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I've always been on the fence when it comes to trying cold approach in a place like the Levant (a Middle Eastern region that spans Lebanon, Syria, among others); yet, I've always heard about the locally hailed 'catcalling' approach method to reportedly get laid, which I've yet to see any positive reaction coming from the opposite sex towards. Some guys do online game around here and have decent success, it's just never been my cup of tea.
Ain't like I never did give cold approach a try, though (at least, the flavor you guys in the West tend to make use of, it seems to be pretty out of sync with the local culture where I live here, lol). I've made a decent (humble, might I say?) number of approaches back when I made it a bit of a mission to figure this out and get over approach anxiety (only to realize you probably never get over it, and that it's just anxiety related to the case of approaching strangers that happens for different reasons depending on the individual experiencing it). First girl I ever did approach, it was on a somewhat sunny afternoon with me acting like asking for directions, with the girl not knowing the place I'm asking for since she turned out to be from another city, then I end up turning direct and "admitting" I just wanted to come talk to her. She gets my interest while acting coy, trying to make it clear many times throughout the interaction that she really thought I was lost and that's why she talked to me (didn't know if that was a cover-up for disinterest or just her giving mixed signals or whatever). She also did comment right after I "admitted" interest, that this is "how it's done these days?", alluding to the way people tend to do cold approach in the West (yes, people around here are aware, even though society might not be as accepting).
Thing is, this happened about half a decade ago when I used to be in a phase where social norms are basically thrown out the window in my head and I was willing to act relatively bold in contrast to what society deems 'normal'. These days, I'm a bit more aware of factors that I either used to be oblivious to or just dismissive towards, that seem to play a role at dictating the success of an approach or even the plausibility of employing street cold approach. Among those factors is the fact that girls (locally, at least) put themselves at risk whenever they accept to keep interacting with a guy in a place so public as the street, where they could get seen by friends, family relatives, or neighbors, and possibly get snitched to their family and face punitive domestic violence (yep, it's normative in the conservative Middle East), reputation damage (provided she cares), and restricted ability to go out.
Realizing/believing that I'm living in such a sexually restrictive culture has made me question whether GC material is applicable to such a social environment. I think it'll probably a bit more customization in order for cold approach to work out. I'm looking to you guys for suggestions and ideas.
TL;DR -- Is GC material applicable to conservative Middle Eastern social environs? Is direct game really the best kind of game to employ while doing cold approach in such a setup?
Ain't like I never did give cold approach a try, though (at least, the flavor you guys in the West tend to make use of, it seems to be pretty out of sync with the local culture where I live here, lol). I've made a decent (humble, might I say?) number of approaches back when I made it a bit of a mission to figure this out and get over approach anxiety (only to realize you probably never get over it, and that it's just anxiety related to the case of approaching strangers that happens for different reasons depending on the individual experiencing it). First girl I ever did approach, it was on a somewhat sunny afternoon with me acting like asking for directions, with the girl not knowing the place I'm asking for since she turned out to be from another city, then I end up turning direct and "admitting" I just wanted to come talk to her. She gets my interest while acting coy, trying to make it clear many times throughout the interaction that she really thought I was lost and that's why she talked to me (didn't know if that was a cover-up for disinterest or just her giving mixed signals or whatever). She also did comment right after I "admitted" interest, that this is "how it's done these days?", alluding to the way people tend to do cold approach in the West (yes, people around here are aware, even though society might not be as accepting).
Thing is, this happened about half a decade ago when I used to be in a phase where social norms are basically thrown out the window in my head and I was willing to act relatively bold in contrast to what society deems 'normal'. These days, I'm a bit more aware of factors that I either used to be oblivious to or just dismissive towards, that seem to play a role at dictating the success of an approach or even the plausibility of employing street cold approach. Among those factors is the fact that girls (locally, at least) put themselves at risk whenever they accept to keep interacting with a guy in a place so public as the street, where they could get seen by friends, family relatives, or neighbors, and possibly get snitched to their family and face punitive domestic violence (yep, it's normative in the conservative Middle East), reputation damage (provided she cares), and restricted ability to go out.
Realizing/believing that I'm living in such a sexually restrictive culture has made me question whether GC material is applicable to such a social environment. I think it'll probably a bit more customization in order for cold approach to work out. I'm looking to you guys for suggestions and ideas.
TL;DR -- Is GC material applicable to conservative Middle Eastern social environs? Is direct game really the best kind of game to employ while doing cold approach in such a setup?
