Taking opportunities

[Superlife]

It's just an inner game block. F$%K.

Walking up to a student nurse, swag in my step, I say hello and sit down.

She asks me my name and birthday, and of course I let her know ( must-have info when getting the vaccine ).

Meanwhile she's piercing the back of my head with laser-like eye contact (it was f'cking intense) which I think I broke once not realizing it, but a second time I held despite my somewhat vulnerable state of not being a spring chicken but getting the shot.

Her supervisor was hovering around. I thought later that's why I didn't ask questions of my own.

The student nurse was peppering me with questions - what were you doing before coming here. You were working.

Although I wasn't - a touchy subject for me right now.

And so I thanked her and left for my 15 min wait to leave.

F*&K.

She even saw my ID so my age and face weren't an issue LOL.

I want to say I didn't really have a chance to talk as her supervisor was there but.. she also went to the table a couple feet away.

Maybe I should just go see a therapist.

 

[Superlife]

Although it occurs to me now she might be looking for a sugar daddy.

 

[Superlife]

Maybe I should have included more detail, or posed the question, I was hoping for analysis of this interaction. Anyone?

 

[Chase]

@Superlife,

If you find yourself in these situations a lot and aren't at the level yet where you can smoothly/skillfully ask out hired guns in tight windows like this under supervision, I've seen a few guys carry around business-like cards they print specifically to hand out for social reasons.

e.g., it'd have their name, a little social info about them, and contact information on it on one side, then some little message on the other side of the card like "I like to meet high quality people. Let's get lunch."

It's not always going to get you a date but it gives you a non-zero chance of getting the girl out. Better than not asking.

Of course, if you're smooth, you can always just say, "Forgive me if this is too personal, it's just... you're not single, are you?" If she says yes then it's "Would it be presumptuous of me to say we should get food or drinks sometime?" If she says no then it's "Well I had to ask!" then you just continue with the conversation as normal. Do this smoothly and even if she doesn't agree to go out with you she will usually be flattered, and even more flirtatious after.

You need those little qualifiers before you ask ("Forgive me if this is too personal", "Would it be presumptuous of me") due to the nature of where you're meeting her. They help prepare her for what you're about to ask, and also show her you understand you're stepping outside social norms here a bit, which makes you come across socially savvy, rather than boorish.

Chase

 

[Skjöldr]

@Chase here's what i did for my very first number close. Black Friday november 2019. I had just found this forum and started reading theory about pick up. So im at the mall. Absolutely packed with people. It was one of my first of those many outings i would do when i told myself i was gonna go out and approach and ended up just walking around town for hours. I see this cashier in a shop. Tall, blonde and beautiful. Looks about 17. So i think and think and think. It's packed with people, so i gotta make it quick and under the radar plus i have massive AA

Aha! I go into notes on my phone and type in "Hey i know this is random and that you are working, but i just thought you looked cute and i wanna invite you out some time. If you're not interested just hand me the phone back. Your #: ____________". So i go into the shop and get in line. When i reach the check out i hand her my phone and say "Busy tonight?" and she goes "Yeahh..." while reading (it's not unusual to hand a cashier your phone for a product you're looking for/discount/etc) and then she says "HAHA, okayyyyyy" and types in and i go "Have a good night" and walk out.

Anyways it completely blew up despite her actually texting me back and seeming interested. I got some extremely horrendous advice by i think Cocporn on the chat, but my lil technique there worked at getting her number. I later tried it on a server at a restaurant in Summer 2020, but she said no and gave me the phone back haha.

 

[Superlife]

@Superlife,

If you find yourself in these situations a lot and aren't at the level yet where you can smoothly/skillfully ask out hired guns in tight windows like this under supervision, I've seen a few guys carry around business-like cards they print specifically to hand out for social reasons.

e.g., it'd have their name, a little social info about them, and contact information on it on one side, then some little message on the other side of the card like "I like to meet high quality people. Let's get lunch."

It's not always going to get you a date but it gives you a non-zero chance of getting the girl out. Better than not asking.

Of course, if you're smooth, you can always just say, "Forgive me if this is too personal, it's just... you're not single, are you?" If she says yes then it's "Would it be presumptuous of me to say we should get food or drinks sometime?" If she says no then it's "Well I had to ask!" then you just continue with the conversation as normal. Do this smoothly and even if she doesn't agree to go out with you she will usually be flattered, and even more flirtatious after.

You need those little qualifiers before you ask ("Forgive me if this is too personal", "Would it be presumptuous of me") due to the nature of where you're meeting her. They help prepare her for what you're about to ask, and also show her you understand you're stepping outside social norms here a bit, which makes you come across socially savvy, rather than boorish.

Chase

Thanks for the great tips Chase. Yes better than not asking. I'm going to follow through with this.
As for the qualifying comments that too makes sense. I will internalize that.

My background is the betaish type, but now I come across more alpha in body language (not consciously anymore) but during the transition my social skills fell off partly because what I felt what I was doing with women wasn't working... too much nice guy rapport I thought (it was nice guy syndrome but also continual self doubt which I suppose go hand in hand) .. and then I guess I didn't rapport enough (ie basic social skills) and felt I needed to be superhuman pua maybe with my conversation...And so I was weird for awhile (not saying much of anything) and then I was alpha male but with beta conversation... and finally it was f@ck it, back in my shell.

I seem to have trouble going from one end of the spectrum to the other, I think women expect me to be more domineering, but instead I think I came off socially uncalibrated instead. That's what I'm trying to say.. it's like I was only socially calibrated by saying and being - not beta persay- but socially safe... I know there's a time and a place to pull out the risky comments but it's like I've been subconsciously blocked from doing it (I blame my ex wife lol).

My cocky funny attitude dropped off in recent years, but I'm just going to have to work on that.. and not go overkill lol. Anyway thanks again .

 

[Fuck This]

So some mindsets when you find someone in this situation:

I'm never gonna have this chance again, and I don't have a date with her now. I GOT NUTHIN' TO LOSE...


I still think about the sweet young nurse during the Blood Drive in college. An older nurse was prepping me for the blood draw and called her over to "Check out the veins on this one Tiffany...." . Talk about a wingwoman.....

 

[Superlife]

So some mindsets when you find someone in this situation:

I'm never gonna have this chance again, and I don't have a date with her now. I GOT NUTHIN' TO LOSE...

True that.

"Check out the veins on this one Tiffany...." . Talk about a wingwoman.....

LOL. That's awesome. In my case supervisor nurse also didn't seem to care if I chatted up the student as she drifted a few feet away ... surprising since older chicks seem to like cockblocking me with the younger ones. I was chatting up some young blonde once at a bar and her much older friend was like, "oh the girl's on a tear after breaking up with her bf. U can have her if u look me in the eye." WTF. Some weird ass compliance move in reverse? LOL. Oh obstacles .