Teach me to get fucking ANGRY.

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Yah, you heard it right. Fucking teach me to get ANGRY. I'm not angry enough.

I've been forced to drink niceness from the society, most importantly.....from my family. They never actually taught me to stand for MYSELF, so i never did. All they ever taught me is to just bend down, kneel down. To never fight or stand up for my respect. And because of that i suffered, hell i suffered my whole fucking life.

I'm talking about standing for my respect. Nobody told me to, but i want to. I'm sick of having my life in somebody else's controll. I want to take control of my life.

I understand if you require more information about my life to help me. Let me know and i'll send you a PM about my situation.

I'm sick of bending down just because my family would not handle it.

 

[Richard]

What you're looking for isn't anger - you need to understand the difference between anger, tolerance, etc.

Anger is an unhealthy emotion and it signals to you that you're feeling powerless. Being pushed around, bending to other people, etc. all signal to you that you're powerless and the emotional response is anger and all anger does is narrow your focus and make you incredibly easy to manipulate. To quote Jackie Chan "When fighting angry, blind men... it's best to just stay out of the way" and the reason that is is because people who act out of anger tend to hurt themselves the most and you don't even need to fight.

What your parents taught you is to be tolerant; to put up with things you don't like to preserve harmony and not make waves with anybody. But, you are what you tolerate; whatever you decide to put up with is a reflection of your personal standards and you've already taken the first step in improving because you're deciding to improve your standards.

So, what you're looking for isn't anger. What you're looking for is how to stop being tolerant of the things you dislike and the simple answer is you define your personal boundaries and enforce them; have a clear understanding of what you won't put up with and then stick to it.

For me, one of my biggest things is people telling me how I should act, feel, or treat others; "You should help them because they're family," or "But she's your sister..." and I don't budge on how I think or rebuttal but I'm not angry when I do this either. There is a big difference between being angry and being serious/stern, between lashing out and upholding your personal values, etc.

Anyway, the two takeaways here are:

1) Anger is pointless. Angry people react and therefore are not in control of themselves and therefore cannot control whatever situation they are in. Lao Tzu wrote "The best fighter is never angry" and simultaneously wrote "To a mind that is still the whole universe surrenders."
2) Establish what your personal values are and uphold them and this is the first step to taking control of your life; by understanding what you do and do not want in your life.

P.S. I know that it's easy for me to say that anger is pointless because I've long since learned that fighting back and arguing while angry ensured that my point was never made and my self-respect was never shown so while you're starting to take control of your life you may very much so feel angry but getting away from anger is something you should actively work towards.

 

[Inbocca]

Richard is completely right. I used to be super angry and defensive, never got me any more respect or admiration from men or women. People just treat you like a psycho. Standing up for yourself from a place other than emotion is harder, but makes you look way more in control.

From the sound of your post, you're already angry. And it's not getting you anywhere. For some people anger can be a motivator, but not with complacency in the mix. Ditch them both and you'll make way more progress.

Best of luck.

 

[Drck]

"I've been forced to drink niceness from the society, most importantly.....from my family. They never actually taught me to stand for MYSELF, so i never did. All they ever taught me is to just bend down, kneel down. To never fight or stand up for my respect. And because of that i suffered, hell i suffered my whole fucking life."


I hear you, it is societal sickness of which most guys are suffering, including myself. Although the above guys are correct, I would chose totally different approach. Get angry, get pissed, learn to hate that Niceness-ness... Vent those emotions out, master them in stead of trying to suppress them or change them into something "valuable"...

No, I am not saying to become angry man, self-centered guy who hates women and everybody else around, who becomes angry at the whole World... Not at all, don't be a fool...

I'm saying master that emotion, master Anger - and use it in your benefit in today's society...

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* Read about Men, there are couple of good blogs out there, and mainly start DO-ing manly things...

