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I wasn't going to write this report but something happened to me tonight and I need to take my mind off it. I also haven't posted a field report in a decent amount of time. So here goes.
It's my rest day but I still try to hit my step count. And what better way to do that than to walk through the mall? So I do just that. As I'm walking I see this girl who had clearly just come from the gym sitting down at SweetGreen by herself. She looks really good so I double back and walk toward her.
I then ask her what her gym goal is and she tells me that she just signed up for her first competition and that right now she's focused on overall health but when the time comes closer she'll really hone in on what she needs.
Her energy is fairly bubbly and friendly and I just peg her as having been a cheerleader before. And I cold-read her on that. I was correct!
She was impressed. She also claims that she's done a myriad of other sports and is currently a swim coach.
She then tells me that she's one of the fittest people I'll ever meet, and the way she said it made it seem like she was qualifying to me. I look at her slightly suggestively and I tell her: "I can tell"
She asks what I'm doing and I say I'm meeting up with a friend later and I thought I'd walk around before then. She then says she likes doing things alone and I agreed, telling her I even go to the movies by myself pretty consistently. Apparently that's something she wouldn't do alone though.
I also do some deep diving. I ask her if she's close with her parents and she says that she is. Her dad is actually the one that got her into fitness and it's actually her mom that doesn't want her showing off her body in a competition.
I then ask her what she's in college for and she says she wants to be a physical therapist. I ask her what moment made her realize that? And she responds with a heartfelt story about her sister being in an accident and needing it. And she wanted to help people the way her sister was helped. I tell her that's really awesome.
I then ask about her hobbies and she tells me she loves the beach and I tell her I hate the beach. And she then tells me it's her happy place because her parents took the family there as a kid and it reminds her of better days. I tell her I get that and for me family outings that I remember being happy about as a kid was going to the movies (tying back to why I like going to the movies even by myself) and that I can't recall a single time I went to the beach with my fam as a kid.
One moment that stuck out to me was after a slight lull in conversation she chimes in:
Eventually she says she has to go somewhere which is unfortunate as I was gonna try to move us to doing something else, but I nix it.
She then goes to get a case for her food and I naturally have to close when she gets back (in hindsight I should have gone for the close during the actual interaction, but I didn't feel a good time for it). She comes back and sits down and we continue talking briefly. Knowing she has to go I decide to be the one to stand up first and get us moving. As we're leaving, she starts saying "well it was nice meeting you" as if she was blowing me off. But given our conversation, I felt this was a bit of a test to see if I wouldn't go for it. Or maybe it was her way of saying "It's now or never". I'm not sure, I'd really like to get someone with more experience's opinion on that specific thing.
Anyway I obviously don't let it end there. So I go for the number close:
So we exchange information. As she tells me her number and I save her name I ask her what her favorite emoji is and text it to her as well as my name:
Takeaways
Really not much to take away from this. But I will say this may be one of the few approaches where I did not give any direct compliment whatsoever to the girl whatsoever. Not a single one. All attraction built would have been thru teasing, flirting, and framing. It was a bit different for me but I enjoyed the experience. This was not something I intentionally went out to do or work on. Just kinda happened based on the flow of the conversation and the vibe of the girl (unlike how I approached the NFL Cheerleader in that FR, where I had a specific plan in mind). However, I'm a little worried things might have been too platonic.
As always feedback is appreciated. What do you guys think of the texts she sent me? I feel like it's giving me "sweet puppy dog" energy but it could just be insecurity rearing its ugly head due to past experiences.
Till next time!
It's my rest day but I still try to hit my step count. And what better way to do that than to walk through the mall? So I do just that. As I'm walking I see this girl who had clearly just come from the gym sitting down at SweetGreen by herself. She looks really good so I double back and walk toward her.
We then discuss outside meals that we like that are fairly low calories but hit our macros decently. During this time, when I realized she had hooked I ask to sit with her. Given how the seats and tables were arranged, I couldn't sit next to her so I had to opt for right across from her.
