FR Taking an easy day

[SparklingWadah]

Goal​

Continuing from a recent Field Report I needed to work on better nonverbals so girls don't react defensively. https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/a-volume-high-score.29507/post-181275

1. Relax your body language and mind

As I have been very socially drained recently, today I took a "easy day", where I went out to explore some new venues and focused on enjoying the present. I didn't put too much pressure on myself to approach.

Outing​

Missed Opportunities​

I went to visit a park today with a beautiful lakeside view. There were tons of people, but mostly families, children, and couples. Only 1-2 girls seemed just cute enough to catch my attention while I was out after they walked by me, but I failed to approach them. I was in my head, hadn't warmed up that day, and felt unfamiliar because I hadn't done much approaching in a park before.

Takeaway: Remember to relax and get out of your head. Say "hi" to a couple people while out to warm up. Remember that you need to break the inertia and do your first approach.

Approach 1​

I then went to try out a new milk tea shop. It was pretty packed but not a ton of single girls hanging out. Eventually I noticed a pair of girls sitting outside, and thought one of them looked cute. After procrastinating for several minutes, I resolved to do something after picking up my drink, and made eye contact with one of the girls after walking out the door.

I approached somewhat hesitantly, because I was nervous. It was a set of two girls, and there was a couple on a date at the table right next to theirs who could spectate. But I found myself in front of them them anyway. They seemed a bit taken aback by my approach and looked confused at me. My voice was a bit low and I leaned back without fidgeting, but my body language was a bit small and unexpressive. My voice seemed decently expressive though. I noticed they weren't that attractive up close, but I pressed on to see how far I could go and asked if they minded me sitting with them for a minute. They said no, they "were talking about girl things", so I bid them farewell.

Takeaway: I may have seemed unconfident before my approach while still walking up to them. However despite multiple barriers that individually could hold me back (multiple girls, spectators, low energy, unfamiliar location, etc.) I was able to still approach.

Outcome​

I didn't expect to approach anyone today but I managed to get 1 in, which is great. 1 Approach per day even on "rest days" can add up to pretty decent volume.