Aug 16th
Downtown Minneapolis
6 pm
Went outside.
I’m pretty limited to street game.
I want to tackle the following girls.
The ones that look like business professionals or college girls.
And I’m not hot with groups.
So I decided to give it a shot today.
I walked past 6 women, each in their own unique situations. I didn’t open any.
The first was a stunner in tight gym clothing. Juicy butt, high cheekbones, head head high and stone faced.
I didn’t open.
2nd was a girl walking on the curb edge of a three girl group. They were talking and I didn’t know how to open.
3rd was a lithe blonde, made eye contact and no signs of interest. There were people behind me and I’m working on increasing my bravery. I didn’t open.
4th was an unsteady seeming blonde who was looking in multiple directions. Was across the intersection from me. I didn’t cross when she was crossing and she smiled a bit. I didn’t open.
5th was a professional blonde in casual business clothing. She came out the corner and gave me a look and looked away. No stopping, or eye contact, just kept walking. She had ear phones in.
6th was a girl on a video call. Didn’t know how to interrupt.
After 6 girls, I felt low.
I went home and had dinner.
Headed out again at night.
9:30 pm
My first encounter was with a group.
I was attracted to one of the girl’s loud voice. Felt like she was confident. I didn’t open. I’m not ready for groups yet.
My second encounter:
I crossed a blonde girl, she was looking at her phone. I went past her, walked 5 steps and decided to go for it.
I turned around walked back and stood some distance away.
Opened her at a 45 degree angle.
I think you’re pretty and wanted to introduce myself.
Handshake(she takes a second to give me her hand) and name exchange. I didn’t tell her my name lol.
I hesitate then,(maybe a bit of awkwardness? Though that’s perfectly okay)
“Soo, are you out for a stroll”?
Her building doesn’t allow vaping(I’m not a fan of vaping) and she’s stepped out.
I say: “Rules huh”(Note: I know I like myself being wittier than that)
She agrees and then I say since you’re out here for some fresh air maybe we should walk around here(note to self: be more specific and make it a smaller request).
She says she should be honest that she has a boyfriend and that’s what her current romantic situation looks like.
I say she looks like a girl who can have two boyfriends.
She laughs and says actually and I get a bit fuzzy here.
But she tells me she and her bf are somewhat into poly
And I say that’s cool when did they get into the lifestyle.
She tells me she just moved here, and the way she spoke made me feel her bf wasn’t home. She also mentioned as a side note that she started dating her vf when he was married (Oh fuck was all this a sign…she did mention the fact that they travel for work a couple times throughout the convo though that may have been a response to my questions)
I bought up Kinky Fridays at Gay 90s club and her interest seemed piqued.
(Btw, I wanted to touch her, but somehow I never managed to throughout the entire convo. I ALSO WANT TO FUCKING FLIRT AND I’LL TRY NEXT TIMEEEEE)
Then I mentioned Fetlife and she hooked and talked about meeting a group in a bar recently who were swinging.
Then she told me her own experiences about poly. I asked if they do singles or couples and she said so far singles but it hasn’t worked out because they get to high or drunk.
I tried to give my own opinion on it but sort of fumbled, eh it’s okay.
We talked of her moving down here and she asked about me and I said I’m new town too, I told her it’s been 7 months and I moved here from X and I and she said that’s pretty new.
I tried to move her to sit somewhere. She said she had to sleep. I didn’t let her go. I talked and she responded.
She asked me if I live somewhere near. (BTW we were in front of her apartment complex the whole time).
I told her where I live and she said she’d just looked for an apartment in my condo that day. She showed me the apartment on her phone and told me she was just talking to her mom about it. She mentioned that a guy here was nice and helped her out, and I said it doesn’t have community events if that’s important to her(Note: Next time be more positive. I’m a positive guy, so don’t slip on that).
And so on and so forth.
I feel comfortable being talking about sex with women if a context is introduced, though I’m not personally vey sexual yet.
I tried to move her again( Note: I used the exact same move line and I felt I should have used something different. She said she really has to wake up in the morning as she has work she just moved here for work etc etc)
Anyways, I grabbed her contact info, by saying that since we’re both new in town it’s be cool to…idk something. I handed her my phone and asked her for her name again (Note: Try to remember the girl’s name and introduce myself in the beginning next time.)
She put down her first name and last name and said it seems like a fake number but it isn’t, (because it ends in a certain number).
I said my phone number ends in 69 and she said that’s hilarious.
I told her to take down my info and she told me to text it to her number.
I sent an icebreaker text on the spot with my number.
Afterwards I said it was nice meeting her, held out my hand to shake her hand again, it took her a moment before she grabbed it. I’m pretty sure the girl was okay with me though I wasn’t perfectly sure why she kept taking a while to take my hand.
As I was about to leave,
She said I know where she lives/ wagers she will live?( I don’t know if she was referring to her current apartment or that she was looking for one at my place) and that I have her number.
I told her that we should hang out sometime and she agreed(I feel enthusiastically).
As I was leaving,(I’d turned my back towards her) I told her to keep me in mind/let me know if her bf and her are looking for a third. (Note: I don’t like the sound of keep me in mind. Next time I’ll say let me know)
I think she said definitely.
I said Bye, you’re a sweetheart as I walked away. I wasn’t looking at her.
I think I want to keep her as a friend. I’d really like some friends.
Anyways, I’m proud of myself today. This is new to me. And I was feeling low.. But I went out again. I’d like myself to remember that if I read this again after a while.
Keeping the lack of tactics and all aside. I’m grateful to myself today.
Afterwards, I walked a few block back. Again just as I turned a corner, a girl came out the corner walking her dog.
How do I recover and open if someone pops out and is by me in a second?
I pivoted and headed back onto my original street, where the girl was. I sat down behind where she was. Then I had the idea of walking in front of her and sitting down so that I can open her when she crosses me because that makes it more comfortable/better/natural? Just a gut feeling.
Before I could execute, she went inside her apartment complex.
I wandered into the night.
There was a homely little bit sexy blonde walking with her dog outside
I thought fuck it, I’ll open from the back.
I started whistling while I was some ways back so that she knows I’m there. I didn’t make eye contact and let her see me.
Anyways I opened her(keep my voice more certain, and say my opener with less breaks)
I said “Hello”. Stopped for a long second. Said “I thought you were pretty.”
Long pause.
“I’d like to introduce myself to you.”
She kept
looking at me the whole time while “
ignoring” moving away slowly. That’s the best way to describe it. She seemed unsure and on guard.
Anyways, after the last line she said “No sorry”. I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t have given me a response. But after that third line for some reason she decided to respond. I was really far away from her and the whole thing felt weird.I shrugged and walked away.
Next was a blonde. This was a blonde who seemed somewhat elegant and had a packed suitcase. She seemed agitated, and seemed to avoid me from afar. Yet at the same time I can’t help but think it had absolutely nothing to do with me. I think she was already agitated and a bit cautious as it was late at night.
But my impact was 10% I’d say.
I was at home at 10:49.
Overall:
1) I was on autopilot. No guiding thoughts. I would like to focus more on what I’m saying and steer the conversation and use descriptive language I like.
2) My face feels stuffs. Im going to smile and laugh more.
3) Less questions, build more commonalities through statements and use descriptive observative language.
4)Be mindful of my emotions.
Warmly,
SunnyVibes
