LR Tacos

[dage]

This is a pretty quick one. Backstory (from this post a couple weekends ago):

Ran into this one chick who one of my wings had pulled to my place a few weeks ago (I'd pulled a different girl that same night). My wing said he'd basically ghosted her after pulling. We danced (read: simulated sex on the dancefloor) and she told me she was in a hoe phase. Did a quick takeaway to ask my buddy if he was cool with me hooking up with her because obviously I'm not tryin to step on my wing's toes, and he gave the all clear. Unfortunately her unattractive friends were insanely lame and came to demand that she leave the venue with them because they were tired. Tried to get her to stay and hang but no dice (weak). Grabbed her number and she promised to see me later this week so we'll see.

She was very responsive to texts last week and after a little bit of flakiness (we had a date scheduled Wednesday and she cancelled) she invited me out to drink with her friends Thursday night. Good vibe, bought her a drink and played beer pong with her friends and made out. Eventually all her friends left, and she drove me back to my place but wouldn't come up because she said she was on her period. Seemed legit judging by the tampon string — not that I really care, but she said the idea of period sex grossed her out. I just fingered her in her car as she stroked my dick. Made plans to hang out Monday or Tuesday.

Cut to yesterday and I invite her over to my place for tacos and TV. Our texts were already getting pretty sexually suggestive, so she knew what was up. When she arrives, I let her get comfortable for a few minutes, get to making out on the couch, then pick her little 5'2" body up and carry her straight to my bed. Clothes off, condom on, easy peasy.

Afterward I made her some bomb tacos. Then we watched House and she gave me a blowjob while some dude got his fucking leg amputated.

Takeaway: Though it was a second date I felt like I didn't have to work too hard for this one. I'm thinking her seeing me pull a different chick the first night we met planted the idea in her head of me as someone who gets laid, so I got to skip right to chill comfort building.

Anyway, cute girl but nothing crazy, like a 6-7 for me. Will probably try to keep her around on a periodic rotation.

Edit: One other thing worth mentioning. She popped the "what are you looking for" question on our first date and I gave a response that I'd workshopped with some buddies and I like a lot — plus, it's very honest and true for me. It's basically this: "I think looking only for a relationship is co-dependent. But only looking for flings and hookups is a sign of fear of intimacy — plus, one of the best parts of life is forming deep connections with people you love. So right now I'm just interested in dating and getting to know people, and if a relationship comes out of that then I'm open to it." Her response was that she felt exactly the same way and had never been able to articulate it that way. Sets all the right frames imo.

 

[Beck Bass]

I think looking only for a relationship is co-dependent. But only looking for flings and hookups is a sign of fear of intimacy — plus, one of the best parts of life is forming deep connections with people you love.

Nice frame!

 

[Derek da man]

her seeing me pull a different chick the first night we met planted the idea in her head of me as someone who gets laid, so I got to skip right to chill comfort building.

absolutely - you've just dealt with her worries of being judged a slut and she probably got the low down on your from her friend which is why you get an easy ride. She still wanted to meet you with her friends around just to make sure what her friend said was right but beyond that it was just logistics.

she drove me back to my place but wouldn't come up because she said she was on her period.

Whilst it was probably true, this was probably also a test to see how you react when you didn't get the lay. I've had quite a few girls who avoid one-off hook-ups, and therfore sex on a first date, but like to have a guy they can date casually or to keep a guy in rotation. They want a man who is good company, they fancy and can deliver good sex when they want it but won't get all arsey when they change their mind. Equally they don't want to get into a full on relationship with him

Though it was a second date

Just because you don't get a lay on the first date doesn't make it a fail. As long as you remain sexual and escalate and keep out of the "boyfriend zone" it sets a good premise for the second.

 

[dage]

absolutely - you've just dealt with her worries of being judged a slut and she probably got the low down on your from her friend which is why you get an easy ride. She still wanted to meet you with her friends around just to make sure what her friend said was right but beyond that it was just logistics.

Whilst it was probably true, this was probably also a test to see how you react when you didn't get the lay. I've had quite a few girls who avoid one-off hook-ups, and therfore sex on a first date, but like to have a guy they can date casually or to keep a guy in rotation. They want a man who is good company, they fancy and can deliver good sex when they want it but won't get all arsey when they change their mind. Equally they don't want to get into a full on relationship with him

Both good points!