I then ask her what her gym goal is and she tells me that she just signed up for her first competition and that right now she's focused on overall health but when the time comes closer she'll really hone in on what she needs.
Her energy is fairly bubbly and friendly and I just peg her as having been a cheerleader before. And I cold-read her on that. I was correct!
She was impressed. She also claims that she's done a myriad of other sports and is currently a swim coach.
She then tells me that she's one of the fittest people I'll ever meet, and the way she said it made it seem like she was qualifying to me. I look at her slightly suggestively and I tell her: "I can tell"
She asks what I'm doing and I say I'm meeting up with a friend later and I thought I'd walk around before then. She then says she likes doing things alone and I agreed, telling her I even go to the movies by myself pretty consistently. Apparently that's something she wouldn't do alone though.
I also do some deep diving. I ask her if she's close with her parents and she says that she is. Her dad is actually the one that got her into fitness and it's actually her mom that doesn't want her showing off her body in a competition.
I then ask her what she's in college for and she says she wants to be a physical therapist. I ask her what moment made her realize that? And she responds with a heartfelt story about her sister being in an accident and needing it. And she wanted to help people the way her sister was helped. I tell her that's really awesome.
I then ask about her hobbies and she tells me she loves the beach and I tell her I hate the beach. And she then tells me it's her happy place because her parents took the family there as a kid and it reminds her of better days. I tell her I get that and for me family outings that I remember being happy about as a kid was going to the movies (tying back to why I like going to the movies even by myself) and that I can't recall a single time I went to the beach with my fam as a kid.
One moment that stuck out to me was after a slight lull in conversation she chimes in:
Normally, I would joke about how she's the fiftieth girl I've come up to today but I decided to try something that seemed a bit more genuine. I say:
Eventually she says she has to go somewhere which is unfortunate as I was gonna try to move us to doing something else, but I nix it.
She then goes to get a case for her food and I naturally have to close when she gets back (in hindsight I should have gone for the close during the actual interaction, but I didn't feel a good time for it). She comes back and sits down and we continue talking briefly. Knowing she has to go I decide to be the one to stand up first and get us moving. As we're leaving, she starts saying "well it was nice meeting you" as if she was blowing me off. But given our conversation, I felt this was a bit of a test to see if I wouldn't go for it. Or maybe it was her way of saying "It's now or never". I'm not sure, I'd really like to get someone with more experience's opinion on that specific thing.
Anyway I obviously don't let it end there. So I go for the number close:
So we exchange information. As she tells me her number and I save her name I ask her what her favorite emoji is and text it to her as well as my name:
I ask what she likes to do and she names off some activities.
We reach a point where we're gonna go different directions (before we started walking I let her know where I would be heading so she knew I wouldn't follow her and made our parting of ways smoother). I give her a side hug and we part ways. She likes the message of the emoji she chose. I then send her an icebreaker text about 20 minutes later:
That's where it stands right now. I'm not a fan of the "you seem really nice lollll" text. It concerns me that I may have erred too much on the side of platonic conversation. However due to what I alluded to at the beginning I really don't know if I could see this girl any time soon anymore. So I'm not really sure what to do. Same with another girl I am currently texting.Me: "happy to have met u cheerleader"
Her: "Aww thank you you too"
Her: You seem really nice lollll"
Takeaways
Really not much to take away from this. But I will say this may be one of the few approaches where I did not give any direct compliment whatsoever to the girl whatsoever. Not a single one. All attraction built would have been thru teasing, flirting, and framing. It was a bit different for me but I enjoyed the experience. This was not something I intentionally went out to do or work on. Just kinda happened based on the flow of the conversation and the vibe of the girl (unlike how I approached the NFL Cheerleader in that FR, where I had a specific plan in mind). However, I'm a little worried things might have been too platonic.
As always feedback is appreciated. What do you guys think of the texts she sent me? I feel like it's giving me "sweet puppy dog" energy but it could just be insecurity rearing its ugly head due to past experiences.
Till next time!
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