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msmclaugh

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Hello everyone,

So, for context, I'm a 30M with a form of muscular dystrophy that confines me to a wheelchair and generally limits my physical abilities. As a result, I'm very difficult to hear in night-life or other environments with lots of people. I'm trying to find an attractive girlfriend, but beyond just meeting any particular woman, I'd really like to develop a system that enables me to regularly meet new women and develop greater optionality. The women I meet in my day to day life are few and far between and traditional online dating has never resulted in anything worthwhile for me.

I've had some success with sugar dating/arrangements. I do have the resources to do this, and I don't have a problem with the financial aspects. I had used Seeking off and on, and it was an okay funnel, although most of my relationships from there were long-distance (I paid for them to travel to visit me 1x to 2x per month), which really isn't ideal and somewhat of a concession I was willing to make because these women were at least attractive haha. In any case, my account was recently banned and the alternative sugar sites have been pretty disappointing. So, this isn't an option anymore.

In the past, I had experimented with day game cold approach, which would provide the volumes i need to feel secure that I ultimately can meet new women as needed. I only did around 300 approaches, and I got some numbers (none of which replied), so like a lot of beginners, I just don't know whether it's a viable option for me because I've never actually gone through the entire process of approach-to-sex. I also don't know to what extent my disability undermines my chances of success with any given woman.

All of this leads to essentially me asking you all, "what do I do?" Haha. I'm intrigued by the possibility of combining cold approach and sugar dating--pitching/suggesting a sugar dynamic with girls I cold approach, to generate interest that might overcome whatever reticence there might be because of my disability. I know this can work, but usually the guy is older, so it's somewhat more obvious that this would be a possibility than it would be with me. I'm curious anyone's thoughts on this. I've also considered Instagram or even OnlyFans and Model Mayhem as online options to meet/suggest sugar relationships, but I think this would probably either just hardly work at all or result in a ban (eventually).

Thanks in advance!
 
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theReason

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RSD Tyler (Owen Cook) spent some time in a wheelchair recovering from an accident and said it was the hardest circumstances under which to approach girls he had ever experienced. He said it showed him a side of human nature so negative that it changed his view of things forever.

So first off, you are a huge gangster for even being able to put up with the kind of reactions that girls give men who are in wheelchairs.

Secondly, I would watch some RSD Tyler and try to find where he mentions it, or, if you can afford it, get coaching from him because he’s the only guy I’m aware of in the industry with direct experience in your situation. He’s touring the USA right now (link), so if you’re in the USA you would probably get highly preferential treatment from him that bootcamp weekend because he knows exactly what you’re going through and prides himself on that.

Or maybe he would specifically ignore you, I don’t know him and can’t promise anything.

The seminar is $25 to attend and the group coaching session/social outing is like $1000-$1500 usually. But if you were considering sugar dating, this is definitely a better investment than sugar dating.
 

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RSD Tyler (Owen Cook) spent some time in a wheelchair recovering from an accident and said it was the hardest circumstances under which to approach girls he had ever experienced. He said it showed him a side of human nature so negative that it changed his view of things forever.

So first off, you are a huge gangster for even being able to put up with the kind of reactions that girls give men who are in wheelchairs.

Secondly, I would watch some RSD Tyler and try to find where he mentions it, or, if you can afford it, get coaching from him because he’s the only guy I’m aware of in the industry with direct experience in your situation. He’s touring the USA right now (link), so if you’re in the USA you would probably get highly preferential treatment from him that bootcamp weekend because he knows exactly what you’re going through and prides himself on that.

Or maybe he would specifically ignore you, I don’t know him and can’t promise anything.

The seminar is $25 to attend and the group coaching session/social outing is like $1000-$1500 usually. But if you were considering sugar dating, this is definitely a better investment than sugar dating.
I appreciate the response! I'll definitely look into him.
 
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