Intro
I've been on almost a week-long bender with my wing and his friend, who is a bona fide natural. Watching this guy work has been endlessly fascinating and informative, and he's the best person with girls I have encountered so far. I'll probably just recap last night, though, since it was chock-full of events.
The Pirate
As fitting a name as any, since we've been talking about archetypes so frequently on the boards. At first, watching him wasn't anything particularly amazing, considering that his ability doesn't really lie in his conversation or banter, so much as his ability to engineer situations and his mindset. This guy is a stat stick, If we walk into a venue at any given time, he is one of the best-looking individuals there. He comes from old money and has been around high-status individuals since he was a child, which I'm assuming gives him better awareness in these sorts of settings, and provides him with a sort of entitlement that translates well to pick-up. If we open a set separately, he will swoop in and try to pull the baddest girl, or if she is locked, the next baddest. I suppose I'd describe his technique as frictionless, approaching; he is very good at making approaches that look entirely natural. He has the utmost confidence that he looks the best in a place, and does not balk at attempting to pull any girl.
First Venue - Karaoke Bar
Karaoke Bar, as soon as we enter my wing, and I get opened by a two-set that follows after us. One attractive brunette and one middling blonde. I contribute partially before leaning against the bar, and of course, his friend swoops in and takes the brunette. I didn't watch how the exchange happened.
I lean against the bar and open another blonde next to me, who gets into vivid conversation with me and buys me a drink before leaving to reunite with her friends.
We sing karaoke. Of course, I put on a magnificent performance, if you're wondering. The pirate sings with me, saving me from abject embarrassment. Another couple of minor approaches before we head out of there with a two-set, redirecting to the next club.
One of the two girls is too drunk to be allowed in, so they head home after exchanging numbers with my wing and the pirate.
Second Venue - Half Club Half Bar
Half-bar and half club, so a nice mix of things. This is where I really begin to appreciate this guy's talents. We're meandering for a while and marvelling at how a place could be so entirely packed with absolutely no attractive women, when we see this two-set.
These girls are IN CONTROL of the entire room, a certified ten and her mandatory tag-along, dancing with a vividness that made it clear they were entirely in their element, and appearing to me to be animated in a way that the rest of us weren't. There was a circle of guys, at least 5-7 that were just eyeing the two of them down while they threw ass on top of each other, so they were getting as much validation as they could possibly get.
The pirate leans into my ear and essentially says, "Watch this."
He first approaches backwards, until his back is up against hers, and tries to catch her gaze over his shoulder, but she doesn't look back. She separates from him and ends up unwittingly in the midst of the circle, and the pirate goes to speak with one of the guys who is eyeing the two of them, I'm assuming, telling him that they should move together.
It was a blur of motion, and I don't recall entirely how the two girls separated, but he waited until the other guy distracted her friend and reached his hand out, and they began dancing.
I actually started laughing, and thinking to myself that that was just such a beautiful display of game, and I was so glad that I witnessed it.
He didn't pull, and I guess for some people there's not really anything impressive about dancing with one girl, but I guess to me it just demonstrated that if you position yourself correctly, you can pull any girl in a venue. His fundamentals are also on a different level lmao.
I head to the bar area with my wing, and we see two blonde bombshells. He looks at them and verbalizes the same thing that I'm thinking, saying that he never does well with those types of girls. I tell him we still have to go try.
He goes in and exchanges a couple of sentences with no energy. I tap mine on the shoulder and get frozen out.
Whatever, we bounce from the venue and leave the pirate there alone.
Third Venue - Rooftop Bar
At this point, I guess that I'm on, since I've got a good couple of approaches going. We get to this higher end venue and lean against the bar, looking really nonchalant and whatnot. I see a lady who can only be described as the lady in the red dress, dressed to the nines and looking like a 10, along with a friend who walks up to the bar. They're both in their 30s, although they look phenomenal.
I walk to her friend, and tell her frankly that the two of them are on a different level compared to everyone else in the venue, and they receive me warmly. They've got the heaviest and sexiest Spanish accents I've heard in real life. I was almost stumbling, since I wasn't expecting the approach to go smoothly, and they float over towards the bar after saying goodbye in an extremely elegant fashion.
I go with my wing towards the edge of the roof, where we make an approach on two hispanic girls and get blown out, right in front of this table of french girls who we hadn't even seen. We sit at the edge of the roof, and as my wing approaches a girl to his right that was looking Instagram model-esque, I notice that the three french girls are trying to take a picture.
