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Daygame in my small approaching city (pop 157k according to Google).
Let me preface by saying that I went out on Saturday to do some daygame but there was a gay pride event which put me off and I only ended up doing 1 approach. Trying to figure out all weird and wonderful combinations of people was quite confusing and wondering if they were approachable or not.
So after walking around on Saturday for hours feeling stuck in my head, I had a bee in my bonnet and was primed for approach.
I did 8 approaches in total, the first 3 of which in the first 1/2 hour of being in town. I was out from 11am til 4pm, so a 5 hour shift in total.
I cannot even remember the first 2 approaches, so I will just write up the ones from I remember onwards.
Approach 1
A standing 2 set. They are looking at a food van I think deliberating if they want to eat there or not. My first thought was that they were looking over at other people as they were part of a larger group. So I hesitated and hovered around a bit first. Then I went in on the one nearest and said "Hey, I think you look really really really pretty. She said "thanks, that's nice" I tried to expand but by that time it looked like they decided that was the end of the interaction. They were quite middle class so took it well.
Approach 2
A two set who were coming towards me, georging themselves on Gregg's pasties. As they were walking towards me, I met them head on and told them they looked amazing. They said "thanks" (they had working class accents) then I tried to expand by "so what are you two up to, just enjoying your pasties" that they said something like "yes, they are very nice" but again, they were walking away as they said it. I think they were just taking the compliment without realising it was an approach. I don't want to push when they were giving soft rejection. I need something to indicate that it is man to woman in the heat of the moment.
Approach 3
This was the first successful interaction of the day. A seated set, which made it less fraught and more casual.
My opener was on her outfit, a light goth style. That was what made this approach feel natural, that I could comment on the girl's outfit. I made a slight error by saying my opener before she took out her earbuds, which I didn't realised she was wearing.
I used this to pivot about her music, so she was able to tell me about some goth or emo music I had never heard of. I almost asked her if she was at the gay pride event yesterday, but then I thought "Wait...why the fuck do I care". So instead I tried to pivot into what she does, as she was suspected I underaged. As it turns out, she was not at uni but still at sixth form and therefore 17. But she was a nice girl and that was what made the interaction flow.
So with that knowledge, I closed the interaction quite naturally.
Why did the interaction work?
The girl was seated
I was able to give a genuine compliment on her outfit
The girl was relaxed and friendly
Approach 4
Blowout. I was going into the underpass and a girl was coming towards me so I said "excuse me" she said "yes" then I said I "just wanted to say you look very pretty". To which she walked off without saying anything.
Approach 5 (best interaction)
This girl was wearing a nice summery dress with a good amount of the top of her boobs showing which was what attracted me.
I was able to give a genuine compliment on her dress which I already established, I liked.
I was able to focus on eye contact in this approach, I remember the girl had greenish amber eyes.
She said she was going to meet up with friends to go for a day out, I said "yes, I was going to ask if you were going for a night out since you are all dressed up, but then duly noted it was the day time". To which I think she found funny.
I stacked an assumption on her that she was at uni and she said yes, so I asked if she was studying a fun subject, to which she replied ecology.
I said something like "So you like to save the planet, huh? One fish at a time" or something catchy sounding like that.
I couldn't get her to invest although I could tell she was attracted on a primal level from holding strong eye contact.
Despite sensing a primal attraction, I could tell she was keen to move on, she said "hey, well, nice to meet you". But something wasn't right. I said "do you want to hang out another time"? This is where things get...interesting. I think she made up a story about having just broken up with a boyfriend the previous day...which I find too much of a coincidence.
So anyway, I said, well, that's understandable, if you want some time by yourself. I could have done with this number close as I haven't had one for months. But she was definitely not sounding like she was interested in anything like that. But I could tell this chick liked my approach. She seemed grateful for it, which doesn't happen often.
Approach 6
A short one, a 2 girl 1 guy set, which I wouldn't usually do, but I was riding the momentum of the previous interaction. I wasn't quite sure how old they were, probably late teens minimum, but I always have this anxiety on approaching younger sets. I saw them go past, I think they are definitely at least 18, run back, single the girl out I want to compliment, say "excuse me, you look amazing" to which she says "thanks". I am still not sure what the age situation is, so I ask "are you at uni" to which she says "no" as she is walking off. She might well have been 21 but not at uni. I don't know. That guy in the group might also have been her boyfriend, which was why she was avoidant. Or they might have been 17, but, looking back, she definitely looked early 20s to me.
