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Adam101

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I wanted to type up a FR report on this one cause as a beginner I feel like I showed some commendable seductive dexterity. However due to time constraints I can't get into details but I was hoping I could perhaps get some speedy advice.

So Friday night I got approached by a woman based purely on my fundamentals and we hit it off big time. Both the emotional and physical connection was there. But due to an orbiter and a roommate (guy) keeping tabs on us I was unable to really escalate. To give ya'll a brief idea this girl was leading me off to her bathroom to smell different fragrances off of her neck. But since an orbiter was already trying to get physical with her (managed to pull her away from the guy) I didn't wanna slot myself in a similar position plus like I said...roommate was never too far behind.

I got her number and tried setting up a date for the following day (pretty close to an insta-date) but she doesn't text me until early evening saying she's busy at the moment but suggested Sunday being a possibility. Wasn't able to text her till midnight and while I acknowledged it being late I attempted to cement a time on Sunday. Haven't heard back since.

Now...I want to text her today to try and set up a date this week. My thinking being that this would show interest, assertiveness, and an attempt to keep the good memories / attraction window alive. Plus last time I tried playing waiting games with texts the end results were not favorable. So could I send a text today without coming off as needy? The chemistry was insanely high and the girl...outside of not quick responses...showed no signs of even being lukewarm.

Some are saying I should give it a few days to show an air of mystery...but this goes against move fast and I feel if I don't keep myself in this girl's mind then the attraction will expire. Anyway...I trust the sage advice of the fellow members here and would appreciate any that can be given. Although I will say I have resolved to text her later today unless someone gives alternative advice. Thanks!
 

Adam101

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Update: A little while after my initial post I decided to go ahead and text her. I recalled how much fun the night was, complimented her in a way to communicate "you're special and unique" and then tried to set a date for the week assuming I would get a yes by making the suggestion and then asking about her schedule. No reply.

Between not wanting to give up and the weekly readings here I decided to text again this morning. This time it was super short; just a greeting followed by asking her about a book she mentioned. My thought process is A. Ignore / don't acknowledge the rejection B. Recall something off-hand in the night she mentioned to show I'm a guy who not only listens but is interested and C. Maybe going for the meet-up so quickly came off strongly so dial it back to chat mode to build rapport and warmth for a meet up. No response yet but it's still early.


I'm kinda worried I have a flake on my hands, which is something I get a lot of. It's really frustrating though because our chemistry was through the roof and her investment in me was high by way of touching. The only reason I couldn't escalate was because of logistics. Anyway I don't know what I could of done or what could of happened to make her go cold and I'm concerned cause I liked the girl a lot but know with each passing day my value as an attractive male diminishes.

So my question/s is there anything I can do to salvage this / maximize my chances for a response or a lil back and forth from her? Some have suggested I should / should of called. But I thought that might be too forward / needy. Is it an option though? Like I said I can't think of why this girl would give me the silent treatment since she was so warm to me other than girls just being frustratingly fickle by nature. In any case I would greatly appreciate any and all advice with how to proceed with this girl. And for the record this isn't stopping me from going out and trying to meet more girls, I just really dug this one and thought something was there. Thanks everyone!
 
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