For context, I'm 27, work for the UK government and live in London. I first started reading Girlschase primarily to become better socially, be a better man, and get a girlfriend. I did get a girlfriend and had a 2 year relationship which was a great experience despite it not working out. We broke up last summer, and since then, I have mainly focused on my career (got a promotion in the process) and living a somewhat hedonistic lifestyle.
However, I've decided to be a bit more proactive with women. I have been going out a bit more recently with this in mind and have noticed attention from girls that I haven't noticed previously (I'm notoriously unobservant and naive at the best of times. However, I'm note quite sure if the girls are attracted to me, or just being friendly.
One example was I was out for drinks with some work friends a couple of weeks ago, and they bought some of their female colleagues along who I didn't know. We were talking in a group, and I turned off to go to the toilet, and the girl next to me kind of touched my arm and was like 'You aren't going are you?' and then a bit later, when I was talking to another person, the same girl couldn't see me, and said to friend 'Wheres your friend gone, I really liked him'
And last weekend, I was out for a friends birthday party. I saw this girl who I will S checking me out from across our group a couple of times, and ended up introducing myself to her and chatting to her, with some very high level chat/small talk, and had my first attempt at asking a girl for compliance. We got split up as we changed venues, but I caught up with her again at the next venue. One of our mutual friends called E comes over, somewhat bigs me up about how good a dancer I am, and also proceeds to tell this girl that I have a type of woman (which was the opposite to what S looks like), and then asks where I am watching the England football game on Tuesday (football is coming home btw) and that I should come watch it with her and S, and then S said twice that I should definitely come like 15 seconds apart. Nothing else happened that night as I lost the main party a little bit after and ended up elsewhere.
The thing is, I wasn't making a particular effort to attract any girls either night. Was just going about my business, catching up with old friends and having fun. I can't tell if these girls were just being friendly, whether they were attracted to my looks (I've never been sure how hot I am, although I would say I am reasonably good looking but not mega fit), or whether they were attracted to my personality from very short conversation? Worth noting that there may been other things the girls did that I don't remember, but these examples were the main things that caught my attention.
Does anyone have any ideas whether they were interested/attracted to me who were they just being friendly? My thought is they were just being friendly but this might be a self esteem thing where I think they are too attractive to have been interested in me or just general naivety about signs a woman is attracted. I feel like I've probably missed quite a few opportunities in the past year because I have just assumed women were being friendly and that my game/looks weren't good enough or I hadn't tried enough for them to be attracted.
However, I've decided to be a bit more proactive with women. I have been going out a bit more recently with this in mind and have noticed attention from girls that I haven't noticed previously (I'm notoriously unobservant and naive at the best of times. However, I'm note quite sure if the girls are attracted to me, or just being friendly.
One example was I was out for drinks with some work friends a couple of weeks ago, and they bought some of their female colleagues along who I didn't know. We were talking in a group, and I turned off to go to the toilet, and the girl next to me kind of touched my arm and was like 'You aren't going are you?' and then a bit later, when I was talking to another person, the same girl couldn't see me, and said to friend 'Wheres your friend gone, I really liked him'
And last weekend, I was out for a friends birthday party. I saw this girl who I will S checking me out from across our group a couple of times, and ended up introducing myself to her and chatting to her, with some very high level chat/small talk, and had my first attempt at asking a girl for compliance. We got split up as we changed venues, but I caught up with her again at the next venue. One of our mutual friends called E comes over, somewhat bigs me up about how good a dancer I am, and also proceeds to tell this girl that I have a type of woman (which was the opposite to what S looks like), and then asks where I am watching the England football game on Tuesday (football is coming home btw) and that I should come watch it with her and S, and then S said twice that I should definitely come like 15 seconds apart. Nothing else happened that night as I lost the main party a little bit after and ended up elsewhere.
The thing is, I wasn't making a particular effort to attract any girls either night. Was just going about my business, catching up with old friends and having fun. I can't tell if these girls were just being friendly, whether they were attracted to my looks (I've never been sure how hot I am, although I would say I am reasonably good looking but not mega fit), or whether they were attracted to my personality from very short conversation? Worth noting that there may been other things the girls did that I don't remember, but these examples were the main things that caught my attention.
Does anyone have any ideas whether they were interested/attracted to me who were they just being friendly? My thought is they were just being friendly but this might be a self esteem thing where I think they are too attractive to have been interested in me or just general naivety about signs a woman is attracted. I feel like I've probably missed quite a few opportunities in the past year because I have just assumed women were being friendly and that my game/looks weren't good enough or I hadn't tried enough for them to be attracted.