* The best, start with Lifting weights. Lift fucking heavy, 200 pounds is not heavy nor is 300 pounds, you can do much more if you are healthy and in your 20's... Eat well... Get angry at the weight, learn proper techniques first, then lift it from the fucking ground - or just fucking die, if you can't lift at least 300 pounds off the ground you should not live...

* Add some Martial Arts. Learn some basic techniques, and then fight. Fuck the techniques, just fight and fight. The more you fight the better. Don't feel sorry for your enemy, give him a hard time, become angry at him, beat the shit out of him... Suffer the pain, the pain is good, the pain is the best teacher of yours, make the pain your best friend... It doesn't matter whether you win or lose in fight, what matters is that you fight... Fight and fight, get angry, either fight of just fucking already die... if you can't stand up to other man face to face, you shouldn't fucking live

* Read Red Pill. Get pissed because all you know is a lie, all you were thought is a lie. All the knowledge you have is garbage... You became a Slave of a System, you were conditioned to be compliant and weak Beta Bitch boy who is unable to resist anyone, who is unable to fight, unable to stand up to anyone... You were conditioned to supplicate to girls and women, to feel sorry for them, you were thought to work like a slave for them...

You were conditioned to worship women, to be that soft and nice compliant guy... and today brother, today as a result you are just fucking impotent Blue Pill Beta Bitch Male... That is the Bitter Truth, all you are is just feminine male, with no respect, no balls, no spine, no clue how to get women... You are just a fucking un-sexy joke that nobody cares about...

Let's accept the Truth as it is - today, your dick doesn't even rise when you see hot girl... You want her but you are too shy and always look away when she looks back at you... you start sweating before you approach her, and always thinking day and night how to trick her to a romantic friendship with you, how to make her fall in love with you (or the better fake version of you that you pretend to be) so you can be her lover for the rest of your life...

No, you don't want to fuck the shit out of her, you just want to love her, you want that soft and gentle love, that nice and cute feelings... giggly... You want to go shopping with her to the fucking mall, you want to be her compliant little puppy that jumps around for any bone she throws you, you want to buy her whatever the fuck she wants, and then carry her fucking gifts around so every other Beta Bitch can see how great and amazing Life you've got... Look how far you've gone, look how sweet and cute little bitch you've become... Be a Nice Boy...

And when you see her for the first time, you fucking worry what she thinks about you, you can't even fucking approach her, you are afraid to tell her that she makes you horny - that is what Weak Beta Bitch pussy you are... You blush when you talk to a girl who is 80 pounds lighter than you, because you are fucking afraid of her... You are afraid of what she thinks, or God forbid - what will she tell you, whether she will smile back at you, or reject you... Oh no, rejections hurt, please no rejections...

Congratufuckilation to you, to all of you! That is how fucking impotent you are, impotence is your fucking future... Keep fucking practicing approaches, ten thousands of them just to confirm your impotence!

And you are lazy as fuck, you were conditioned to live nice, safe, comfortable and easy fucking life... Soft Life that all Pussies love so much... Life of Modern Slaves... Work hard Slave, pay lots of taxes Slave, feel sorry for everybody else Slave, be a great consumer Slave, contribute to the great System Slave, follow ten thousand rules and rulers Slave, be a White Knight Slave, die comfortably in sickness in clean hospital bed Slave... That's right, you are just a fucking Slave, bending and looking sadly to the ground, unable to get rid of your fucking Chains...

Admit it, you just have no balls Slave, and when she wipes her shoes all over you, when she ignores your sorry ass, all you can do is to give her a nice smile, and say gently thank you babe... Then you go home and cry, cry and cry, and then you have to google what is Alpha male again, because those soft feelings of yours are just so hurt...

But we are no longer Boys, we are fucking Men! WTF even happened? What happened to Men? Fuck this Beta Bitch Shit societal Weakness once and forever! Be a fucking Man!

