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so yesterday, i had one of my worst/weakest approaches in recent memory. me and a few friends were out casually (i wasn't planning on approaching) grabbing a few drinks at this little local show, when my friend points to this very attractive girl and tells me he went on a few dates with her (never fucked) before ghosting her after his ex took him back (which is wild to me because this girl is more attractive than his ex...) so i ask if he would mind me approaching and in spite of being v out of state i approach just to not be a pussy. I go in with the (admittedly very weak) angle of mentioning my friend and he told me about what happened and he feels bad about it, while immediately offering my take that he was being silly as she is very cute. she says she wasnt bothered and is seeing someone new now and tells me a few things about him so i know this is an actual guy (but lets be honest... if she's out alone she's not seriously seeing anyone). I usually approach very playfully communicating a sexual vibe, but i'll be honest i was relatively awkward and came across rather platonically. I gave her a few complements to try to make the interaction less platonic, but I couldn't really break that wall so I just let her do most of the talking, she's one of those girls who i guess is just overly nice and friendly so it was hard to get flirty/teasing because she'd interpret everything i said so literally (not pick up on subtext, almost a bit autistic). normally i'd just chalk this up as a botched approach, but she continued to chill with me during the show and even when she left to go take a video of the band when her friend was singing (invited me to go with her, which i politely refused) and also when she went to the bathroom she went came right back to me (continuing her boring networking-event type small talk). even after i said goodbye and left, she reaproached me when i was standing by the door waiting for my uber "oh hey i thought you left". the weird thing was that she was being pretty clingy but yet the vibe was so platonic/friendly (i mean less platonic than with an actual purely platonic acquaintance but not by much), and i finally started to make things a bit flirtier at the end but not by much. she was super nice, but something felt a bit socially off about her, maybe shes a bit autistic frankly (very good looking tho, honestly like a 9 and very natural beauty not done up type at all). at the end i invited her to this party i was going to this saturday which i felt like was the safest bet. oh, earlier in the interaction we talked about hangin and she said she'd be down to hang and i literally asked her what she meant by that (the vibe was so stale i literally didn't understand her intention at all) and she said she'd be very down to hang but wasn't looking for anything serious or romantic.
feeling a bit in dissaray from that approach i went out afterwards and brought a girl home but faced some tough LMR (bummer), but she says shes down on the second meeting but she just doesn't do first meeting hookups (dumb and i pushed back as much as i could, but at least a nice booty call).
so here's the weird thing about the first girl, so apparently she found out about this other event im going to be at friday - tonight (i mentioned it in passing and she found out more details and is going) and will be there too as well as the party on saturday. so i'll be seeing her twice and still want to close (she's hot plus i'd personally enjoy fucking with my friends head a bit and getting with her for the novelty, oh shes also bi so instant 3some opportunity). the problem is i'm not sure how I'm going to get out of the platonic vibe since she's such a "social butterfly/networking-event" personality. I figured i'd just try to build some social momentum, talk to some other girls in front of her and really try to get flirty but something about her just seems tough to crack. its really the niceness/friendlyness type that i just dont know how to get flirty with. any advice or insight appreciated as always, thanks.
feeling a bit in dissaray from that approach i went out afterwards and brought a girl home but faced some tough LMR (bummer), but she says shes down on the second meeting but she just doesn't do first meeting hookups (dumb and i pushed back as much as i could, but at least a nice booty call).
so here's the weird thing about the first girl, so apparently she found out about this other event im going to be at friday - tonight (i mentioned it in passing and she found out more details and is going) and will be there too as well as the party on saturday. so i'll be seeing her twice and still want to close (she's hot plus i'd personally enjoy fucking with my friends head a bit and getting with her for the novelty, oh shes also bi so instant 3some opportunity). the problem is i'm not sure how I'm going to get out of the platonic vibe since she's such a "social butterfly/networking-event" personality. I figured i'd just try to build some social momentum, talk to some other girls in front of her and really try to get flirty but something about her just seems tough to crack. its really the niceness/friendlyness type that i just dont know how to get flirty with. any advice or insight appreciated as always, thanks.
