FR++ Tall Blonde Weed Girl

[RDawg]

Saturday night I had a date with a new girl that I had met last week at a Keg party. A quick low down, I was on my way out from the party and I saw a tall blonde girl sitting outside on the drive way with a friend. Me and my buddy approached both of the women and I quickly introduce myself to the tall blonde. I didn't get her # or anything but the next day she added on me on Facebook and messaged me. We made a little small talk and then I invited her to come out one night but she couldn't because she worked late. She ended up giving me her # on Facebook(I didn't even ask for it) and told me that she might go out Saturday night.

I reply and tell her to come over because I might have a mini party or pregame before we go out. She quickly agrees and tells me she is going to bring a friend. Anyways, Saturday comes along and her friends bails on her but she still wants to hangout with me. So I tell her to come over to my house later on in the night and that only me and her will hangout at my place and we can hot tub it or something. She agrees and ends up coming over at around 11:30PM. Weird thing here is she shows up high and she tells me she got high with her neighbor just before she came over. I found it kinda weird. But anyways we hangout side for a bit and then head downstairs into my house and I put a movie on. I offered her a drink like 5 times throughout the night and she declined everytime. After watching the movie for about 30 minutes, I grab her and start kissing her intensely. I try to finger her and rip her shirt off but she gives hard resistance. I stop for a bit and try again, and I keep doing this throughout the night but she keeps giving me hard resistance. She won't let me do anything besides makeout with her. It was getting little frustrating but I kept trying.

Anyways, 2AM comes around and she decides to head home and go to sleep. So she tells me that she will see me around soon. I ask her what plans she has for the week and she tells me she works Tuesday and Thursday. I ask to her hangout Wednesday and she agrees. I wasn't sure what I could of done different to bang her out? I felt like I was very persistent but maybe I could of tried harder??? I don't know? She was also high and acting a bit weird. Anyways she texted me the next morning apologizing for being so high and she felt like she may have acted stupid. I just told her to forget the weed and will drink alch next time. We texted and flirted a bit throughout the day. She said she loves my beard and that I was the first guy she kissed in a month (she recently broke up with her BF), blah, blah, etc. She is also constantly snapchatting me too. So we will see what happens this week. Good thing here is that this girl lives very close, literally about a 2 minute drive. So it seems like it will almost always be there. Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are here and if there is anything I could of done differently. And if there is anything I should do for next time? Below are some pros and cons I think of what I did.

Pros:
- Hangout on a Saturday Night at my place (shows she was very interested)
- Made a good first impression (She added me on FB and gave me her # without me even asking)
- Kiss closed but did experience lots of resistance
- Set up another date (Wednesday night)

Cons:
- No sex, experienced lots of resistance
- Probably wasn't persistent verbally enough?

 

[Chase]

RDawg-

One criticism here: it seems like you're using alcohol as a crutch to bed girls (or at least this girl); offering her a drink 5 times on one date and declining, for instance. A girl knows if you're offering her alcohol, you're doing it to try to get her drunk (typically), so if you're going to drink you might offer her something at the outset while you're making one for yourself ("I'm going to pour myself a Jack and Coke - you want a drink? Water, alcohol, juice, etc.?") and let her pick her beverage.

If you keep offering her alcohol, the message she gets is: "Hey, I don't think you'll sleep with me until I've impaired your judgment a bit - care to dose yourself with some alcohol?"

I find the superior message is: "Hey, I'm pretty sure you'll sleep with me even if all I give you is H2O, so... want some water?" and then just escalate on her regardless.

What happened to the hot tub idea? That's an easy one for getting clothes off. "Let's hop in the hot tub! Oh, you don't have a bathing suit? No problem..." then either both get in in your underwear, or (better) both get in naked. You'll have to feel her out to see what she's down for. A line like, "Well, we can strip down to our underwear, or... well, how adventurous are you?" and if she puts up resistance, just laugh and say, "Haha, all right, okay, underwear it is." If she comes back with something bold endorsing the naked hot tub idea, then you just go, "Well all right then... maximum enjoyment of hot tub bubbles and warm water with minimal restraint it is."

Weed's kind of a weird one. Maybe she was nervous about the date so was smoking to mellow herself out. Or maybe she's just a pothead. In guys it kind of kills sex drive a lot of the time, but it usually actually increases female desire for sex. It also makes you more sensitive to touch, so touch is a big one. If she's being resistant to clothes coming off, try and focus on touching her so much in so many different ways and so many different places that she can't help but become super turned on. You can also try telling her to take her clothes off once she's sufficiently turned on if she won't let YOU take her clothes off. "Take your shirt off... I want to touch your skin," for instance.

Chase

 

[RDawg]

Thanks for the the advice Chase!

Just to clarify when I mentioned, offering a drink, I did offer other beverages as well such as water but she refused everything. I figured she would want at least a water, since she had smoked weed before she came over. I understand, where you are coming with the whole alcohol thing. I'll keep that in mind for next time! The way I asked each time was like this:

Me: Do you want a drink? Beer, water or anything in particular?
Her: No I am fine
Me: Are you sure?
Her: Ya I am good. (these were the responses I kept getting, I guess she really didn't want anything but I don't think this is relevant at all to the actual seduction)

As far as the hot tub idea, we were sitting outside listening to some music and just talking a bit. I pointed at the hot tub and mentioned to her..

Me: Did you want to go in the hot tub?
Her: Mhmm.. I don't know. Not really.

Can't really remember what I said after this but looking back at it, what you mentioned Chase "let's hop in the hot tub" instead of "did you want to go in the hot tub?" Probably would of gotten a better response and persistence probably would of paid off here. Anyways, after I gotten that response "not really" I decided to scrap the idea and move things inside instead.

Ya the whole weed thing was a very odd experience for me. Never had something like that happened to me before. I did end up hanging out with this girl another night but same kind of thing happened. I was hoping you could analyze that situation and provide some additional feedback

If I do hangout with her again, (that being a third time) I will try focusing on touching her in different ways or trying tell her to take her clothes off.

Thanks again

- Rdawg