Struggling to figure out what kind of woman I want

[PatriotsRule]

have you gentlemen figured out what kind of woman you want? or what you are looking for amongst all the many women out there? i feel that i am unsure of this for myself and i also feel like this is an important answer to know in my journey of meeting women and more importantly enjoying the relationships i want for myself. my approach toward women and relationships feels scattered and disorganized in what feels like many polar directions and i hope for at least an acknowledgment that i am on the right track here.

i can elaborate further if you would like but perhaps my broadness will display for you the range in which i am unsure where i want to look.

 

[Franco]

PatriotsRule,

I think this question can only be answered after spending intimate time with a number of women. This is another reason it's actually important to sleep with lots of women (besides the obvious fact that it improves your ability to sleep with women) -- sleeping with lots of women gives you lots of experience with different personalities and habits that different women have. Once you start spending lots of time with women, you find out what things you like and what things you don't like.

The problem I see with most guys is that they have a very specific type of woman in mind before they're even good with women; they don't really know what's out there or which girls would make great relationship partners. But if you start sleeping with lots of (attractive) women, eventually you're going to stumble across some traits you find very attractive that you didn't know you would find attractive. Suddenly, that trait may become a "must" for a long-term partner. As you sleep with more girls, the "must" list begins to slowly expand, and suddenly you have a pretty good idea of what traits to look for in a girl that makes her compatible with you.

- Franco

 

[PinotNoir]

I think this is actually a great mindset for starting out. It's very powerful to make the statement, "I don't know." To get a bit deep, the greatest historical thinkers of all time started with "I don't know" and went on to find out. It's the initial spark that starts the exploration/journey. It's very powerful for any endeavor.

As Franco said, you just have to find out, and I think it's amazing that you've reached this level of awareness about yourself and are not afraid to say it. Lots of people are afraid to say "I don't know" about so much, and so much to the point where they refuse to even open their minds and read GC articles even. I'm still not 100% on what "type" of women I am truly compatible with. So just start dating women of all types and see. You'll start to learn from experience.

I know that in my own experience... the more women I date... the more that the outer shell really goes away (well, I still want a skinny girl that I'm attracted too haha, but you know what I mean). But, you get tired of women that love drama, fighting, and/or trying to control you. Now, you can date these women and be a strong man and handle it and get great experience with it, but I tend to avoid these type of women for relationships. If a girl is constantly trying to control me and tell me what to do and nag (like a mother lol), then I just move on, but still, why not try it out and see for yourself. For some guys, they love a girl like this because of continual "excitement" for them. I just find excitement in other things, like travel, and I don't enjoy wasting my time with a woman that's trying to control me 24/7.

 

[Drck]

Also, one good way is to list what you don't want.

Do I want girl that is cute and sexy, and slept with 40 guys? No
Do I want girl that is entitled? No
Do I want girl that doesn't move finger to keep me? No
Do I want girl that disrespect me? No
Do I want girl that is looking only for a great provider? No
Do I want girl who does absolutelly nothing to be with me? Fuck no

Just be careful with the number of questions though, limit it to 8-10 only because you may easily find out that you don't want any girl, LOL