Success with Older Women

[Hue]

Hey guys,

Was just trying to think of ways of creating attraction with older women. I've always liked the challenge of being able to succeed with older and therefore more experienced women (most likely). So far, the oldest I've been able to fuck was three years older than me. I've always had an easier time making conversation with older girls, and some have told me I'm mature for my age. I just got the number of a 25 year old at a party at my house, so I'm trying to get ideas flowing of how I can work this one.

Some things I've tried out:

"Age is a number"
"I'm like 27 on the inside"
"Guess how old I am" (when the ask)
"Well, people my age find other ways of having fun (;" (I'm 20, so this when talking about alcohol, or being at a bar with my fake)

Recently, trying to create a frame where you're the more experienced one despite the age difference... but not too much. Showing a little sophistication, but not coming off as if you're trying to. By taking advice from the Girls are silly and cute article, I've aimed to balance playful and mature/experienced. One frame for this is playing a game that you actually are the older one, and give her advice that she needs. This can also be a sexual frame.

Mainly, I've tried to just ignore their position, basically removing any bias/preconception with interactions.

If you guys have any ideas/techniques, please throw them my way!

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Having recently hooked up with a woman in her 30s (I am in my mid 20s btw) and a few other older women in the past, here is my number one piece of advice, be forward.

Younger girls, especially if they are in university, tend to value social status a lot so being straightforward can come off as too aggressive and make them back off. Older women are no longer tied down to those cliquish social circles that girls in college have and they are now in the real world. I find that with older women, I can be forward with my advances and they go well while younger girls try to play up the innocent "I would never do that!" sort of act.

 

[Richard]

You don't frame it any particular way, bro.

If you have to say something like "Age is just a number," or anything along those lines then you're trying to convince them which is highly unattractive. If you act maturely and carry yourself in a manner well beyond your years then how old you are doesn't really matter and if they make it a big deal then they, quite frankly, can't handle you anyway.

As it stands my girlfriend (going on 8 months now) is 32 and I'm 21 and she's very attracted to how I carry myself.

I will note, however, that there is a difference between dating and just sleeping with older women. I've slept with a few older women (my gf is the 3rd oldest) and the frame I had was that I'm young, vivacious, and have a huge sexual appetite and they were attracted to the sex and to this idea that they "could still attract somebody my age" and that's what I ran with. If you want to date then you need to carry yourself with self-respect and not tolerate much bullshit, if you want to fuck them then you can explore the "I'm young and can put some renewed energy into your sex life" angle.

-Richard

 

[Hue]

Oh Pry,
Solid point. And I read your last LR, sounded like a great time.

Richard,
I hadn't thought of it like that, but can definitely see how it'd be received in that way. Now I wonder if some of the seniors I would flirt with as a freshmen were only pretending to go from excited to lethargic after I'd tell them as a shit test. The ones that never asked or didn't react to hearing my age were the ones I've had the easiest time with.

Given the circumstance, I'll take those angles into consideration.


Thanks for the advice guys!

Hueman

 

[FoleyBandit]

Having recently hooked up with a woman in her 30s (I am in my mid 20s btw) and a few other older women in the past, here is my number one piece of advice, be forward.

Younger girls, especially if they are in university, tend to value social status a lot so being straightforward can come off as too aggressive and make them back off. Older women are no longer tied down to those cliquish social circles that girls in college have and they are now in the real world. I find that with older women, I can be forward with my advances and they go well while younger girls try to play up the innocent "I would never do that!" sort of act.

BE FORWARD is exactly the best and most important thing to do. Going after older women is one of the easiest things for me to do. After an opener and 5-10 minutes of conversation in a club/lounge/ setting I get right to talking about f*cking. Try it!

 

[Fuck This]

Hey guys,

Was just trying to think of ways of creating attraction with older women. I've always liked the challenge of being able to succeed with older and therefore more experienced women (most likely). So far, the oldest I've been able to fuck was three years older than me. I've always had an easier time making conversation with older girls, and some have told me I'm mature for my age. I just got the number of a 25 year old at a party at my house, so I'm trying to get ideas flowing of how I can work this one.
25 year olds are either one side or another on the Maturity scale.
If she is single it is a pretty good chance she is a Party girl or on the backside of a LTR that didn't work out. Chance of an emotional connection can be hit or miss depending on her emotional state. From what I see these girls you meet in a party setting are pretty guarded and are more into casual relationships.
All her friends are getting married and having babies and if she isn't into her career, she is chasing some hedonistic goal. Don't expect much consistency from a single girl this age who doesn't have a steady boyfriend. She usually can have her pick of orbiters but chooses not to.




Some things I've tried out:

"Age is a number"
"I'm like 27 on the inside"
"Guess how old I am" (when the ask)
"Well, people my age find other ways of having fun (;" (I'm 20, so this when talking about alcohol, or being at a bar with my fake)

Recently, trying to create a frame where you're the more experienced one despite the age difference... but not too much. Showing a little sophistication, but not coming off as if you're trying to. By taking advice from the Girls are silly and cute article, I've aimed to balance playful and mature/experienced. One frame for this is playing a game that you actually are the older one, and give her advice that she needs. This can also be a sexual frame.

Mainly, I've tried to just ignore their position, basically removing any bias/preconception with interactions.

If you guys have any ideas/techniques, please throw them my way!

What it comes down to is common experiences and perspectives. Work in the same field? from a similar family background? Have similar interests? Those don't depend on age.

One of my Highschool girlfriends (43) is living with a 21 year old she met at her second job. She obviously has something she sees in him.