Approach 7
There was a big gap between these approaches, because I catch the bus to the campus, find it dead on a Sunday, so come back after about 1/2 hour and get back in the field.
I saw a 2 set walking down the road that leads to the uni accommodation, I pick the one I find the most attractive, get in front and tell her she looks amazing. Then I stack an assumption on her about her being at uni. Turns out, she was still a school student. So it was just the context that made it seem like she was at uni. Anyway, I make my excuses and leave the area quickly, before anyone can remember what I looked like!
Approach 8 (final)
In the supermarket, just getting the a few things before the Sunday closing hours come into affect at 4pm. There were actually 2 potential targets, I walked past one of them multiple times but I was fixated on the first one I saw, then I just saw her browsing the protein powders and shakes.
I thought of something indirect like "gotta get your protein for your muscles, eh?" But then thought maybe that was too indirect.
So I just said "Hey, I hope this doesn't sound weird, but you look amazing". To which she said a bewildered "thanks" then I tried to expand with something like "so...what are you up to, just getting some items before the shops shut?". She replied something like "yep, I've just got to get these items then go out to my mum in the car park" which I found a weird detail. She definitely wasn't underaged, not sure why she mentioned that. Then she said "anyway, thanks" and meandered away to another isle. After this approach, I briefly thought about going to approach the other HB I had seen, but didn't want to push my luck with a cringy rejection. Once before Christmas I did my first uncalibrated approach of my session on a middle aged lady (by mistake) and she complained to one of the staff in there. I doubt anything came of it, but I maintain plausible deniability by only doing 1 approach during my shop.
So, that's all 8 approaches written up. A common sticking point is getting the girls hooked after the compliment. A lot of them just take it then leave, I am not sure how to show my intent to make it "man to woman" as they are walking off from me. I am afraid to push a bit more. A coupe de grace "just 1 more thing" could be tried, but then I would have to come up with something really engaging, of have 2-3 pre planned things to say.
Let me preface by saying that I went out on Saturday to do some daygame but there was a gay pride event which put me off and I only ended up doing 1 approach. Trying to figure out all weird and wonderful combinations of people was quite confusing and wondering if they were approachable or not.
So after walking around on Saturday for hours feeling stuck in my head, I had a bee in my bonnet and was primed for approach.
I did 8 approaches in total, the first 3 of which in the first 1/2 hour of being in town. I was out from 11am til 4pm, so a 5 hour shift in total.
I cannot even remember the first 2 approaches, so I will just write up the ones from I remember onwards.
Approach 1
A standing 2 set. They are looking at a food van I think deliberating if they want to eat there or not. My first thought was that they were looking over at other people as they were part of a larger group. So I hesitated and hovered around a bit first. Then I went in on the one nearest and said "Hey, I think you look really really really pretty. She said "thanks, that's nice" I tried to expand but by that time it looked like they decided that was the end of the interaction. They were quite middle class so took it well.
Approach 2
A two set who were coming towards me, georging themselves on Gregg's pasties. As they were walking towards me, I met them head on and told them they looked amazing. They said "thanks" (they had working class accents) then I tried to expand by "so what are you two up to, just enjoying your pasties" that they said something like "yes, they are very nice" but again, they were walking away as they said it. I think they were just taking the compliment without realising it was an approach. I don't want to push when they were giving soft rejection. I need something to indicate that it is man to woman in the heat of the moment.
Approach 3
This was the first successful interaction of the day. A seated set, which made it less fraught and more casual.
My opener was on her outfit, a light goth style. That was what made this approach feel natural, that I could comment on the girl's outfit. I made a slight error by saying my opener before she took out her earbuds, which I didn't realised she was wearing.
I used this to pivot about her music, so she was able to tell me about some goth or emo music I had never heard of. I almost asked her if she was at the gay pride event yesterday, but then I thought "Wait...why the fuck do I care". So instead I tried to pivot into what she does, as she was suspected I underaged. As it turns out, she was not at uni but still at sixth form and therefore 17. But she was a nice girl and that was what made the interaction flow.
