D_Smooth1900 said:
Actually I think its my energy level. I come off as to high energy and usually when I pick up on it its all ready to late. Before I was able to keep my energy at bay by smoking a cigarette. Now I kinda kick the habit and I only smoke when I drink. Is there a way that I can keep my energy under control?
Ppl with high energy lvl do tend to talk fast and too much. But that doesn't mean you can't seduce while talking fast and more often than what the staff of girlschase prompt their members to. It's just that the more you talk the more likely you'll be to screw up with:
1. Talking too fast and too much.
2. Thinking about of what next to say or saying stuff that's irrelevant of seduction.
3. You say something she doesn't like since the risk is higher when you talk much, at worst case you talk so much the woman gets annoyed that she can't get any kind of connection.
4. You'll come in with too high-energy. And at cases can't calibrate to their energy lvl.
5. You may give the presence of one who is trying too hard and too overjoyous when speaking with girls.
6. Spilling the beans (no intrigue) since you just want to be open and loosen your energy.
Advantages would be you're most likely on the move, not sitting doing silly "sniper game" or hoping for a horny girl to approach you, since you want to use that load of energy you got (and you become more of a risk taker, which is very good for learning). You won't be gloomy and have a happy vibe. You can easier laugh off rejections and you will care less when other ppl are gloomy as it hardly affects you. You may even bring energy to other ppl, which the low energy guys definetly won't.... But from my experience it's harder.
I used to be high energy and when I see one of my mates who don't know pu approach and talk with his high energy lvl I see all the mistakes I used to do when I was too high E. It was first when I met one through a pu community I saw how suave one could be of so little energy and immediately I went down in energy (I should say the guy from pu had a lot of the bad habits of ppl who're too low energy). But it took me months of 3-days a week night games to get to a decent energy lvl and then a couple more months to know what I wanted and it's still evolving.
You can definetly control your energy if: (but it takes time and you may want to experiment with it).
- You keep it in the back of your head none-stop
- You watch calmer dudes out there.
- Remember to ask questions and ask questions into those answers she gives while adding your own view. 99% of the time you want the girl to at least talk 60% of the time as they're getting much comfort of talking (it's no concidence they're called hens at times).
- Imagine smoking a joint slowly as you inhale then exhale and say "Yaa-man... Preeetty hiiiigh" in some fun dialect before approaching.
- Keep track of your "uhmmm"s, "ehhh" "ehmm" in general you want none of those. See a speech of obama who rarely has any and when he's about to he pauses like other fluent speakers do.
What I did was to see what I wanted. I did try to go the opposite way of H-E and become very calm but I entered some pit-falls with it and realized a mixture of both was what I liked when socializing/pu but some times depending on the situation I prefer to be
very calm when I sit on a chair and the girl is standing. On the dance floor it's more high energy.
And stop smoking.. It can kill you and gives you awful breath and kissing is even worse I hear (haven't kissed a smoker as I tend to avoid them even if they're hot).
