Telling a Girl You Have a STD
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The good news on genital warts is that they're caused by HPV, and the body normally clears itself of HPV (reduces viral load down to undetectable levels) within a year or two... I forget the exact numbers, but it's something around 75% or 80% of people cleared in a year or less, and 90% or 95% cleared in two.
Something around 90% of sexually active individuals in the West will contract one strain of HPV or another somewhere in their lifetimes. The low risk (low cancer risk) come with warts; the high risk (high cancer risk) do not.
Meantime, you can reduce the risk of transmission by lubing up with a lubricant with carageenan in it. Condoms only cut your risk of skin-transmitted STDs (herpes, HPV, etc.) by about 70%. Carageenan does a much better job of preventing skin transmission (though you still need a condom for avoiding fluid-based STDs).
For telling partners: I'd suggest the next time you see a girl, hang out and eat with her and whatnot and, ideally, wait until she tries to initiate sex, then tell her to hold off, and say:
Basically, just let her know the deal; let her know it clears, and it isn't permanent - it's mainly cosmetic, and sort of ugly for a while if you get it, and it eventually clears on its own in healthy people usually. But leave it up to her to decide if she wants to keep seeing you, and give her time to think about it - don't force her to decide then and there. Some girls will probably tell you it's fine and they're not worried about it; some might seem concerned, and ask some questions, then decide it's fine; others may seem concerned, ask some questions, and take you up on having a think about it, then either let you know later they think it's okay, or let you know later they're really sorry but they can't see you anymore / have decided to get more serious about their romance / sex lives, etc.
Anyway, sorry to hear about the warts, but worse things they could be, and the infection normally clears on its own in time. Hope things go okay with your girls.
Chase
The good news on genital warts is that they're caused by HPV, and the body normally clears itself of HPV (reduces viral load down to undetectable levels) within a year or two... I forget the exact numbers, but it's something around 75% or 80% of people cleared in a year or less, and 90% or 95% cleared in two.
Something around 90% of sexually active individuals in the West will contract one strain of HPV or another somewhere in their lifetimes. The low risk (low cancer risk) come with warts; the high risk (high cancer risk) do not.
Meantime, you can reduce the risk of transmission by lubing up with a lubricant with carageenan in it. Condoms only cut your risk of skin-transmitted STDs (herpes, HPV, etc.) by about 70%. Carageenan does a much better job of preventing skin transmission (though you still need a condom for avoiding fluid-based STDs).
For telling partners: I'd suggest the next time you see a girl, hang out and eat with her and whatnot and, ideally, wait until she tries to initiate sex, then tell her to hold off, and say:
Basically, just let her know the deal; let her know it clears, and it isn't permanent - it's mainly cosmetic, and sort of ugly for a while if you get it, and it eventually clears on its own in healthy people usually. But leave it up to her to decide if she wants to keep seeing you, and give her time to think about it - don't force her to decide then and there. Some girls will probably tell you it's fine and they're not worried about it; some might seem concerned, and ask some questions, then decide it's fine; others may seem concerned, ask some questions, and take you up on having a think about it, then either let you know later they think it's okay, or let you know later they're really sorry but they can't see you anymore / have decided to get more serious about their romance / sex lives, etc.
Anyway, sorry to hear about the warts, but worse things they could be, and the infection normally clears on its own in time. Hope things go okay with your girls.
Chase