Real Men are dangerous. True Real Men fight, they struggle, they give others hard time, so hard that no one dares to fuck with them... That is what it means to be Respected Man... You never get Respect from anyone for free, you have to Earn it Yourself... No one fucks with man who has Respect, and no Man got his Respect for free, for doing shit while crying about it...

Real Men have balls, balls full of testosterone... Real Men get angry, they go after what they want with no mercy.... Real men don't need any fucking Blue Pills, real Men suppress their pain, real men sweat, real men avoid comfort and coziness. Real Men get what they want. Real Men follow only their own rules, they disobey all the rulers, the follow No One because they are Leaders and not Followers...

Real Man doesn't ask silly girl shy questions, he grabs her by her pussy instead, and tells her to suck his dick... Real men conquer, they hunt, they win... Real Men die in battle, they die in blood and pain while looking proudly in Death's eyes, laughing in her Fucking Face...

Those are True Fucking Real Men, but no longer such Men Exist on this Fucking Planet! Everybody is talking only about pussies, about how to please more and more pussies, about how to supplicate more to them, how to be nicer to them, how to seduce them more efficiently, how to worship them more and more - but nobody is talking about True Men! No one says one word about how to please a Man today! It is all about pussies, pussies are talking and learning about pussies, no one talks about Men! No one talks about what women should do to please her Men, no one says that Men should be pleased first! This Fucking Planet is nothing else than garbage, full of weakness and sorry ass Beta Bitch Males... All we have left today is cry fucking sorry ass baby-men, voting for Sanders and Clintons... That is how sick society is, everything is backwards today on this fucking Planet!

Get pissed at that weakness, Hate that fucking weakness, dissociate yourself from Beta Bitch Males... Become Rebel, Become a fucking Viking... become ruthless Warrior, become Savage, become Spartan, become a Wild Animal, become Blood thirsty Wolf... Hit all the supplicating Beta Sheep in face, have no mercy for weak, be disgusted with Beta Males... Let the weak ones die, don't help them, never feel sorry for them... Become Strong and Powerful Man, find your fucking spine and behave like Da Fucking Man!

That's what it is to master fucking anger. Be fucking angry, become a Master of Anger and conquer that Weakness...

Fight brother, stand Strong and Proud, kick your weakness in its teeth, kick it to the ground and never look back...

 

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Drck,

Your words, leaved me breathless, speechless.

That's what i was looking for, the harsh truth.
You know i used to be that ruthless when i was kid, always fighting whenever anyone tried to tool me or disrespect me in school. Had several complains got home about how i crushed a kids nose and he was bleeding non stop just because he was laughing at me.

But when i arrived in 5-6 standard, i got little soft and reserved. Didn't wanna fight cause i've seen the distruction i could do. And to be honest from that's where i started to suffer, and still suffering.

Seriously, don't do any mercy on me. Cause i've been doing it on other weak guys and it only make them more weak.

I hate the weak now. Even if its me. Time to undone weakness.

 

[.....]

Richard,

I'm getting what you are trying to say and i think i have the rough idea what's really happening when i'm trying to make a point about my standards angrily. Yeah the point was never really made.

From the inside, i have this feeling of hate and a huge anger that i don't show even when i want to when i'm forced to do something i'd never want to do.

Yeah, i'm getting it that i should make my standards.

But let me tell you something, to be honest........whenever i'm forced to do something by my family that i don't wanna do....i somehow do it. But still it feels like i'm faking it, like this is not me.......i'd have never done that no matter what. And that's where i start to lose my respect in my own eyes. And feel sorry for myself.

And i keep feeling that i'm fake. That i have to live the way i don't wanna. Like how i hate anyone shouting on me, but still have to just leasten just because they are my parents and everybody told me to not argue with your parents.

Let me be more honest with you, whenever i'm forced to do something i dont wanna do or forced to live the way i fucking hate......i feel so pathetic like i've been raped or something. I do know my standards.

But i know if i tried to make it clear its only gonna end in me leaving the home. Cause i don't like what i don't like.