So with that knowledge, I closed the interaction quite naturally.
Why did the interaction work?
The girl was seated
I was able to give a genuine compliment on her outfit
The girl was relaxed and friendly
Approach 4
Blowout. I was going into the underpass and a girl was coming towards me so I said "excuse me" she said "yes" then I said I "just wanted to say you look very pretty". To which she walked off without saying anything.
Approach 5 (best interaction)
This girl was wearing a nice summery dress with a good amount of the top of her boobs showing which was what attracted me.
I was able to give a genuine compliment on her dress which I already established, I liked.
I was able to focus on eye contact in this approach, I remember the girl had greenish amber eyes.
She said she was going to meet up with friends to go for a day out, I said "yes, I was going to ask if you were going for a night out since you are all dressed up, but then duly noted it was the day time". To which I think she found funny.
I stacked an assumption on her that she was at uni and she said yes, so I asked if she was studying a fun subject, to which she replied ecology.
I said something like "So you like to save the planet, huh? One fish at a time" or something catchy sounding like that.
I couldn't get her to invest although I could tell she was attracted on a primal level from holding strong eye contact.
Despite sensing a primal attraction, I could tell she was keen to move on, she said "hey, well, nice to meet you". But something wasn't right. I said "do you want to hang out another time"? This is where things get...interesting. I think she made up a story about having just broken up with a boyfriend the previous day...which I find too much of a coincidence.
So anyway, I said, well, that's understandable, if you want some time by yourself. I could have done with this number close as I haven't had one for months. But she was definitely not sounding like she was interested in anything like that. But I could tell this chick liked my approach. She seemed grateful for it, which doesn't happen often.
Approach 6
A short one, a 2 girl 1 guy set, which I wouldn't usually do, but I was riding the momentum of the previous interaction. I wasn't quite sure how old they were, probably late teens minimum, but I always have this anxiety on approaching younger sets. I saw them go past, I think they are definitely at least 18, run back, single the girl out I want to compliment, say "excuse me, you look amazing" to which she says "thanks". I am still not sure what the age situation is, so I ask "are you at uni" to which she says "no" as she is walking off. She might well have been 21 but not at uni. I don't know. That guy in the group might also have been her boyfriend, which was why she was avoidant. Or they might have been 17, but, looking back, she definitely looked early 20s to me.
Approach 7
There was a big gap between these approaches, because I catch the bus to the campus, find it dead on a Sunday, so come back after about 1/2 hour and get back in the field.
I saw a 2 set walking down the road that leads to the uni accommodation, I pick the one I find the most attractive, get in front and tell her she looks amazing. Then I stack an assumption on her about her being at uni. Turns out, she was still a school student. So it was just the context that made it seem like she was at uni. Anyway, I make my excuses and leave the area quickly, before anyone can remember what I looked like!
Approach 8 (final)
In the supermarket, just getting the a few things before the Sunday closing hours come into affect at 4pm. There were actually 2 potential targets, I walked past one of them multiple times but I was fixated on the first one I saw, then I just saw her browsing the protein powders and shakes.
I thought of something indirect like "gotta get your protein for your muscles, eh?" But then thought maybe that was too indirect.
So I just said "Hey, I hope this doesn't sound weird, but you look amazing". To which she said a bewildered "thanks" then I tried to expand with something like "so...what are you up to, just getting some items before the shops shut?". She replied something like "yep, I've just got to get these items then go out to my mum in the car park" which I found a weird detail. She definitely wasn't underaged, not sure why she mentioned that. Then she said "anyway, thanks" and meandered away to another isle. After this approach, I briefly thought about going to approach the other HB I had seen, but didn't want to push my luck with a cringy rejection. Once before Christmas I did my first uncalibrated approach of my session on a middle aged lady (by mistake) and she complained to one of the staff in there. I doubt anything came of it, but I maintain plausible deniability by only doing 1 approach during my shop.
So, that's all 8 approaches written up. A common sticking point is getting the girls hooked after the compliment. A lot of them just take it then leave, I am not sure how to show my intent to make it "man to woman" as they are walking off from me. I am afraid to push a bit more. A coupe de grace "just 1 more thing" could be tried, but then I would have to come up with something really engaging, of have 2-3 pre planned things to say.
