the flakes which may or may not be true. (since this has happened in the last 2 week and is something new to me)

How do you approach setting up dates?

is there sometime wrong with my process?

Should i be using more assumptive language i.e. Looking forward to seeing you at xx tomorrow

Do i need to keep more frequent contact ? (although i usually meet them 1 week and set up for the next)
 

Smith

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If you've already sort out the time and date when you're in person with her, then you don't need to confirm it again one or two days before the date. The place you're coming from is scarcity and it shows you've been thinking about the date. Just send a text to her an hour or so before the date with little details about the meet up like, "Hey XX I'll meet you outside XX =)".

Also try set up for a date in the next few days, but I often set them up about 5 days later because of my schedule, so it's not a big deal. Don't worry about trying to keep in touch before the date after you've sort out the logistics, because you're going to see them anyway.
 
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Smith said:
If you've already sort out the time and date when you're in person with her, then you don't need to confirm it again one or two days before the date. The place you're coming from is scarcity and it shows you've been thinking about the date. Just send a text to her an hour or so before the date with little details about the meet up like, "Hey XX I'll meet you outside XX =)".

Also try set up for a date in the next few days, but I often set them up about 5 days later because of my schedule, so it's not a big deal. Don't worry about trying to keep in touch before the date after you've sort out the logistics, because you're going to see them anyway.


Thanks Smith :)

I'll try this from now on

Now that I look at it from another perspective confirming the date doesn't show confidence because if I was more confidence

Haha progress
 
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