Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or bad?

[razir110]

Guys, another interesting question.. This is has been in my mind for years and I still can't figure out the proper answer.
What do you think about talking about past relationships or relationships in general on the first date? For me on one side it's a good way to pull the conversation into a more serious, romantic and intimate route. On the other side, I don't know if it's a good idea, since we are meeting each other and the past doesn't matter, it's better to build something new there, rater then talk about past relationships. Plus she can realize she still has feelings for some guy and it could ruin the date's outcome. And don't u think that that kind of talk makes you sort of a friend? Kinda friendly shoulder to tell her past frustrations to. Many guys advice to cut off that type of conversation straight away and move to another topic, but damn.. relationships is a good topic to get closer!The question is, does it get you closer in the right direction? Doesn't it also put you in the "possible boyfriend, so lets take thing easy" category? What kind of things you would share about you past relationships if you share any? Any bullshit stories that you would tell to make her fell more comfortable? At the same time if you don't talk about past relationships and just try to bring out some general points, eventually the conversation will flow into examples probably you will end sharing the past with her and/or she with you.
Opinions please!

 

[Richard]

Re: Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or ba

Bad idea!!!!! Never talk about past relationships on the first date! Who wants to hear about the memories and experiences a potential partner has had romantically or sexually? Seems like a turn off right?

 

[razir110]

Re: Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or ba

And would you talk about relationships at all? Like in present tense. When I am with some one, I bla bla, so generically speaking, not something that happened to you or her.

 

[Richard]

Re: Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or ba

Not necessarily, I mean obviously you can and it shouldn't make to much of a difference. In my book, I generally don't mention the thought of a relationship because if she's chasing you, and you actually want her as a girlfriend (seems like you do) then you slow down with her a bit and she'll bring up the relationship, and mention her want of having you as a boyfriend. You ALWAYS want the girl to bring up a potential relationship first.
-Hope this helped,
Richard

 

[Nova]

Re: Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or ba

honestly i don't think relationships are a bad topic per se, it all depends on how you approach it as a topic and on what kind of emotions you convey and create in the girl when you are talking about relationships. either way i think it is probably best to not talk about relationships unless you really know how to approach the subject and more importantly know when to change the subject.

 

[mkivtt]

Re: Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or ba

Terrible idea IMO.

What you CAN do, is ask in a funny way. E.g. if you met online, ask her about e.g. how her first dates with people from online have been. Insert a funny story about this weird girl you met who kept darting her eyes around the room and not once looked you in the eye, other weird dates you've been on, etc. Ask her about all the creeps / weirdos / psychos she's met. Laugh about it. It'll break the ice.

But do NOT discuss "real" relationships.

 

[Estate]

Re: Talking about past relationships on 1st date. good or ba

Bad idea on all accounts.

I know you guys love to come up with new and creative ways to seduce women but sometimes I feel guys just way over think it. There are SO many things to talk about on a first date, why make things harder on yourself? Just don't got there.
Even when it's positive... like when I guy talks about his ex-stripper girlfriend to DHV... an old MM tactic... I don't like it. Girls are not stupid, they will see right through it.