Strange timing for chlamydia, date in a day. How to get her hooked for second.

[Escher]

Hello Gentlemen, first off I am new to the board and would like to thank you for having me.
I am seek some quick advice on an issue and appreciate any feedback you all have.

So I have this crazy timing thing going on. There is a woman who has been playing hard to get for a few monthes now. I could always tell there was something there but she was always tricky for me to read and I couldn't quite tell how to crack her code. I have always felt a strong connection with her and this is one seduction I deffinatly want to get right, because there is strong chemistry and potential between us. The other night I finaly had a breakthrough with her. She was very receptive towards me. We agreed on a date for tomorrow night MAR 27. I am feeling very confident this date, I know I can make it happen. There is just one thing...Worst timing ever. I found out today, two days before our date, that i have chlamydia. You see gentlemen, I have been seeing other woman and a condom broke recently. Now, of course I understand that there are many fish in the sea (as I have been swiming with them) but I want to make this work because I see the potential between the two of us.

The problem of course being escalation. My penis is out of the picture. I was confident I could lay this girl and have her hooked for future rondezvous's. So the question is how do I get her hooked for a second date without my most potent tool? We all know moving fast with a girl is of the utmost importance, but circumstances won't allow that. All is not lost, but I have to play this right in order for a second date when I can take it there.

This is the strategy I was thinking could work. From the beginning of the date, play things with confidence the same way I would when going for a lay. when it gets to physical escalation start making out and slightly feeling her, then when things start to tip into the next stage of look her in the eyes and say something like "I decided we are not going to have sex on the first date, so don't try anything funny" I figure this keeps me in the lead. I am the one making the choice to not have sex, and it implies that maybe I am not that into her, making her have to guess how i feel about her. Now, I take the lead again and feel her up more and get to fingering her. I know I can make her cum with my fingers, So i can take her there. I could give her oral with out transmitting but that might give her too much without me getting in return. maybe just a little oral on her then backing away saying maybe next time. Afterall, I have to avoid her even touch my cock with her hands because it could get in her eye. I know utilizing push pull will help, by leading her on to sex than backing away. Put her hand on my cock trough my pants (pull) but when it starts to come out back away and say not now (push). Other thing is I have to wait ten days before sex, so I know that I need to get her hooked enough that a ten day gap will not have her losing interest. Maybe while I am fingering her say things about how I love to fuck but not tonight. If she asks why not say just because. Leaving her to wonder. Afterall it is rare that a guy will be the one putting the brakes on sex. Could have her second guessing herself, like my standards are way high. But I am giving her orgasm so maybe I am obtainable. Hope fully this doesn't put me in the boyfriend catagory making it harder to escalate on later dates. If I play this right I can set myself up for a clean seduction on our second date, if I don't it could make second date seduction more difficult or even worst...no second date.



Any thoughts help. Thanks for your time gentlemen.

 

[Zoro]

Re: Strange timing for chlamydia, date in a day. How to get her hooked for secon

Now I'm no expert here, but I have a few thoughts.

For one you could post pone the date yourself until the ten days. You don't necessary have to give much explanation if she doesn't ask, just tell her you are busy for the next week and a half.

I think that could be the best bet from my hat. I'm sure some other members may have some more to add.

Here's some more thoughts.

I once was called a tease by a girl and things fell apart shortly after because I fingered her and didn't give her the D! Shitty logistics but I learned my lesson. No excuses! So Maybe you're thinking things too thoroughly. It'll have you all up in your head and walking on egg shells. Do what you gotta do man! And be a man about it. Tell her you can't do the date right now or go in curious and outcome independent. If she doesn't want to see you again, tough luck.

Recently I've been noticing at times how strengths can be weaknesses at times and vice versa. My problem right now is dealing with shitty logistics for escalation. Perhaps giving yourself shitty logistics would remove the feeling from her that you couldn't pull the trigger. Honestly, this is a little dumb and experimental! haha

Hope this helps and once again take my advice with a grain of salt

-Jwick

 

[Whizzy]

Re: Strange timing for chlamydia, date in a day. How to get her hooked for secon

There was a similar post as this before. Seeing as this is cureable with ease just go for it if you can, otherwise someone else may

 

[luego]

Re: Strange timing for chlamydia, date in a day. How to get her hooked for secon

There was a similar post as this before. Seeing as this is cureable with ease just go for it if you can, otherwise someone else may

Really??? This is a girl he's worried about losing an opportunity with, as a gf candidate it sounds like. Not only is intentionally exposing her to an STD a total douche thing to do, especially when he has the option to just wait 10 days for a cure cycle, I'd expect that she would be "less than pleased" with him.

 

[Whizzy]

Re: Strange timing for chlamydia, date in a day. How to get her hooked for secon

There was a similar post as this before. Seeing as this is cureable with ease just go for it if you can, otherwise someone else may

Really??? This is a girl he's worried about losing an opportunity with, as a gf candidate it sounds like. Not only is intentionally exposing her to an STD a total douche thing to do, especially when he has the option to just wait 10 days for a cure cycle, I'd expect that she would be "less than pleased" with him.

I had this same STD before I started dating one of my ex's (I had no idea at the time) and I believe it was the day after we had sex the first time I found out. She didn't mind in the least and thanked me for telling her. That being said condoms should prevent him from spreading it too so unless he planned on cumming in her the chances of spreading it even without a condom are small

 

[Escher]

Re: Strange timing for chlamydia, date in a day. How to get her hooked for secon

Your responses helped me to realize this was an all in or all out situation. Indeed going on a date with her, intiating something physical and not taking it as far as we can go sets up bad precedent. So it is either cancel or knowingly put her at risk of exposure. While I don't see this as entirly moraly off, I do feel not telling her later that she may have been exposed is. Chlamydia can be asymptomatic, especialy in women, so you can have it and not know. In the long term this can cause infertility. So If I had sex with her I would feel the need to tell her in order to be socialy responsible. I would just play it off like I found out after we had sex, she gets treated, no big deal. Could possibly be problematic in terms of keeping her around, though she may be cool with it as well. It is all a gamble. Tell her she might not be so keen on the scene, cancel she might dissapear. But there is also a chance of success in both scenarios as well.

Well, here is what I did. I canceled. I already had to tell a few people that they may be infected. I don't want to tell another. We rescheduled for the day after treatment is done. I just told her something came up and I will be way busy. She was quick to let me know that day would work and we would keep in touch closer to that date. So I am still in the running. Life can be so simple. You may win some, you may lose some, and sometimes its hard to really know if something is gained or something is lost. It all keeps rolling on. Roll with it.
Heres to chlamydia! Because its not the worst thing that can happen to you in life. And besides, you got it while having some trancendental orgasms. Well, at least thats how I got it

Thanks guys.