I swoop in and offer my services, opening the 3-set impeccably and having all of them eating out of my hand.
I talk mostly to the girl closest to me, who is the least attractive, but also speaks the most english. The other two look at me captivated. They are very, very attractive girls. In the middle is a girl that I would consider a 8-9, and to the left is a girl that is maybe a strong 7 but also my type. My wing blunders the approach on the girl to the left, and then rapidly switches to the girl in the middle and also blunders the approach. I try to pull out a chair for him, but some guys don't understand the importance of getting comfortable in a space before communicating. They are still focused on me, and have the same look as I'm running relatively little game but running relatively high on energy. He turns to me and tells me we should go.
I look at him and I just shrug, and figure whatever. We'll go. I give them all intense eye contact and the handclasp before leaving. In the moment, It was a relatively quick decision and maybe socially calibrated considering he was the person that I came with, even though I understand that he had made a social faux pas. In this situation, I guess it has more to do with morality, but how would you respond to a similar situation.
As I'm exiting the bar, I wave goodbye to the lady in red.
She waves back and we hit the ground floor.
After that, we swing back to the venue where the pirate is but it's mostly dead.
Fourth Venue - Dive Bar
Something I'm learning about myself is that I might simply lack the actual horniness required to want to make a play materialize. These guys were starving and adamant that they should continue. So we hit a fourth venue.
We walk into the fourth venue, and immediately spot a brunette girl that is a 10. I'm attempting to approach in as nonchalant a fashion as possible, leaning up next to her at the bar, before my wing walks up and opens her immediately.
The bartender presses the girl about not paying for a drink, where she starts complaining that x guy's name ordered it for her. I was thinking it was either her boyfriend or promoter, as she was talking to a blonde friend who appeared. At the same time, the pirate first interjects about the bartender, and when she doesn't bite, opens the friend of hers who appears, a tall blonde in a seamless way. Leans against the bar, and it happens so effortlessly that it's comical.
Sitting near the wall watching the bar, I'm able to watch these two approaches play out in unison, which makes the contrast even more stark.
On my wing's end, It initially goes pretty well, but I think that he has a form of mild autism, and is unable to read social cues, because he isn't adequately responsive to the girl's signals. I watch her kind of close off and watch him move closer, until eventually she tells him that she's gonna take a lap and goes to sit by the guy who bought her drinks.
The pirate speaks to the blonde initially, she turns away, he distances himself, and then re-engages and begins bantering with her naturally. They eventually start eyeing each other, and he effectively hooks.
My wing comes and sits next to me, and asks me if he should keep the play going. I tell him not to, that she wasn't feeling him and that I could tell by her body language.
The girl that the pirate is speaking to falls off a stool and starts bawling in the middle of the bar.
This is a grown woman crying at 5 am in the middle of a bar because she got too drunk and fell off. I was just struck by the fact that we live in entirely different realities. Her friend crouches down and consoles her, so does the pirate.
There was a lot going on in the bar at once, somebody got kicked out for almost fighting, and guys were grouped up around this girl making sure she was okay.
Eventually, the brunette sits on a chair, and my wing approaches her again. He walks over and asks if her friend is okay, to which her (who I'm assuming is her) man walks up and tells him to go over there. He says he's just checking on her, and he tells my wing to fuck off.
I start to get up as the situation is escalating and I want to help him dismount the tiger without losing status, so I begin walking over just as he starts walking back, and the Mexican guy is gesticulating in the way that someone trying to start a fight does. We lock eyes for a very tense couple of seconds, before I kind of raise my eyebrows and lift a hand like what's going on?
This kind of showed me how powerful nonverbal communication is, because it kind of made him unconsciously qualify himself. He immediately points at my wing and says "It's not me, get your homeboy." Whatever.
The pirate actually ends up leaving with these guys, they hop into a Maybach and ride into the night. Pretty crazy outing with a whole bunch of experiences I can draw from.
Takeaways
Honestly, what I think I'm lacking is really just the mindset. The pirate has it in terms of getting girls in the same way this Mexican guy has it in terms of confrontation, the certainty that what you're doing is right, or that people will respond to you positively. Besides that, maybe improve my fundamentals and always take the shot. Adopting mannerisms from the pirate is probably primarily the benefit that I will glean, but being aware of his style of game should be helpful in the long run.
