Texting breakdown - How can i attract this milf

[imperialism]

Djs, i’m like 90% assured this milf be entertaining other. Idc, i wanna hit. And i’m saying this so that somebody tell me of a way where i can lock this milf down where she become an exclusive FWB

Background info; went out twice with this milf, alot of kissing not yet fuckin, we plannin to once she is back. She asked me a while ago to text her more frequently but i feel that doing that would kill any attraction whatsoever. 1. Do i text her more often?
2. What can i do so that she becomes an exclusive fwb for me? 3. Last text i sent got simply a heart-reaction on the i miss your face and she didn’t even send a voice note so a bit fucked up. I’m gonna ignore her for a week, and then resend a text or should wait for her to reinitiate contact again?

Here are the latest texts:
Me: Do you know how i know that you have good taste?
Her:
Me: Because you are speaking to me
Her: Yea
Me:
Her:
Me: I want you to check your work schedule
Her: It's still early, he'll be out by the end of next week
Her: I know
Her:
Her:
Me: Because on the same weekend you’re back i want to take you out, we go for a few drinks, and then i want take you back home and fuck you all night long
Me: Night and morning
Me: You say its hard work by albert heijn? You will work harder here
Me: I will fix your back for you
Her:
Me : Send me a message then tell me when you don’t have to work so i don’t plan something else
Her: Ok

After 1 week

Her : hi, I will be working from 26 to 29.10
Her: next week from October 30th not yet known
Her:
Me: Do you always work the same days or does it change every time?
Her: It changes often, but when I get there I want to talk about a permanent schedule
Me: That’s better
Me: Because i miss your face
Me: Say in a voice note “here is energy”

 

[orkie123]

You've given her full control of the situation with your texts.

- Stop texting directly about sex. Especially before you've slept with a girl a couple of times. Subtle innuendos can be ok if the girl is in to it but don't let them become the focus of texting. There are some guys who can do sexual texting well but usually only on dating apps where their profile is super tailored to dtf girls.

- match her energy and investment most of the time. There are times early on when you may need to give a bit more but the important thing is that you lead. Telling her you miss her when she hasnt given you any reason to reward her as such is going to make her think you are needy/clingy.

Your next steps are more or less what u said while followng skill's soft close format.

Ping her around the 31st - 1st nov
- short ping based on halloween or something.
- banter
- soft close

If she avoids the question or says she is busy again, I would put the ball into her court with "ok let me know when you are free" and then move on with your life.

 

[imperialism]

You've given her full control of the situation with your texts.

- Stop texting directly about sex. Especially before you've slept with a girl a couple of times. Subtle innuendos can be ok if the girl is in to it but don't let them become the focus of texting. There are some guys who can do sexual texting well but usually only on dating apps where their profile is super tailored to dtf girls.

- match her energy and investment most of the time. There are times early on when you may need to give a bit more but the important thing is that you lead. Telling her you miss her when she hasnt given you any reason to reward her as such is going to make her think you are needy/clingy.

Your next steps are more or less what u said while followng skill's soft close format.

Ping her around the 31st - 1st nov
- short ping based on halloween or something.
- banter
- soft close

If she avoids the question or says she is busy again, I would put the ball into her court with "ok let me know when you are free" and then move on with your life.

Bro what is soft close? How’d you advice me on banter?

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

It's chase behavior

Just ping her every now and then ----> light banter -----> ask her out

If she says no, wait a couple days, then try again

give up whenever you think it's not worth the effort, but don't broadcast how badly you want to see her, you sound needy by your texts that's why I called it chasing behavior.

And just think abt investment levels: you two have never fucked, only met twice, should you really be saying "because I miss your face", that's too much for having never fucked

I think I known what happened bc this has happened to me before:

I text a girl every day for over a week and then I start getting way too attached for having only gone on a couple dates w her, once your attached it takes a lot of discipline to not show it and try to detach yourself

best bet is to just prevent yourself from getting attached in the first place

an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure

Now, I shut off the "tryna fuck switch" after I've gotten her number, finished the date, basically whenever we close the contact to move on with our lives, I just do just that, I don't think about her, I deal with the texting part in passing and go back to what I'm doing

You want to stop yourself whenever you start fantasizing and reality test it 'okay we've only gone on one date so this fantasy isn't real"

Just wondering how much of this applies to you, I'm assuming you guys text often?

 

[Skills]

i don't get it, she agree to sex, this post makes not sense... You need to sort out logistics...

to keep her as fwd you have to have sex with her first, and that has to happen ideally multiple times more than 3...

The opener was good (going to steal it), then you ask for sex, not ideal, but maybe you were confident she was highly invested in you for you to use this approach... This approach of asking directly for sex will not work with girls that are not that invested... and in some cases even if they are may cause flakiness... (directly asking for sex like that, mode 1 stuff)...

But it seems in this case it works i suspects she really likes you a lots (or in her eyes you are higher value)... But i don't recommend this type of approach in the future (the direct sexual asking that is)...