sweet chick boring conversation

[RyRy]

So recently my luck has changed with girls, I've been talking to a girl for a bit now but she's really hard to crack.

We both share a heap of the same interests one big one is gaming and collecting movies, we talk every day she usually initiates the conversation which I thought was a good thing that she texts first and we talk alot, but she's very short most the time, I'm almost to the point that as awesome as she seems I'm getting kinda bored texting the same shit.

But the other night she went out had a few drinks she just wouldn't stop talking as if she wanted to talk not like usual,

I'm ashamed to say that I'm sorta keen on her, but I'm pretty sure that she's not at all interested in me,
Is there a way to change this, like get her more invested into the conversation talk more so it's not just me asking all the questions or should I just accept it's not going anywhere and give in,

 

[mkivtt]

Well, my guess is: talking about movies and games = friend zone. You need to flirt with her and tease her man... not talk about games and movies.

It's good that she initiates the conversation, but if she doesn't really respond much to what you txt her after that, and gives you nothing to work with, then it's really hard to turn things around. I have a girl like that too right now... sooo frustrating those stupid yes/no answers, or sending something funny/witty and seeing the lack of enthusiasm in the response. I'm giving it the rest of this week and then I'll just move on. I recommend you do the same. Try to throw her an invite to lunch or coffee and if she declines once or twice, just drop it and don't text her again. If she contacts you after that just say something like "hey, I'm not really into chasing girls, or repeatedly trying to meet up. This text buddy thing isn't working out. If you change your mind later, hit me up." or whatever.

 

[RyRy]

How should I flirt with her,
I'm over trying something and getting nothing out of her,

Yeah I asked her to get food on Sat then she said yes or she knocks off work early Wednesday,
And why does she talk to me so much is that just something chicks do with guys who're friends.

 

[Pato]

Hey RyRy,

I agree with mkivtt. Talk about things that are personal, not movies and video games. If you do find yourself talking about it, you can still find out more about her by asking deeper questions, but I'd probably try staying off of these topics. Move to more personal and deeper topics: her passions, dreams, and aspirations, her likes, interests, and more. Just talking about games and movies will be boring to her, whether or not she actually likes them.

As for how to recapture interest, it'll be tough to do, but this article might help some: https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultimate-guide-how-get-girl-back
This has a lot of info that can help you in your situation.

If she agreed to get food with you, try to get her home afterwards for dessert or a movie (or whatever you can think of). If she comes with, there's a good chance that she is interested, but you have to move quickly (try kissing her within 5-10 mins of getting to the house). If you don't, she can/will go cold and auto-reject, and then you are done.

Good luck and I hoped I helped!
-Pato

 

[RyRy]

Thanks again for the tips guys it has indeed helped,
The problem I'm facing is that's all she enjoys, we both don't have much if a life sitting at home watching movies or playing games is something we both enjoy.

I ask her questions but she either ignores it or doesn't talk much about it, she did once when she was drunk seemed like she was interested in me asking me questions and stuff, and telling me more about myself,

I'll see how I go on the day we hang out.

 

[mkivtt]

Yeah, it's tough. I am not a great talker, don't have any real funny or interesting stories on my own part. However I'm great at getting people to talk about themselves, deep diving, teasing, and situational humor/funny comments.

So if a girl is a natural talker, I have a fairly easy time. If she isn't, I am in a lot of trouble, because I can't carry the conversation with cool / funny stories myself.

If you have one of the latter, it'll be hard.


Oh, when you do take her out, don't escalate too quickly. I don't agree with the "you have to take her home and move on her" advice... especially if your relationship has been a bit platonic. Don't try to change it all at once. Warm her up with a few questions about what you always talk about, then change subject when the opportunity presents itself.