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Hi!
Recently I had my first relationship it was not super long term relationship, it lasts about 5 months. The girl I was in relationship with was the girl I could have been in much more long term relationship at least that was what i thought. I've always think some small argue are normal in relationships.
This was my first relationship, first girlfriend etc. I think I made a lot mistakes. The girl was chasing me as crazy, I like my job I am trying to achieve some goals that I always wanted in my career. I have hobbies like gym or motorsports. So the girl was not put on the pedestal by me. I think this make her chase me as crazy. She told my that guys always were going for her and why I am so bad that I dont appreciate her (context: like I am lucky because she's so pretty and so nice).
The relationship started getting worse when she wanted so badly to live with me, moving into my apartment. From day to day she had more and more her stuff in my apartment. I told her that I think it's too fast, and can we do it in more schematic way? She knew that I was new in all this relationship stuff and she is my first girlfriend. Her arguments were like this:
- all her friends live together in very short time, it's nothing wrong
- if I didnt want to live togheter we would not see each other so often because of work
- faster the better to know each other
And she asked my "You don't want me to stay here, don't you?"
This is my fault. I was too soft, I didn't want to end this relationship but I thought that when I say I dont want to live together yet it will ruin the "magic".
There was one more argue between us and it ended that she back to live with parents, and the crazy part begins...
We have alot time for each other in weekend but from the Monday to Friday we seen each other much less. To my mind it was something normal, I work, she works seems logic, right?
She started making problems and crying for things like these:
- You don't love me as much as I do - She was mad that I dont usually initiate conversation on messenger or something, but she always SPAM me as fuck. Whole fucking day.
- You don't miss me when I am not here - She was jealous, she was mad I wanted to have a ride on motorcycle or somehing.
- She was even mad because I answer phone like "hey, whatsup" instead of "hi honey"
I always tell her that I love her and stop doubt it
finally she had enough and told me its over becouse she is too much emotional
Could you point me my mistakes and tell if she was overly attached or I was too cold for her?
Recently I had my first relationship it was not super long term relationship, it lasts about 5 months. The girl I was in relationship with was the girl I could have been in much more long term relationship at least that was what i thought. I've always think some small argue are normal in relationships.
This was my first relationship, first girlfriend etc. I think I made a lot mistakes. The girl was chasing me as crazy, I like my job I am trying to achieve some goals that I always wanted in my career. I have hobbies like gym or motorsports. So the girl was not put on the pedestal by me. I think this make her chase me as crazy. She told my that guys always were going for her and why I am so bad that I dont appreciate her (context: like I am lucky because she's so pretty and so nice).
The relationship started getting worse when she wanted so badly to live with me, moving into my apartment. From day to day she had more and more her stuff in my apartment. I told her that I think it's too fast, and can we do it in more schematic way? She knew that I was new in all this relationship stuff and she is my first girlfriend. Her arguments were like this:
- all her friends live together in very short time, it's nothing wrong
- if I didnt want to live togheter we would not see each other so often because of work
- faster the better to know each other
And she asked my "You don't want me to stay here, don't you?"
This is my fault. I was too soft, I didn't want to end this relationship but I thought that when I say I dont want to live together yet it will ruin the "magic".
There was one more argue between us and it ended that she back to live with parents, and the crazy part begins...
We have alot time for each other in weekend but from the Monday to Friday we seen each other much less. To my mind it was something normal, I work, she works seems logic, right?
She started making problems and crying for things like these:
- You don't love me as much as I do - She was mad that I dont usually initiate conversation on messenger or something, but she always SPAM me as fuck. Whole fucking day.
- You don't miss me when I am not here - She was jealous, she was mad I wanted to have a ride on motorcycle or somehing.
- She was even mad because I answer phone like "hey, whatsup" instead of "hi honey"
I always tell her that I love her and stop doubt it
finally she had enough and told me its over becouse she is too much emotional
Could you point me my mistakes and tell if she was overly attached or I was too cold for her?
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